So I had a huge fight with my husband a few weeks back, as some couples do in their relationship. I was getting women's intuition that he was doing stuff behind my back as well as a phone convo I overheard when he was in the next room etc.
Well I made accounts on the social media platforms he goes on. And his accounts weren't private so I was looking. I asked him point blank questions and he was dodging them, denying what i was asking and then would get any that I couldn't trust him. He's been following a lot of girls on social media who post sexually explicit photos.
He was talking about how the accounts that follow him on on his tiktok twitter instagram and a few others he doesn't follow but he does because I checked and then he was saying how he doesn't even comment on those photos when I could see plain as day that he did. So he lied about that. So I got really angry at hum and of course I didn't trust him, it's disrespectful to me that he's doing and lying about it.
Including wanting to to to strip clubs because I saw a convo between a few people on twitter with him where they were talking about one. And then he told me he doesn't even want to go to them after I asked and he played dumb at first.
We had a huge fight over it and now I am just supposed to trust him when now he's made his accounts private and sleeps with his phone under his pillow.
He has told me he loves me only wants me and only has eyes for me (which I feel like every guy in a relationship will say). It really bothers me honestly. Maybe I don't really care that he does (I can't control what he does) I just wish he wouldn't lie about that.
He wants honesty and communication from me and he can't even give me honesty so don't I have every right to be suspicious and accuse him I think he's doing. Why does he got a free pass?
Someone else in the world has had to have gone through the same thing I am.
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So if he was honest about it would you still feel the same way you do now?
If he was actually honest to me about it I wouldn't care, I would rather have honesty then a liar. And he's a hypocrite if he tells me he doesn't like lying or liars but then he lies to me
So in the past has he lied to you? If so have you always been open to him coming to you to tell you something he’s done wrong w out you getting emotional, yelling, screaming, hitting, etc, etc. I’m not saying you did all that I’m just pointing out some things women tend to do when a lot of women react to something men did wrong. I sometimes myself would lie about something I did wrong or not tell her at all because she would just yell, scream, tried to hit me a few times, so it was easier usually just to say nothing. That’s how a lot of men feel.
It sounds like you shouldn't be in a Relationship if that's what you think of him.
It's NOT what I think it's what HE'S doing. From what you said it sounds like he's a guy and he's perfectly okay for him to be doing that while on a marriage with me.