I hate guys that say sh*t like girls always go for the bad guy type
If you have enough about you, enough confidence in yourself these things aren't even a barrier.
The most common misconception is that because a guy is
nice
quiet
shy
thoughtful
sensitive
and can sit through marathons of sex in the city that girls should be flocking to them. They get annoyed about the so called bad, jerk guy who constantly beats them to the punch. However its more a matter of the confidence these people have which is the real factor of what draws hate from the nice guys. The jerk or bad guy has confidence in abundance, in himself, in his personality and in his goal to be able to capture what he wants.
Guys need to understand that however sophisticated the 21st century is the attraction with men and woman is simplistic as it is in the jungle.
Guys need to stop pitying themselves, nothing worse than seeing a question on here with some guy complaining about how he constantly gets knocked back or keeps losing out to the bad boy...I meaning moaning because you got beat to a girl by another guy is probably exactly the reason why that kinda thing repeatedly happens to those individuals. Instead of moving forward they just sit their and cry because the world isn't fair.
strong survive, that's the reality of this world
Best answer.
the death note following on here is something I'm very proud of lol
I agree. I wrote something similar.
So many people on this site are concerned with "bad boys". Who cares. Be a good guy and get the girl. It's really pretty easy. Can "good guys" not be charming? I don't think anyone realizes that yes they can and do. Instead of constantly bitching about all these "bad boys" get the girls! Get some. I'm really tired of reading about people's theories and justifications on why women like a certain type of man. It's not true 90% of the time. Have confidence. This is not a "bad boy" trait. It's universal and anyone can have it if they want.
I reality, being a so called "player" has its drawbacks. The smart girls see right through it. It doesn't matter how charming a man is, lots of women can see if he's just after sex. Players actually get turned down a lot more than people give them credit for. However it's about quantity and not quality for them.
your right just go and smile and say hi as soon as she/they look at you. It's not about being anything but yourself and if you click you do. So many don't so many do. Don't be nothing. Just jump on every oportunity every right body language they show and be yourself. The hotest thing is you and her excited being next to each other. Games? Your all dumb asses...
My boyfriend is the definition of a nice guy. He brings me home flowers for no reason. He cooks me dinner when I work late. He stays up late and talks to me about anything and everything. He does anything in his power to solve my problems and make me happy.
He has his jerk moments, of course, but I have my bitch moments too. But as everyone tells me, he's the sweetest guy.
You're a very lucky girl then :)
there's some guys who say they are 'nice guys' but they really are not nice guys.
one guy I went out with said if I didn't have sex with him in the first week, he'd dump me; that guy called himself a 'nice guy'. he isn't, he's just a piece of sh*t.
nice guys are rare.
LOL even though my ex-boyfriend Dumped me 3x in just a month due to shallow reason"Im too good for him and no time for me" still I choose B because at times he's nice at times acts really weird lol... but can't deny I still have feelings for him :))
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Here is the perfect answer for all you ladies. A good man will treat you good but will not let you walk all over him. If you try to take advantage of his good will he will tell you that it ain't write. Then we can argue about it or you can see where you were wrong. Just like when we "get the girl" you want a little challenge. If once in the relationship they let you walk on him then there is no challenge and that's where the nice guys lose. Sometimes a man's gotta grab his package and say "this is how its gunna be. So its not that jerks get the girl its that winney little men don't get the girl and then say only jerks get the girl cause they are weak. Nuff said!
lol
Good answer. :-)
while girls might prefer a nice guy, they notice and they are attracted to strong, confident, assertive, dominant guys who often treat women and less masculine guys like trash.
This is the pretty much the definition of being masculine. (look it up if you don't believe me)
The fact that the asker chose Light_Yagami's answer as the best answer says to me that she is attracted to masculine guys and can't help it. I'd hazzad a guess that she's been involved with a jerk before
Also in the poll I'd say that a fairly sizable portion of the girls are kidding themselves in to thinking their Boyfriend is a nice guy.
I believe all guys have an innate sense of being both. How we express it, on the other hand, is entirely different. Even many guys who are players are that way as a result of having tried a serious relationship at one point, and the girl losing his trust. I know many guys (though I don't approve of their actions) that seemed they were genuine enough to commit and be nice, but the girl tore them apart and the guy resented it and stopped caring about "nice-ness"
I myself consider myself a nice guy with jerk-like tenancies; however, I joke around and any time I say something "mean" its out of fun and I never cross the lines or intend harm. She calls me a jerk every so often (out of good fun), but I can't help but smile when she does :)
I'm the same way. She still absolutely thinks I'm a great guy. It makes her laugh. But you're right. We're not all completely nice or completely mean.
