Do you offer your coat to your female friend?

[Anonymous]

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My riend offered me his jacket in hot summer day. 😅 I was just wearing regular clothes - jeans & top. I was literally sweating, I don't understand why he thought it's a good idea. He never did this before.

[ChiTown33]

Maybe he didn't want to wear it because it was too hot. And by acting chivalrous he tricks you into holding it for him. 🤣

And no i don't offer my lady friend my jacket. If it's cold she should have planned ahead. Also i don't want her getting the wrong idea. We're friends, if i go doing something chivalrous she might get the wrong idea about our relationship. Ya have to treat her like another dude. Punch her hard in the arm. Make fun of what she's wearing. Taunt her unmercifully if she starts crying.

[ChiTown33]

Lmaoooo i got superb opinion!
This is why you can't trust skynet!
It's becoming self aware!

[TDeans1987]

I have no idea why your friend would have done this on the day in question. It sounds like they really missread the situation.

But in the right conditions yes I believe in doing it. In fact I often wear multiple layers as I live in the UK but have a mixed background so on occasion I have been able to offer a jacket to 3 girls at the same time.

[Asker]

Yeah I don't know what he was thinking. Sometimes he cares too much & that makes me think does he like me?

[TDeans1987]

I mean I do not have enough information on you, your friend or your relationship with him to be able to answer that question. But purely on the information from your original post I will just say that it looks as though your friend was trying to do a very nice thing but at the wrong time.

[Asker]

Long story short - we met in college, I'm lone wolf (no friends), he's got 100s of friends, we just click with eachother, now he's the only friend I have, he says that nobody understands him like do, he mentioned me in his post as a "unique friend", before pandemic we used to go for lunch at least 2-3 times a week, sometimes he drives for 30-40 minutes to my city to have lunch with me, our Phone calls lasts for 30 min to 2 hours, he tells me everything happens during the day.
And he's always ready to help even if I don't ask for it.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Actually I just did today!
It was windy and she had left her jacket in the building, so I lent her mine.

[Asker]

In summer days if she don't need it or asked for it, would you offer her? 😅

[Dragonpurple]

Not usually, as I expect my female friends to be smart enough to bring what clothing they need.

I do not consider it rude to not offer, after all she should have brought what was needed to be comfortable. Especially if it really was cold, I'd not want to freeze to help her stay warm.

However sounds like it was unwanted for you and not needed, so not sure why either.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope, I very rarely have a coat, jumpers and coats are only really for when it’s like -5c etc.

[Asker]

He offered me his jacket in Summer, it was 34°C outside. 😅

[DevanRowland]

I don't just because i don't want them to think I like them cuz that would suck especially when I've got a girlfriend, but even if Im not daiting at the time I'll still say something like "Tough luck" or "Deal with it" and it might seem a little mean but then people will generally learn their lesson and not forget to bring one.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Female "friend"?

Why do girls think that friendships, aren't relationships?

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

But, no, I likely would not

If of course, she's in your words "just a friend", right?

[Asker]

It can turn into relationship. 😅 We had those awkward moments. Sometimes I feel like he likes me.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

My point is, if it's not a relationship, then how is it a friendship

[Asker]

Friendship is type of a relationship, but not a romantic one. We're close friends, but we're not in THAT kind of relationship. But some people think that we act like a married couple.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Friendship IS a relationship. Relationships are many types of "relations", Friendship is a RELATIONSHIP

[Asker]

But friendship is not a romantic relationship.

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

I guarantee you, it is

[Asker]

I'm my case, I think I could be. But I'm not sure. 😂

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

I just wish women understood that friendships ARE relationships

[serious]

Depends on the situation but most likely the answer is NO. I won't have a female friend in the first place so the situation won't arise.

[Adam1978]

No why would I freeze because she didn't bring her own jacket. If it's hot outside there's no need for a jacket.

[Zero_Spades]

Yes I would but the situation has only arised maybe twice in my life I would do this with any of my friends

[user2345354]

It depends on how long I've known her and how expensive the coat is.

[msc545]

If she says she is cold or seems cold, yes, of course. It is the kind and proper thing to do.

[Ripper_E]

How is it the proper thing to do?