My boyfriend hates that I skip meals. How do I reassure him that I'm fine?

[Anonymous]

[have_a_good_day]

I downvoted all these people who said it's unhealthy.

Humans were not made to eat every day.
We are creating a weak society and I'll tell you why.

Ever notice when you're sick you don't feel like eating?
Ever notice that on the medicine bottles it says you must eat before or after taking the medicine?
Listen to your body and not a pill.

The truth is that when you're sick your body doesn't want to exert energy into digesting food. It needs that energy to produce the things that fight your illness (not just antibodies).

Same thing when you're not sick. Your body needs to produce these dudes but we constantly shove food in our mouth and the body doesn't get time to produce the good dudes because it keeps having to digest food.

This is why Fasting is so healthy.

We DON'T need to eat 3 meals a day.

Same thing with sleeping. We DON'T need 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. Humans are supposed to sleep, at most, 6 hours a day and also not uninterrupted. We need naps.

We are being kept weak.

So tell your boyfriend to educate himself because you're not into dumb dudes

[Asker]

I know I don't have to eat 3 meals a day. He's very smart he's just concerned.

[Leavesbound]

by not skipping meals. Of course I'm diabetic and can't skip meals. I suggest that you have a least a light snack every six hours. Even if you're not diabetic, your blood sugar can go too low if you go too long between meals. If you are worried about your weight then perhaps something that is just high in protein will work. A decent piece of beef jerky would do the job and not kill your diet. Also, if you are dieting, make sure to drink plenty of water and not drink any soda. The water will help flush out unwanted nutrients.

[KingdomForAKiss]

We really don't need to consume quite as many calories as many believe. Maybe change up the vernacular-- instead of saying that you're skipping, say that you're taking an intuitive pause. Letting your pancreas rest can be really good for the body, so long as when you do eat, you're hitting the right macronutrients. Some people are OMAD (One meal a day).
Unless you're already significantly underweight/and or have an underlying condition, I can't see why not.

[Smashingdoozy]

Skipping meals as in not having breakfast?

For getting to eat lunch then snacking instead?

Or like oops it's dinner time and I still haven't eaten but im still not hungry skipping meals?

If it's the first one not a big deal
If it's the second one it's ok occasionally.
The third one, I think you need to talk to a Dr about your relationship with food.

[Asker]

I always have dinner, I'm probably mostly the second one

[caring__1]

It's not about the quantity you eat; it's about maintaining your blood sugar levels fairly constant throughout the day. Changes in blood sugar level can impact your moods and your ability to focus. It can increase impulsivity and can lead to you overeating when you do finally get around to eating. You are getting used to a habit that might work fine for you now, but it may cause problems in the future when your metabolism rate slows down. Habits are hard to break, so establish patterns that will be in your best interest long-term.

Though you may find this pattern functional, it can be very dangerous for diabetics, so never assume what works for one will work for all.

[Anonymous]

I'm like that with my girl only because she suffers from an eating disorder and i want to make sure she stays healthy and doesn't starve herself or become bulemic or anorexic again. which is why i ask her if she ate (sometimes) or tell her i saved her a piece of my food. i only do it because i care and don't want to see her get sick. i know she may be healthy in terms of weight but it's still a part of me that wants to keep looking out for her to make sure she's alright. it's because i care that's why i do it.

[Asker]

I did too, I'm fine now, but him telling me to eat actually makes it worse in my case.

[Opinion Owner]

oh how come?

[beldath]

Ask him if you're in the hospital. Obviously you're not. Then ask him if he still wants you to look thin.
That last one will definitely open his eyes.
Of course it's not his business.
Men eat more than women, and they don't realize women need less food unless they're pregnant.

[Asker]

I mean he's not that shallow. I think that last one would actually scare him more.

[beldath]

I wouldn't call what people are attracted to shallow. But you're right, it could scare him.

Back to the shallow bit, I've dated skinny and overweight. I connected well with a girl, probably one of the more interesting people I'd met since my ex wife, but when I saw her pull her underwear over her belly, my erection went away almost instantly.
I have nothing against overweight people, but apparently the flesh isn't willing to work around them.

[Asker]

Yea well, I would have to put on quite a bit of weight to become overweight though. It would scare him because he'd think I'm scared of not looking as thin as I do now, which I am not for the record.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Honestly I can understand his concern.
You see, I too skip meals and it's not healthy. He's concerned about your health and energy intake, he cares about you.
So maybe snack up on something if you don't feel like eating a full meal?

[Alyssa11]

You shouldn’t skip meals. I used to do that and it has a serious impact on my life. I always felt lethargic and weak. The moment I started scheduling my meals and making sure I ate enough I even started noticing weight loss.

[Asker]

I don't want to loose weight, I just don't get hungry dude, I feel fine

[Alyssa11]

I don’t want to lose weight it’s just an observation I thought I’d mention. Honestly scheduling meals even if they’re light and you’ve gotta force yourself is helpful and this is coming from someone who also doesn’t have an appetite and is skinny. Skipping meals take a toll on your physical and mental health and you don’t realise until you start eating well.

[Asker]

My meals are regular, they're just not as frequent... I have lots of energy

[Alyssa11]

Then why are you asking this question for real

[Asker]

I did not ask you to comment about my eating habits. I asked you for ways to reassure him.