There have really only been 2 nice guys in my life. One would be my best friend & the other would be the guy I'm with. They're both great guys. Nice guys are sometimes hard to come by. Most of the guys I went to school with were jerks or major tools. I'm lucky to have such a nice guy to love me =)
C, he was definitely a jerk. A wolf in sheep's clothing.
Yeah I've gotten burned by one of those too...
Hartmut said what I was thinking...
"No matter how d***ish a guy acts towards his girlfriend, if she's still with him, then she's not gonna say that he's a jerk. Otherwise, she'd have left already."
So for people who voted "B: 50/50", their situations are more likely to appear to be '25% nice, 75% not nice' to the outside observer.
Although I would love to say that my boyfriend is a nice guy, he isn't. Never romantic, never gives compliments. He's kinda just there. And when he's not just there, he's a mean person. Sad story. But I think guys who are not "nice" guys are the ones that girls go for, because we feel like we haven't completely won them over yet. Nice guys seem to be all in, which can scare me away (ha). Just my opinion.
I do'nt know what to vote...
he used to be a jerk until we started dating.
and for anyone out there who's gonna be all like "he's playing you" or lying to you or whatever, I used to be a bitch until I met him.
Some people are just worth changing for!
Women miss the point here. Assholes and jerks aren't mean to women's faces. They cheat on their girlfriends and rarely get caught, and are disrespectful to all women behind their backs. They are perfectly good at being two-faced and acting charming in front of women, in order to get them to have sex more quickly.
True players and assholes rarely date a woman for more than a few months tops. The women that do knowingly prefer these kinds of men prefer to have sex with them, but not to date them. But I will contend women do like assholes.
Because assholes don't care what anyone thinks about them, because they don't care about other people at all. Which is a definition of confidence.
Many guys don't even bother pretending to be nice anymore because they don't see the point. ShootingStar5 is trying to show this community of men that women really do care about how nice you are. She is trying to give guys out there a reason to be nice.
I think that many men don't have any idea of how to be a "good" man. Many turn selfishness into a value system. They throw their lives away and for what?
So you're saying that guys who are assholes to his girl's face isn't a real asshole? lol Sure you're talking about a certain type of asshole, but there are still some guys out there who will be an outright jerk to their girlfriend. And there are girls who will stay with them.
Also, that's not confidence, that's arrogance. Confidence is simply believing in yourself, it has nothing to do with other people.
Sedwar gets it! Thanks lol It wasn't my intention to try to get guys to be nicer though, not that I'd mind that either :)
"Confidence is simply believing in yourself, it has nothing to do with other people."
That isn't true because most women dislike men like Dr. House or other egotistical loners. Women want men with social status, lots of friends and a position of leadership over other men.
It is not politic to say, but many young American women lack said judgment and are poor examples of what a wife and mother should be. They are dumb sexed-up tarts that sell themselves as sexual currency between equally weak-minded, imbecilic and slobbering "men". Real women recognize men of integrity and moral character, instead of sleeping with the vermin and rabble of society.
And yes, I do think I am better than most people.
He's the nicest guy in the worrrld.
My ex was a really nice guy, too.
My other ex... well he pretended to be nice for a really long time :P
my boyfriend is super nice to me and that's all that really matters ha ha sure he treats others with respect but he can be kinda so-so with others. But he treats me amazingly so that's all that I care about (:
He's a "nice guy" until they break-up, then he automatically defaults to a "jerk".
She's a "nice girl" until they break-up, then she automatically defaults to a "b'itch".
Maybe for some people. For me I knew my ex was a jerk while I was going out with him, but I was hoping for a reform that never came.
Not necessarily. If I broke up with my current nice guy boyfriend right now, he would still be a nice guy.
There was a guy I once dated (and by that I meant went on three dates with). On the first date he was charming, on the second he seemed a little off, and by the third I could tell he was a full-blown jerk. Hence the end of the dates.
Yeah I agree with Lost too, I'd still think my boyfriend was a nice guy if we broke up.
Its a subjective opinion and is dependent on who you ask and what their connection is to this person. Nobody is completely "nice" or completely a "jerk".
