Why is he with me if he doesn't trust me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is constantly paranoid that im cheating on him and talking to other dudes. It's so annoying. He's friends with girls but doesn't want me to have any guy friends. Sometimes he even asks his guy friends to keep an eye on me for him.

[lonestar_01]

You need to grow a backbone and stand up for yourself. My ex girlfriend was like this, I couldn't be trusted as I have many female friends, I couldn't be trusted as I'm confident and easy going, I couldn't be trusted because I look different etc. You have never done anything to betray his trust, the guy is toxic or has severe insecurity issues. There is either two things you can do. 1) Stand up for yourself and say adios. 2) Stand up for yourself, demand an apology and give him a warning "If you don't stop this shit, I'm going to leave you." Never underestimate the power of standing up for yourself and walking away. Remember you are meant to be his girlfriend, not an ex-convict who needs a parole officer

[dudeinohio]

Control freak. Could be signs of an abuser. Trying to distance you from your friends

[HollyK21]

Better question is, why are you with him if he doesn’t trust you? I’m sure it’s stifling always having to fight and defend yourself. 9/10 he’s either cheating or got cheated on in the past, and never recovered, so whoever he dates (like you) has to pay for what some other woman did. But that’s not fair to you, and you shouldn’t want to live like that.

[spartan55]

I'll bet anything he is cheating.

[zoobs94]

I m going through same thing