I am an attractive woman, I live in Los Angeles, and men don’t approach me. In fact, I never see men approach women in this city. Why is this?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Well, you are in quite possibly the most shallow, image-obsessed places on earth. A woman who is a 9 in most of the country may only be a 6 in Los Angeles, because you're being graded on a curve, and the most beautiful people from all over the country flock there to try to be in the entertainment business, and so it skews people's perceptions.

Second, you are in your 30s. LA is full of hot 22-year-olds, many who can be had for a couple of drinks or some blow. LA is also full of very jaded men who know this and take advantage of it - and have little reason to stop and trade that for a relationship with anyone, much less someone in their 30s. I refer back to Point 1, where you happen to be in the most shallow, self-centered place on earth.

I would imagine that LA is in the top 3 places on earth using Tinder - the most shallow "dating app" in existence. You don't see men approaching women because they're using Tinder to book hookups with women online, and if a guy is good-looking and has a nice house or nice car (i. e., he looks like he has money), plenty of women will show up and have sex with him via Tinder. That's changed the game - at least for the good-looking and/or wealthy guys who do well on Tinder. It's made it worse for women, and of course, impossible for the bottom 80+% of men, who get ZERO interest on Tinder, even when they pay the various fees to bypass the normal Tinder rules.

You would do MUCH better almost anyplace else - but especially outside of a major city, and avoiding left-leaning cities in particular, as those have become completely Tinder-dominated. But in LA, if you aren't young, and/or if you aren't willing to meet guys for casual, no-strings-attached sex, then they just aren't interested, because there are 50 girls who will. And of course, you wouldn't date guys who weren't in the top 20% - because almost no woman will - so, there you are.

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

If you are "attractive" then why don't you have a profile picture? Most people who dont have a profile picture are ashamed of their looks.

If you are attractive and look like a model it is probably because guys are intimidated with you. I have heard this happens a lot. Guys just assume you are taken or feel they aren't good enough for you so they dont approach. I've been there as a guy. A woman is just too sexy that I am scared. I feel they will shut me down.

You have to approach guys. flirt. chat them up.

Imcmullan · Accepted Answer

Maybe it's your energy you give off.. not saying you have bad energy but maybe it's resting bitch face or its you are so busy that you don't even notice when someone is checking u out. Also, men can be shy or intimidated by beautiful women. Why don't you ask them out?

modelUN242 · Accepted Answer

Probably because they don't want to get a bitch face in return.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because you're not attracted to most guys. Less than ten percent of men are over 6ft tall and make six figures. Men approach women, its about making yourself approachable. P. S. Makeup doesn't help for first impressions because we dont really know women look like, especially if you're looking for a long-term relationship

Novacane · Answer

Trust me, you have it good, there are many men out there that can be creeps to girls so consider yourself lucky, so trust you don’t want that. Or else your question would be “why can’t men leave me alone”

But to answer, I don't know a lot of people in LA are always on the move so most don’t bother to stop and have conversation with strangers, so for the most part people just ignore each other

The_Maphio · Answer

Los Angeles? Hah! You kinda replied to your own question.
Maliciousness aside, YOU are saying that you're attractive. Men could think otherwise.
Confidence is good, but such type of judgement is in the eye of the onlooker.

MCheetah · Answer

"I am an attractive woman. I live in Los Angeles..." Well, I found your first problem... And if you're pretty Liberal/feminist (being from California and all), then there's your problems 1 through 99.

Honesttguy · Answer

90% guys don't approach, its only in movies. Nice to see people waking up to reality

Anonymous · Answer

Welcome to the decline of the west, dating and relationships are a thing of the past. You spent so much time shooting them down, there are no longer any pilots that want to take to the skies. You are reaping what you have sown.

Slartybartfast · Answer

It's 2021, us men have been told NEVER approach as it's unwanted harassment.  The few who haven't got this clear message are usually sociopaths, pedophiles, players and rapists.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Attractive women are everywhere in L. A., that's a big part of it. But it's mostly because approaching women these days just isn't worth the effort.

John_Doesnt · Answer

I live in Los Angeles too and I generally assume a Los Angeles girl is looking for a sugar daddy. I only go on dates with foreign women.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

I would not approach an American woman in my own country; the last one I spoke to had a terrible attitude, and I was only doing my job, and in my country! It's just not worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

The liberal utopia that you would refer to as California has made it illegal for men to associate with women hence no guy asks you or any woman out in fear of violating the law

Wise4myage · Answer

Guys might think you have a boyfriend, or your looks might intimidate them, so maybe you should start making the first move with guys who appeal to you.

Anonymous · Answer

For many of us we'd like to but we don't want to bother them. Women complain all the time about creeps approaching and harassing them, we're not those guys and we don't want to creep women out.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

you could approach them you know, but my guess is, you won't because you are stubborn and adamant like the vast majority of women who feel thats the guys role

Surely · Answer

Never been to California. So I can't answer that. I hear that there are a lot of gays living in California?

blondfrog · Answer

That's your problem. "I am an attractive woman" Nobody likes a self absorbed asshole.

princeofromance · Answer

The girls in Los Angeles are super attractive. Guys there assume that they are already spoken for.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Don't know become less of done thing. I love doing it fun you never know where it will go can go great or bad. But you never try you will never know.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Beauty is in the eyes of the viewer.  Or you are attractive, but you might not be giving off the right vibes

bean_boi · Answer

They are intimidated by you... try being friendly and encouraging them with conversation or obvious questions

Ffffgg · Answer

Mabey because they don't like rejection I know I don't

PhillyMike1776 · Answer

Mee too movement!! Don’t be shy , i love a confident women

Pterodon · Answer

California is for fags

Wild_Surpise · Answer

To heck with them! Come find me! LOL

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Maybe evolution?

Shihab91 · Answer

They turn to gay 😂

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

Sorry?

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