After break-ups, a guy is usually called a jerk, because things didn't work out. Yet if you ask his family or friends what they think about him, you will get completely different perspectives and viewpoints.
Pretty true
i agree with lost. there are nice guys outthere but its how we see them. my ex broke it off 3 weeks b4 wedding date and even a year after breaking up I'd still say he was a nice guy. actually I still do think so. I'm not dwelling on the past or anything I've moved on, but I'd still say he was nice
Everyone's a jerk in the last resort. The trick is not to be scraping the bottom of the emotional barrel too hard or too often so that people get sick of you.
I voted 50/50. Sometimes, he's the sweetest boyfriend in the world. Sometimes, he's a real jerk and I can't stand him one bit.
Rollercoaster of love eh?
Haha. The best way to describe my relationship is rewarding but challenging at the same time.
Most girls won't go for nice guys because they're scared of falling in love and wana avoid the greater pain of a break up rather than after a fling with a jerk which they can easily forget. ;-)
No one in the real world can be NICE 24/7... Being in a relationship means knowing both sides of a person and accepting him for who he is.
Everyone in society likes to be respected, looked at with admiration and have a name. If you are someone to be proud of then you will have a special someone in your life. People come in all shapes and size.
depends on who you're talking about. the guys I go for tend to be jerks to other people, but cool with me.
im not really into "nice guys." no thanks, I'm sure some girls are, though, and they need to find each other. :)
I'm gonna give you a tip... if they're a jerk to other people in general, they'll eventually be a jerk to you. But apparently that's okay with you lol. Why wouldn't you want to date a nice guy?
Well, of course, he has been a jerk to me before, but nowhere near how he treats some other people, and it's not a constant. He's usually very good to me. And it goes both ways. I'm not into people who label themselves as "nice guys" because I tend to not mesh well with their personalities. I notice trends in how they act, think, how they view people and the world, and I'm just not for it. I like my boyfriend and the kind of person he is, that's what I usually go for, and I'm happy with that.
I would consider him to be a nice guy. Although, that's probably as biased as it can get, right?
He cares... a lot. I think that says loads about the kind of person that he is.
If my boyfriend is a jerk, I'd leave him. So, if you're asking about CURRENT boyfriends most girls will say they're nice. Although if you are asking about boyfriends in general I'm sure all girls have experienced at least one jerk in her life.
i think the nice guys are sometime a little boring so some girls don't like that. but I'd perfer a nice guy with a little edge
My boyfriend can be both, and I like him that way.. I hate guys who are completely nice because I am a bit of a bad girl, so I need a bad boy.
You ask some of the dumbest and most irrelevant questions on this site. I say irrelevant because the majority of them do not pertain to you or a situation that you are in or will ever be in. You can never tell how you or others will react until they are in the situation. You also feature your question when someone else who is in need of help or advice gets passed by or moved down the list. You have so many points on here but seem to be an expert at nothing.
no need to be rude ..
if you're not gonna answer the question, why are you here?
Well if it isn't my favorite troll! How've you been sweetcheeks? You never replied to my last comment :( Still too afraid to show yourself I see.. Why is it a dumb question? It's gotten a lot of responses so it seems like the masses would disagree with you there. Also why do the questions on here always have to relate to yourself or your relationship? I'm always curious about other peoples thoughts and opinions so I like to ask. If you have such a problem with my questions why keep reading them?
Also, I've never once had any of my questions featured so I don't know what you're talking about there. Get your facts straight before you trash talk someone.
It WAS a featured question and you chose to add a poll to try and draw even more attention to yourself. Look at how many people viewed and answered this question. A ton more than usual...its because it was Featured. I agree with the other guy and think you are an idiot and just want attention. I also agree with him because per the fact that your on this site every second and answer every question and post so many questions and you are not even close to being ranked in the top of any category
No I promise I've never had a question featured. Including this one. It popped up as a poll on the side bar, but that happens automatically when a poll gets a certain number of hits. That has nothing to do with me. That's also why this got a ton of views and answers. I'm bored and I like to try to help people and get answers to things I think about. That's why I'm on here so much. Sorry if you think that means I want attention. And may I ask where you rank?
Haha, this poll is a little flawed. Like Hallday says, girls are gonna consider their boyfriends "nice" even if they are insufferable jerks. Most won't start labelling them jerks until they've broken up. =P
agreed, and well said
I agree that it's not perfect, but most girls do know when their boyfriend is a jerk, they're just in denial or hope that he changes. I dated a jerk for awhile and I was very aware of the fact that he was a jerk lol.
