Why are girls so naive that they don't realize guys don’t want to be just friends?

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Answer 1

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I have a guy friend who I suspected looong time he was flirting with me and when I finally flirted back he got mad "why would you flirt with me? We are just friends" so ye... this is why. Some guys want to bw just friends but act flirty because that s their personality, others don t act flirty but want a relationship... and so on... It is confusing so... we keep it simple :) it is a flirt and wanting more than friendship only if the guy says it and nothing more.

Oh also... I also have some gay friends who came out recently... until then they were straight for me but only friends... they still are only friends but I just never suspected them wanting more

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Smoke-n-Growls | 185 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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We're not naive. We know you don't just want to be friends - but we just want to be friends.

I suppose one could also ask "why are guys so naive and realize girls don't always want a boyfriend?".

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MannMitAntworten

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Some of us desire nothing more than “just” friends. Even at times that is a stretch and those end up forever in the “acquaintance zone”.

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MannMitAntworten

Some of us desire nothing more than “just” friends. Even at times that is a stretch and those end up forever in the “acquaintance zone”.

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Kiss_Me | 123 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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I think is more that most guys have no game. If you don't let her know up front you are attracted to and want to ask for a date, that is on YOU. I have seen where its important to get physical quickly. No, don't grab the girls boob or anything stupid. However, a hand hold or brushing her hair behind her ear can be very effective.
As in all things... timing and presentation is key. Do it wrong, your that creepy guy. Do it right, its golden.
I say this a lot... Dating is a skill. Practice and become better at it.

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bulletbob555 | 172 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Don't be naive and think it means friend zone forever. Although it may, often it can be anything from giving it time to get to know you. Could be until there is a change either in your or her life. It can even be till he'll freezes over you just have to take that chance. If you are willing to ave a relationship you should like the person enough to be their friend

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Hazelstar99

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It happened to me one time that a guy friend of mine would tell me I am his friend but would act more than as friends. No other guy would come to talk to me in class because he wouldn't leave me alone and if I talk to someone he would not let me talk and tell that they are bad people. I always asked him why he is so overprotective about me. He replied I am his best friend. He wasn't my best friend but I didn't tell him. This got me really irritated and I stopped talking to him and blocked him after a year. Then unblocked him we started to talk again. He told me few months back that he wants to marry me in future and we're compatible. I felt like he was kidding. But no shit! He wasn't. I still made him clear I am his friend and I don't want to talk about future. The thing is don't confuse your romantic feelings with friendship. It just ruins things. We talk sometimes because I don't want to talk more after listening to that.

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Starlight_Whimsy

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It’s a lot about fear. I know my boyfriend and I were saying we were “just friends” (*cough* with benefits *cough cough*) for the first 2 1/2 months of our relationship because he wasn’t ready to talk about it and I was afraid of pushing him. The ENTIRE time though I was convinced he didn’t want us to be anything more. Turns out I was very wrong.

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silvermoon84 | 80 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

Yoda

Because certain guys can’t be “just friends” with women. That doesn’t apply to all guys and we know that. I know plenty of guys who are not looking for anything serious per se but are still happy to have a platonic female friend and I’ve been friend zoned myself so I know there are still lots of guys who are fine having platonic female friends. I think @MannMitAntworten said it best 😊

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MannMitAntworten

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First time I was mentioned in a post. Caught me off guard for a moment. Thanks for the support.
silvermoon84

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@MannMitAntworten you’re welcome 😊

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MannMitAntworten

First time I was mentioned in a post. Caught me off guard for a moment. Thanks for the support.

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silvermoon84

@MannMitAntworten you’re welcome 😊

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Dali-chan

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Cause girls were raised to be nice and people pleaser, so unlike men they don’t have the nerve to ignore a person from the opposite gender just because she’s not attracted to him by telling him to fuck off as much as men do with women they don’t find attractive, if they didn’t fuckzoned them.

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Hawner | 81 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Because that is not true. I have female friends and I don't want to be anything more with them. Men that only want sex from women are the ones doing wrong.

