Shy guy need help?

[Anonymous]

Any advice to make a shy guy not shy?

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having social anxiety

[slatyb]

Start saying hello. That's it. You surely know your classmates names. Just greet them by name. "Hi Lisa, how was your weekend?" "Hi Dave"

Get involved in theater. Seriously, even if you are just building sets or running props or whatever.

[Asker]

The thing is I have social anxiety, that stopping me from doing all that

[slatyb]

If you are so anxious that you are unable to say hello, you need professional help, or maybe a support group for people with social anxiety. Saying hello is literally the least you can do.

[sanrio123]

be shy, no one cares, just be polite and kind, that's all that matters anyways

[Asker]

Thanks, the thing is I'm not asking for people to like me, I'm asking of I can get r6if my social anxiety 🙃

[sanrio123]

you can't hunny, I have it too.

[Asker]

That's just leaving me hopless, but ig you're right

[Unphasedindie]

My question is, are you confident with yourself?

[Asker]

45% of the time.. No, considering social anxiety

[Unphasedindie]

I feel you on that response! The only way I try to boost my confidence is just self-care. A lot of times when we’re in public we may have minor negative connotations of ourselves so it makes not want to approach anyone (Social anxiety). I recently started working out and just caring for my skin and it really helps. I wouldn’t say it would work in one day or even a week but I would say over a month I was able to at-least talk and walk with more confidence. The more you work on yourself, the more confidence you will gain, I promise.

[Unphasedindie]

Eventually when you focus on self-care, all the negative connotations dissipate and positive ones exist.

[Asker]

You're so right, but the thing is... I feel like I'm lying to myself whenever I try to do any of that, whether it's a new haircut, or going out with a friend, I still feel bad for acting like I care, and I hate that

[Unphasedindie]

I think you have a lot of negative thoughts overweighting you. The best way is to change them into positive ones. Trust me, I’m like that too. There are days where I pick at myself negatively since I’m so used to it but now I change them into positive thoughts to keep myself at bay. For example, I may comment about myself negatively which may affect my day but then I positively think, no, I work hard and I’m improving myself everyday so then I end up being more confident with myself. It takes time and relentlessness. I felt that way too but trust me, focusing on yourself is the biggest treat you can give yourself.

[Asker]

Tbh I've never felt so understood by anyone ever like that, thank you so much on that, I promise from now on I'll focus on my self care, ill let you know if it works ig, but thank you, have a great day btw🌹

[Unphasedindie]

It’s no biggie! Let me know how it goes and I’m here for you if anything. Thank you for the well wishes!

[In_Trance]

Nope

[Asker]

So I'm gonna stay like this my whole life?

[In_Trance]

Well nothing has provoked a change up until now so what makes you think it's going to be any different going forward?

[Asker]

You have a point

[Asker]

Actually you don't, the reason why is because I've never tried solving that problem

[In_Trance]

Then why would you ask this question to begin with?

[Asker]

Trust me, I'm trying

[In_Trance]

See my second response

[Asker]

Will nvm, I'll take the "nope" one