That depends. If it's right off the bat I figure the "relationship" we'll have is based around me being a stunt cock and you being a warm resting place on occasion. My wife is very sexual towards me, but that didn't start on our first date.
If we get to know each other even a little and you want me like plants want sunshine, I figure that's part of who you are, but you aren't like that towards every guy that catches your eye. I have been wrong both ways, having a woman be into me intensely from the get go and figure she'll sling it around anywhere, but for some reason, timing, whatever, that's just me while we're together. Or someone who's harder to get, and they're looking for an upgrade while seeing me.
You can go with the numbers and try to predict things, form expectations and what not. Often it is a pattern that plays out exactly as you would expect, playing by the numbers. People always surprise you though, so I try to keep an open mind and hold out hope for the best, while planning for the worst.
So for me, I have a split between how I feel in the abstract. Like in principle. I don't think any less of a girl if she's hypersexual and immodest. That's totally something she should be free to choose to do.
On a personal level, I do, in fact find it a turnoff. Definitely. I have several female friends I think are wonderful. But I would never consider dating them.
But... it's one of those things. Since I feel a ceertain way about it... I just go for girls who aren't hypersexual or immodest. If a girl is that way, that's cool. There are guys who prefer that. A girl shouldn't be trying to change to suit some particular guy who thinks like I do about this. That won't work. People should just be themselves and find someone who's on the same page.
by the way I feel like I should clarify... find it a turnoff, if she's hypersexual and immodest, like in general; in public, around people. Behind closed doors... that's entirely different. Then it's actually a good thing. Conservative goes out the window once I hit the bedroom.
I would be interested in knowing that too. I always dress respectfully so do guys care what a girl wears? When they look at two girls with similar looks and one dresses modestly and the other like a Vegas show girl, which one would they be more interested in? Okay, show girl may be a bit much but you know what I mean.
For somw it is in a way if you are that wqy in the begining, they think you are that way w any other guy. But if you act lile a lady and later on you show him you are sexually open to him, he wpuld love that.
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As a guy and a #Leo (I kinda fit the stereotype 🙄) I do not find a girl who is overly sexual a turnoff. What matters to me is that she is only with me, just as I am only with her... if and only if we commit to do so with each other. Now, my perspective on this is not a popular one among most people.
It is like this, as men we are encouraged to get it out of our system before we decide to settle down with just one woman. In other words, party your ass off and sleep with as many women as you want. I just also feel that women should also be encouraged to do the exact same thing.
I have seen marriages go to hell, just because of these words that were uttered by the wife: "You have been with so many other women and I have only been with you." Trust me, nothing good is going to follow that statement from her.
That is why I decided that I had played the game long enough to get sick and tired of nothing but a countless number of one-night stands and just wanted the security and stability of a committed relationship... I found a girl who was just like me and ready to commit to just one.
We both have like "done it all" and thus have no FOMO... The only thing that we both were missing was a stable and committed relationship. We don't care about what occurred before we met each other... all that matters is what happens after. We have been married for over 29 years now and loving it. I do believe that she has increasingly become more and more overly sexual over the years... though that may just be me.
I'm not conservative the way you meant. But I am dominant. A girl who is overtly sexual doesn't give me a chance to take control of the situation. So she is not my type. She is trash. She wants to fight me then we can fight and maybe I will like her more if she can show me a barbarian side to her. Then maybe she is not trash. Maybe she is awesome. Of course, she won't beat me but if she hurts me that is still impressive.
It depends after she expends all her energy and strength what she does when I grab her by the waist and pull her close. Does she become more tame or more rebellious? But no woman will ever come over the top of me. I am at the top. She can be slightly below me if she wants, but she will never be at the top with me. If that's okay, there is no turnoff.
Quite the opposite for me. I can think of no greater glory that a hypersexual, uninhibited, heterosexual woman whose entire body is erogenous, who expresses herself during sex, who orgasms repeatedly during PIV, and who knows what to do to make a man lose his mind.
I lived with one particular woman like that for over a year. We had amazing sex at least twice a day and sometimes for hours at a time without pause. At some point, I found her vibrating dildo and she admitted that she sometimes masturbated when I wasn't around. That fact just increased my admiration for her.
It depends. Intimacy is nice but intimacy does not take place as much as possible either. I could say once a day is amazing but there has to be a time or place for rest and enjoying each other. Cuddling and watching movies after a long a day of work type stuff. I think it's nice, there just has to be a balance. Think of it like exercise or video games. Both can completely take over your life if you let them but while they can be fun, life is more than just one thing. And unfortunately too much of even a good thing that be unhealthy
There is a bit of a minefield here - For me the issues are the sub issues - What do I mean by this?
A girl's sexual appetite is of no major concern to me if we are two individuals. If we are couple, monogamous and similar appetites , all good
Say she has a stronger appetite than me or more open then maybe a problem.