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Asker

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You’re lying. They probably aren’t attracted to you. I guarantee if given the opportunity you would fuck
Hawner

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No, I wouldn't.
Don't act like you know me better than I do. You are very wrong.
Asker

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Okay I know you’re lying so im done here.
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Hawner

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Sure you know. You can read minds of people. Either that or you are omniscient like God.
CallMeDave

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I agree with Hawner. I have female friends that I'm not interested in sleeping with. And I've had women that I'm pretty sure would have slept with me, but I didn't take advantage of that opportunity. I see women as people first, and only a subset of them as potential sex partners. It's entirely possible to have a good and rewarding relationship with a woman that doesn't involve sex. I know that because I've done it.
Asker

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@CallMeDave okay

Answer 13

Asker

You’re lying. They probably aren’t attracted to you. I guarantee if given the opportunity you would fuck

Answer 14

Hawner

No, I wouldn't.
Don't act like you know me better than I do. You are very wrong.

Answer 15

Asker

Okay I know you’re lying so im done here.

Answer 16

Hawner

Sure you know. You can read minds of people. Either that or you are omniscient like God.

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CallMeDave

I agree with Hawner. I have female friends that I'm not interested in sleeping with. And I've had women that I'm pretty sure would have slept with me, but I didn't take advantage of that opportunity. I see women as people first, and only a subset of them as potential sex partners. It's entirely possible to have a good and rewarding relationship with a woman that doesn't involve sex. I know that because I've done it.

Answer 18

Asker

@CallMeDave okay

Answer 19

Hangry22

Guru

That's what you friendzoned guys feel since you can't take the hint the girl is never gonna be interesed in you but still linger around and force us into friendzoning you.

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Squirts93 | 56 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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You suck at effectively communicating your intentions.

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Anonymous

They are just in the other side of that, meaning they just want to be friends. It’s weird but they will actively complain that guys aren’t interested in just being friends like that and they won’t understand at all.

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GlitterFairy16

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If so why have i been friend zoned by more than one guy in my lifetime

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Asker

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Because they aren’t attracted to you
PerkyPython

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Girl don't listen to @asker. You're very young and good guys who like you for you will come up in the future 💕 Stay Safe!
GlitterFairy16

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@PerkyPython it's okay i have a boyfriend already
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GlitterFairy16

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@Asker why would they bother being my friend then? If you say men don't want to be are friends.

Answer 23

Asker

Because they aren’t attracted to you

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PerkyPython

Girl don't listen to @asker. You're very young and good guys who like you for you will come up in the future 💕 Stay Safe!

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GlitterFairy16

@PerkyPython it's okay i have a boyfriend already

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GlitterFairy16

@Asker why would they bother being my friend then? If you say men don't want to be are friends.

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NativeAlaskan | 60 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Be her friend, and pipe down her other friends. You gotta learn how to hunt my friend. Don’t shoot the first deer you see, wait if it takes you to a place where there’s more deer.

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Answer 28

Anonymous

I have several guy friends that I’ve known since high school (10 years) and nothing has happened, nor am I attracted to any of them. Plus, I’m currently obese, but they all knew me when I was at a healthy weight, but they’re still sticking around being friends with me. I think guys and girls can be just friends. I don’t think that intention is always there.

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Dali-chan

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Men can fuck anything ya know? Act like you wanna have sex with one of them and let’s see their reaction lmao

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Dali-chan

Men can fuck anything ya know? Act like you wanna have sex with one of them and let’s see their reaction lmao

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JaneDoe377

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I've had many guy friends who only wanted to be friends.

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Liam_Hayden

Guru

Why is it the girl's problem that the guy is not straight forward?

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Alyssa11

Yoda

Because we can actually be friends with the opposite gender and love them as a friend/brother purely! So it's hard to believe that guys can't lol!

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Aiko_E_Lara | 1.1K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Same reason why guys are so naive that they don't realize girls don’t want to be just friends.

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MannMitAntworten | 1.4K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Perhaps it is because not all men have a desire to date/sleep with every woman we happen across so being “just friends” makes sense.

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Tonita91996

Explorer

We think that the guy is going to change their mind.

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Acidgamer

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Wish I knew. I got a best friend and I want to marry her XD. But she won't tell me if she likes me like that lol

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evangeline777

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Tell that to the guy who explicitly said he wanted to be friends only. And no, I'm not fat and ugly.

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MannMitAntworten

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I do the same at rimes and they are neither fat nor ugly either. Looks are not the be all end all for wanting to date or get laid... or both.

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MannMitAntworten

I do the same at rimes and they are neither fat nor ugly either. Looks are not the be all end all for wanting to date or get laid... or both.

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VanJulian

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Bruh its never just friends. At least not for me always benefits.

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