Why do some guys pretend to be friends with girls?

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Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well many reasons why a man would pretend to be friends with someone including girls. Number one is desperation for sex…

This is very different then a friendship where there is genuine romantic feelings of wanting something more. This is simply wanting to have girls around to be able to sleep with for their own gratification. Even if these men aren’t getting any, some are desperate enough to keep trying. Unfortunately, faking a friendship.

Another common reason if it isn’t for sex or in addition to sex. It can be for supply basically they’re being validated by keeping girls around them. Feeding their ego and being able to show off to others that “look at me I got all these girls around me” and there are women who do the same.

It can be in addition to as well but if it’s not for sexual reasons at all or for supply as in being seen with girls. The same reasons people fake any friendships. Number one, just cowards. They’re too scared to just tell you how they really feel around you. Wanting to get through you to get to someone else… Such as another girl maybe you’re friends with or something. For things if a girl has money or status beint around her to get favors pretty much. Using people as fake friends do.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Because they want pussy... that's the blunt short answer.

The long answer tells you why they're too much of a pussy to just ask for pussy instead of pretending to be a friend. The long answer also delves into the fact that these women like the attention so much that they'll allow this unwarranted attention despite knowing full well why that guy is willing to be her emotional tampon and listen to all her stupid mother fucking problems.

Once again it's just another case of the male and female exchange of sexual desire (males) and attention seeking (females). Just take the short answer so I don't have to give you a bunch of my jaded reasons as to why this is.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

They have a fear of rejection and believe that if they can be accepted platonically then they can “work their way” to being accepted romantically, like working your way up to a promotion at a job. Obviously it’s not that simple, but men are very simple creatures and like simple solutions before complex ones.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Some guys don't want to be without you so they accept a friendship space in your life.

Friendship keeps you in their orbit and him in yours.

But watch for "cockblocking" bc the guy friends will get jealous and crazy about any sort of attention you show other guys.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I would say sex is a lead motivator but it’s kind of a contradiction cause if he is “friend zoned” then perhaps that’s suddenly off the table.
I’ve never pretended to be friends with a girl , but not had many great friends that are women either , they generally tend to be great working colleagues for me. My answer to why would just be simply to benefit in all the ways that a friend of that girl might , so perhaps to open doors to friends of hers? … think of the male cheerleader strategy.. deviously good 😜

Anonymous · Answer

To sleep w them. I won’t say all men do this, but there are a number of men who pretend to be a girl’s friend simply for that reason. But even then I think both are using each other. Male likes female. She doesn’t like him that way so she throws him in the friend zone but still extracts things from him. On the other hand he’s feigning to be her friend in hopes that maybe she will slip and fall on his d*ck one day. He’s thinking maybe she will see what a great man he is one day then she will go out w him. You know like a Hallmark movie. Only this Hallmark movie comes with 2 or more kids after her baby’s daddy plowed the nanny by the Christmas tree. Now after all these years she realizes what a good man her friend is. The end lol but yes that happens a lot. He may want a real relationship or just to smash that ass.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

The larger question is: why are some guys (and girls) dishonest in relationships? The answer is: it doesn’t matter why they are liars. You can’t understand them and you can’t change them; all you need to know is how to recognize them and how to run away from them.

MrOracle · Answer

In most cases, it's because they are idiots (or just incredibly naive and inexperienced) and hope that being around her more, and "being there" for her, will eventually convince her that he's a guy who is good enough to date (or have sex with). In practice, this happens less often than Hailey's Comet comes around.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Sometimes it's because they're hoping that a deeper connection will develop. Other times, it's because the guy genuinely doesn't know what he wants and settles for a friendship because something is better than nothing.

Finally, you can never forget that sometimes things just change. The guy went into the friendship with genuine intentions and something about his life or the dynamic changed how he perceived the lady in question.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Some guys are being friendly for real, but the ones that are pretending are doing it to have sex with them

Kayla45 · Answer

If they’re not interested in friendship then there’s typically one other thing that would be a motive for them to continue being friendly, and that’s typically sex.

spartan55 · Answer

To get laid... duh... no guy wants to be your friend.

Ironco · Answer

I try to be friends with most everyone, see where things go. If things don't work out that's just the way that situation went.

Just keep trying to be happy and friendly.

Not sure if I answered your question or not.

genericname85 · Answer

sometimes you do that cause you're too cowardly to ask her out and risk getting rejected. so you still like her but you're in that weird phase where you think you can long term be ok with just being friends which you absolutely won't.

integrale77 · Answer

Maybe there hoping to get a foot in the door then use that to lead to more😉

Shiprex · Answer

Sometimes girls tell good jokes or have amusing outlooks on life. They can't do comedy well but some are pretty smart at observing the world in an amusing way

molonski2 · Answer

Yeah basically they hope to get into their pants , stupid concept 5 % chance.

leahzrc · Answer

These replies from men are just gross bc if you sleep with me and don't want to be my friend, there will be worldly consequences

Nikki1989 · Answer

I will put this in the “things that never happen” file.

MJVillarama · Answer

Sometimes it’s just about enjoying the friendship, but yeah, other times guys might have extra intentions. It really depends on the person and the vibe!

Dennisjf12 · Answer

Because there hoping that if she starts to like him she will let him have sex with her & hopefully turn it into a longer relationship with him. Dennis

Cuminginside · Answer

It's obvious replication theory In other words to cum inside. Hey I'm just saying what everybody else is thinking

ohsheeT · Answer

This one I've never heard of. If im a friend i will be a friend until the end or you say good bye

WhiteThought · Answer

because they want to have sex with them. Men don't have anything to gain from being friends with women, usually.

jshm2 · Answer

Usually it will be white knighting, in the hope of getting a crumb of coochie.

beenherebefore · Answer

They're secretly hoping to get a bit more than just friendship.

linka_pat307 · Answer

For friendship and to know them.. Or even social capital

lucas262 · Answer

I dont even bother, I already know not to be , friends, I dont want to be her , friend, tho id be friendly towards her.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Because they may want to be more than friends with them

es20490446e · Answer

That I'm open to something more doesn't mean I'm not okay with just being friends.

Anonymous · Answer

If they are not attracted to a girl, then they are not pretending, they really can be her friends. If they like a girl, they are usually friend-zoned.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason that a lot of women pretend to be attracted to men. You're gender has your games, our gender has ours.

Anonymous · Answer

so they can eventually get into your pants.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Because girls dont sleep with guys that really care about them, and are their friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Pretend to be friends with a girl in what way?

BadApple69 · Answer

The answer is obvious. To get in the girls pants.

ItsJill · Answer

Usually they have other goals.

Bricealan · Answer

How does someone pretend to be a friend?

exitseven · Answer

They think they will get in their pants.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

How can you tell they are pretending?

Seangreen · Answer

they think that will help them get the pum pum

Wise4myage · Answer

It can give guys a lot of self confidence.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I am friends with women.

In_Trance · Answer

Guys never want to be friends. Ever

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's just a form of lead generation.

stayorgo · Answer

Well isn't it the obvious. To bone and groan

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

To get p***y !!!

Hulk30 · Answer

they feel to insecure to be transparent

FenixG45 · Answer

I DON'T pretend! I have no idea!

Anonymous · Answer

To eventually date them and get laid

guyinterested · Answer

they want to have sex with them

MysticDevice · Answer

I never pretended.

jahaims · Answer

Obvious answer

dudeinohio · Answer

To sleep with her

panera · Answer

Sex.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

To get laid

MasterKS · Answer

To get a free sex.

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