I think I would always want to stay monogamous and if being more open was the only way to save relationship, I would probably end it
If she wanted to stay and had higher libido than me , I would be honest enough to try and find ways to remedy the situation monogamously if possible that suited us both , toys, masturbation etc
It is to me.
I think it's quaint that some opinions here seek to equate my dislike of being overly sexual as insecurity, misogyny and/or a lack of masculinity. It is myopic (and also sexist in my opinion) to imply that a person who dresses modestly is not confident, or is catering to traditional gender roles. But anyway, to each their own.
I believe that a person who is truly confident has no reason to draw attention to themselves in that way. They know their worth, and that it is not their job to get strangers to see it. In fact it further caters to sexism because it suggests that one's looks are all that matter, all that they are.
I also believe that beauty is crystal clear regardless of how modestly one chooses to present themselves in public.
But is she "hypersexual" or "immodest" or just being REAL, and BEING AN EQUAL?
So many men assume women are these docile little playthings, for their personal joy.
Such 'men' are uncomfortable with a woman that KNOWS she is his equal, and doesn't need to submit to him.
Of course, DBAGS, that love submissive women, are going to call them out, and try to make them seem less than normal, being afraid of the equality, and then label them, like "Overtly Sexual" or many other things.
So I am a fan of women who express their sexuality. I see myself as a sexual person and I hope my partner doesn't mind me trying to be physically intimate with her when we're alone. (One of my love languages is physical touch) We don't have to have sex but I want to cuddle with her, nuzzle in to her neck, and even be a little playful by trying to get her all hot and bothered. 😏
As for her behavior I would absolutely love it as long as she only does it in appropriate times and settings. For example she can grope me in public as long as people can't see us. However I'd say don't do anything around children. But if we're in the movie theater (hopefully in those reclining couples couches) she can touch me and do whatever she wants within reason.
So let your freak flag fly hun. 😉
No.. a plus for me. I need it. I’ve gone out with chicks that only need sex once or twice a week. I can’t live that way and won’t!
I need a girl that has to have sex or thinks she’ll die without it. I want a freak that wakes in the middle of the night and has to shove the largest object that she can find into her ass, before she can go back to sleep! Yes, I’ve had her
The question really comes down to confidence. Some men like a confident and aggressive woman... some don't. I think those that don't are insecure and need to feel like they have power in the relationship. I prefer a confident, secure, sexual woman - otherwise I tend to run tight over her and bulldoze my way into a bad relationship.
its not a turn off for me... for the guys that aren't attracted to that there are plenty of conservative girls around so all i can say is dont try to make something work when the two of you clearly aren't compatable, just find someone you like that actually gets you
Not for me, sexuality and physical contact in general are appreciated by me, even if it is coming from strangers, friends and acquaintances.
How they behave towards others doesn't really matter to me, nor does it influence my opinion of them as a person in any real way.
For me it is just a turn on unless she is begging me or something, but if she starts flirting and tries to engage in sex I will definitely not say no lol, then again we sorta have a weird relationship, she even ties me up and teases me sometimes too lol, we sorta trade off doing quirky stuff to eachother, depends on the day, but it works.
My standards say yes but... my girlfriend, the most conservative woman I've ever been with, turned out to... be into more than I would've ever believed. It's beyond exciting to see her crazy about me when she gets like that.
However, if a girl ever is trying to do something/get me to do something sexual I don't wanna do, then yeah, that's a big turnoff. Men can't always be in the mood, and consent is important. Just because she's the woman, doesn't mean she can be on, and him off, and she can get what she wants when he doesn't wanna give it.
I can't remember where I first heard this, but the saying "a lady in the streets, and a whore in the sheets" seems to fit.
In my opinion the more sexual the better so long as it's in private. I'm not into the kind of girl who would go get drunk at a party and start gridng on random dudes or something like that.
Yes and no, it depends if she is just flirting or if she really wants to do something in the middle of the restaurant. I might prefer her to be more sexual so that when we get to that step it won’t be weird, or as weird.
Kind of depends on how early it starts in a relationship. If you are that way day 1, you won't be seen as girlfriend material for sure, more like a hookup girl. If you first secure the relationship and then become sexual it's a bonus.
Are you one of them and have you felt that?
Well... To answer your question, if in a relationship, no
If the girl is always giving indications outside relationship to everyone, well I would say you can't be respectful to them generally
Turn off/turn on is more of a situational thing
It's not "overly" if I want it too.
A woman that wants more sex is a blessing.
Usually clingy girl tend to be over sexual (?) since they want to be physically close to their partner every time they can. I am one of this. I dress modest but i am kinda addicted to mastrubation and i even do it during my period but also wait till marriage and want to have sex every day with my husband
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