My guy is a jerk to people who deserve it but he's super sweet to me and his friends.
Bad boys are so over rated, only in the movies. Nice guys are the way to go!
He's nice sometimes and nasty sometimes, he hits me sometimes but its usually my fault, he has made several rape threats but I don't think he would actually carry it out, apart from that he's nice :)
I hope this is a joke :/ Nobody should ever be with someone who hits them or makes rape threats... that's just horrible. And that's almost as bad as saying: Hitler nearly wiped out all the Jews, but apart from that he was a nice guy! >.>
Em no I'm not joking, and you can't compare my boyfriend to hitler!
I wasn't comparing him to Hitler. I was comparing your statement to my statement. Why would you stay in a relationship with somebody who treats you so horribly? Don't you think you deserve better?
no not really, best I'm ever gonna do, I'm an ex stripper so I'm pretty much a pile of sh*t, my boyfriend says I'm lucky he took me in and that no guy in their right mind would take me because I'm a slut. I think he's right tbh
Please do yourself a favor and do something to gain confidence and leave this guy! I have a friend who used to be a stripper and she didn't have any problem finding a nice guy. They're even getting married soon.
She wasn't trash
Really hope this is a troll post...
whats a troll post?
My boyfriend is the nicest guy in the world. A little too sweet and innocent, I like nice guys but sometimes I wish he would be a little more spontaneous.
you will only know if a guy is a jerk or not..when he dumps you so yeah gotta wait till then;)
He's both. He's a jerk to people he doesn't like and really awesome to people he likes.
I put my boyfriend in the nice category he respects me and lets my opinion come first and I love him a lot
okay I'm single but I voted 50/50 because that's how most of my bfs have been because really no ones nice all the time lol :) interesting results
Yeah and the worst part is after these women are used up, they expect the men that aren't players and man sluts to take them back. Why would a pure man want some asshole's sloppy seconds?
lol I know exactly who this is! What is it with you and women being used up? Not every girl who dates a jerk abuses her body in doing so...
Had casual sex = used for sex = poor judgment = used up
Yeah I can understand not wanting to be with a girl who's slept around with a ton of guys. But what about the girls who were in a serious relationship with an asshole? How is her body any more used up than being in any other kind of serious relationship?
Asshole don't want serious relationships, they want to sleep with as many women as they can. She was used and showed poor judgment, immaturity and a willingness to bring life in to the world from a monster. This poor judgment shows a failure in a fundamental role of a human female: To keep undesirable men from reproducing and to be good mothers.
A mother cannot have selfish tendencies or reckless immaturity. Or the kind of stupidity to bring a life in to the world the man cannot support.
If guys want to be jerks, Let them be jerks. If guys want to be nice let them be nice. Girls have no business trying to tell a guy how to act. We act the way we want to act. We don't go around telling you girls how to act.
Who's telling anyone how to act?
My boyfriend is the sweetest guy you'll ever meet.
Fair enough. Thanks for answering.
All girls like jerks so they can change them or some reason like that is what they say
Definitely not ALL girls because I don't lol
Maybe most do at least
No. We don't like jerks. We like charisma. Period.
When you are describing is when women convince themselves that a jerk really is a good guy, and that if we change ourselves, the man will change too. We fall in love with the dream of a guy instead of the reality of him. But for the record: men fall in love with the dream of the girl he is seeing instead of the real her too.
lolololololol.
"Show me the results!"
Poll Win!
I voted 50/50 because I'm about 50/50. So.
I like your honesty!
KEEPIN' IT RILL!
Well, here's a loaded question.
How do you figure? I'm trying to shed light on some presumptions by trying to get objective answers. That's the opposite of a loaded question...
Not necessarily true. I knew my ex was was a jerk while I was with him but I stayed with him anyway because I hoped he'd go back to being the nice guy he pretended to be in the beginning.
No it doesn't. While I did break up with him eventually, I did date him for 2 years knowing he was an asshole. According to you, I would've broken up with him as soon as I realized he was an asshole. Which is what I should've done, but still I didn't.
You're right I would. And I also answered that my boyfriend is nice and I prefer nice guys, so it would match up with my answer if I weren't the asker. And the question isn't biased, the answers are. As they well should be lol Which is the point I was trying to make.
he's nonexistent
lol
mine is both
a asshole [;
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