[Alyssa11]

Why u getting dude for

[Alyssa11]

Rude* LOL

[Alyssa11]

U don’t ask me anything I don’t work for u

[Asker]

Where was I rude? I asked a question on a website... didn't ask you per say, but you answered.

[Asker]

per se*

[slatyb]

Remind him that you are an adult and want a boyfriend, not another parent. If h is unable to see you as an equally capable adult, you may have to drop s quickly goes from sweet to annoying to intolerable.

[spartan55]

Is there a reason why you are skipping meals aside from you feel like you are overweight?
Your boyfriend is right, I'd be all over your ass about that too. He is concerned, and cares about you.

[Asker]

I don't think I'm overweight at all, I don't know where you got that from.

[spartan55]

Just a guess, why do you do it then?

[Asker]

I just don't need that much food. I eat when I'm hungry

[spartan55]

How many calories per day do you typically eat?

[Asker]

I don't keep track

[spartan55]

You seen a doctor about your diet?

[Asker]

No because there's nothing wrong with my diet.

[spartan55]

Says you.

[Asker]

Yea, because I am perfectly capable of carrying out everything without feeling like I need more energy. I never deny myself food, I just happen to not be hungry all the time.

[Billie_]

Ugh. Men with hero complexes are so boring. “Please eat, for me 🥺” 🙄

Tell him it’s your body and you’re a healthy weight, and to stop being so controlling.

[Asker]

I like how most of the guys on here keep trying to convince me I'm unhealthy xD... Like dudes, women don't need as much food.

[NathanDavis]

You should both go to a doctor for a general check-up, if the doctors say you're fine, he'll have to believe you. If the doctors say it's not fine for you to skip meals, then you should believe doctors and fix that.

[Am_and_Pm]

Get down on ur knees and tell him to shut up.

That's what I told my girl the next time we about to fight. Works for some fights, not all.

[Asker]

... ehm?

[Asker]

what are you insinuating?

[Am_and_Pm]

Bj... what else. Praying?

U funny.
Basically, to get a guy to shut up and stay in the moment. That's a great way to get the guy off ur back. To get him on his back.

[Asker]

We don't do that around here

[Am_and_Pm]

What u mean? Like, u have it yet? Or u never have done anything.

[Asker]

We haven't done anything

[upsettispaghetti]

Feeing fine isn’t the same as being healthy. Reassure him only if you’re healthy. Skipping meals isn’t.

[Asker]

Skipping meals is fine if you don't need the meal.. people are different, people need different amounts of food.

[upsettispaghetti]

Yeah, I understand that. But maybe try eating even just a little bit of food with lots of protein or whatever if you plan on not eating too many meals

[exitseven]

Why do you skip meals? Are you trying to lose weight or are you too busy to eat?
It is not good for you o do that. If you lose weight you will just put it back on again.

[Asker]

I'm not trying to loose weight, and I really shouldn't loose weight, my weight is perfectly fine. I just only eat when I'm hungry, which just happens to be less than other poeple

[Asker]

people*

[exitseven]

As long as you get enough nutrition you should be okay.

[nachosaresexy]

Are you doing it as part of a plan, like intermittent fasting? Or you just randomly aren't hungry sometimes?

[Asker]

It's random

[nachosaresexy]

Unless you're skipping out on meals he prepared for you to enjoy together, shouldn't be a big deal. Could there be any other underlying issues bothering him? Are you a healthy weight, comfortable with your body, etc?

[Asker]

Yeayea, I'm a healthy weight

[nachosaresexy]

Then he needs to chill. Try not to make it a *thing*... Like if he makes a less than kind comment about it, don't feed into it... ignore & move on, and hopefully he'll do the same.

[nachosaresexy]

I have a question on a totally different topic I'm curious to get your opinion on. If you don't mind can I message you to try to explain?

[Asker]

He's never been unkind, he's just worried for some reason.

[Asker]

Can't you write it out here?

[Angelo75]

You can't. It's unhealthy.
Messes with ur internal bio-clock, sugar levels and ur body's tendency to go into reserve-mode and start storing fat.

Try eating less, but maintain ur meal moments.

[shinnaeun]

My boyfriend is like this too. I just let him stay mad. Just tell him you already ate something small or something or tell him you had a big lunch..

[Asker]

Kind of hard if I've slept over

[shinnaeun]

True that is more difficult...

[Anonymous]

Maybe you can let him know your weight and show him that it is stable. As long as you are not losing weight and get the vitamins you need then no need for him to feel anxious.

[Asker]

But shouldn't he just be able to trust me?

[Opinion Owner]

on principle, yes, but since he is not maybe you could try it to assure him. But I understand your thoughts, it would also bother me.

[DrunkAss]

You don't; Stop skipping meals. Eat some fibrous carbs like a salad with just salt and vinegar if you have to.

[loves2learn]

You shouldn’t skip meals. Even if you aren’t very hungry, at least have a small salad or something. It’s healthier to eat throughout the day.

[Quidthonian]

I would get you to weigh (and record that weight) in my presence. I would keep your previous weigh-ins recorded to make sure that your weight is "stable".

[Asker]

If my boyfriend did that I would see it as a red flag. That's distrust if I've ever heard of it.

[Quidthonian]

For me, your skipping of meals is a red flag. The weigh-in is my indication of your general health. The weight reporting (and not lying about it) is a way for me to be reassured that all is well.

[Asker]

Well for me it's just distrust.

[JosyJosy]

I don't know if you can, but whatever you do, make it consistent

[Asker]

It's always consistant.