Why do girls assume that all guys are bad?

Question

Why are they cautious around men in public? Why are guys always the bad guy?

1truekhaleesi · Accepted Answer

Oh I dont know. Give me a sec.

Making excuses for their buddies who are predators and rapists.
The fact that people, well actually just men, tried to make April 24th a holiday for raping women.
Elliot Rogers.
The fact that incels exist.
60% of police beat their partners.
Personally, I've had two cousins on both sides of my family viciously killed by the men who claimed to love them.
I know a lot of men who prefer to take their anger out in violent ways. It's literally a meme for a white guy to punch drywall.
The fact that you don't know who the bad guys are until it's too late.
Literally every woman I know from coworkers, my sisters, my mom, my cousins, my roommates, and all my friends, have a story about how a bad guy. Ranging from making her uncomfortable, groping her, rape and murder.
Loads of women have at least one bad story of a bad guy, but guys still wonder where all these bad men are.
I can't walk down the street without some guy getting too friendly. I have a fake engagement ring for this reason and it actually works.
My dad told me at 13 to always be on high alert as a woman. My brothers didn't have that conversation.
The thousands, upon thousands of untested rape kits because cops just don't fuckin care about rape.
If you go to police about a stalker, the police just take notes and leave. Stalker rapes her? She gets an invasive exam done by strangers to gather evidence and then police stuff the rape kit in the back of some closet and forget about it. Stalker kills her? Police all of a sudden act like they always gave a shit about this woman.
Brock motherfucking Turner and his shitty ass parents.

zollo · Accepted Answer

Ha ha I definitely think like this. Not so much "all men are bad" but all men are sus until proven otherwise. Men are just scarier. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Even with normal friendly customer service interactions I try to be short and sweet with some of the male customers that start to get a little too sweet. It always starts out like
C: "Oh, you have beautiful eyes"
Me: Thank you :)
Takes order
C: "If I had a girl as beautiful as you I'd be so lucky"
Me: Oh, thank you. 😬 You're payment total will be...
Pays
C: "Me and you should hang out some time"
Me: ... Alright have a great day sir😬😬😬
And It almost ALWAYS older men. My sister gets the same thing but worse. She's the same age as me but she looks younger and she gets hit on by so many guys (which are also mainly older men which is even creepier since she looks younger) One of them bought her a snickers today, which I know doesn't sound bad but it's kind of the implication that he's a customer that comes all the time and he wants to buy her something because she's pretty and he might expect something in return. Ugh I don't know, men kind of suck lol. But at the same time obviously not all men suck, but when you live in a world where you always have to look over your shoulder it's better to be precautious than to be the next girl in the newspaper.

WhistleForTheChoir · Accepted Answer

So this is a pretty contradictory and seemingly counter-intuitive thing, but the male gender role was originally buily around the expectation of violence. As violence has become less necessary, the men who want to prove theyre the most manly have to do it through unnecessary aggression, bullying, chest-beating, etc. And they aren't going to stop, because the behavior is reinforced. Gender roles are meant to tell us how to act, and following your gender role will make you appear more socially adept, even if its an anti-social gender role. As these men have ramped up their posturing to prove they are the most dominant or protective or whatever, the expectation of mens behavior has gotten lower and lower. Unfortunately, the expectation of how men are SUPPOSED to act has also followed along. So we notice men who meet our expectations more. You see what you expect to see. Thats called confirmation bias and it affects EVERYONE. And most often when a man isn't following this gender role, he is viewed with suspicion (e. g. “No one is really that nice,” where 'no one' means 'no man', because we all accept that other genders can be that nice.) At best, he is seen as kind of socially inept.

Lynx122 · Accepted Answer

Well if i was surrounded by people stronger and bigger than me I'd be pretty careful too.

Qdbrown · Answer

Young women always fall for the bad boys, and the bad boys treat them badly, and they assume all guys are like the guys they are attracted to.

These women don't give average guys the time of day, and pretty much ignore them because they're not exciting. They also can find a 1,000 reasons why they ignore the average guys, and try to find the next bad boy to mess them up.

If you see anything negative on their online dating profiles that say no games or bad behavior, are openingly admitting that they get played all the time. Who plays them? The bad boys. This also means they have been well used and abused. So you average guys are having to deal with these damaged women. And when they get older, they start looking for you average guys to help them pay for their lifestyle and kids they are now raising.

Avoid women with bad attitudes, especially after 30. When. Their options dry up, they start to seek you average guys to be that special man.

Don't be that special man. Run. Find a quality woman.

cth96190 · Answer

Because women are by nature risk adverse, although, at the same time, women are typically dangerously lacking in situational awareness and threat perception.
They are also usually petulant children, who act out without a thought of the consequences.

Feminism has told women relentlessly for the past 60 years that men as a whole are the greatest threat to female safety and welfare.
I am no longer willing to deal with the hate and general delusion that grips most women. Unless interaction with a female is necessay while I am working, I will avoid females.
Women, fish, bicycles and all that.
We were not wanted. We heard women say that.
Women said that they wanted to be left alone. We heard that, too.
Okay, bitches, you are on your own.
This karate black belt, former soldier and licensed bodyguard will not do a damned thing to help you, unless you are the client or a fellow Deplorable.
I will take my toxic white male masculinity and fade into the darkness.
If you have a problem, call on the spirits of Andrea Dworkin (all sex is rape) and Valerie Salanis (kill all men).

catrchy · Answer

Well, me personally I don't consider man scary or evil, bad or that kind of stuff, but this kinds of this are taught in family.

My mother, since I was little told me that all men are bad, I shouldn't let a boy touch me. I was playing with a boy once, I was 9 years old and my mom screamed at me: "He could've took to behind that car and took your clothes off" That boy was the same age as me. I am serious, this is exactly what she told me.

My dad always told me about the horrible things men do, abuse, rape, pedophilia, manipulation, etc. Always said to be careful around boys. He never told me that girls can abuse and manipulate, rape too.

And I always asked myself: "Why the fuck?" It's so hard being a guy in our times. My god- If you don't show your emotions you are emotionless and a bad person, but if you do you are a pussy and not a real man. If you are masculine you are considered a chad and a dumbass, if you are showing your feminine side, you are automatically gay. Goddammit- I have so many things to say, but noone will read three pages of me complaining about how poorly guys are treated.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

In my experience it's because they've been hurt or known other women who were hurt so many times that they feel it's safer to be cautious/assume bad intentions until proven otherwise.
I'm not a girl but in a small way I think I can understand the fear somewhat. I was abused, so was my mom, my sister, my niece, and at least one of my female friends that I know of. If you grow up with a parade of bad men in your life, of course you will be less trusting in the future. Is that fair to the men with good intentions? No, but it's not a conscious response.

Slartybartfast · Answer

Because good men are reluctant to approach, and won't unless they think she want them to.

Bad men don't care and will approach anytime, and continue to approach when not appropriate.

For every one women a good man approached, the player will approach 100(not an Exaggeration)

So women think most men are like the guy who approaches 100 women, because that's who approaches.

The more good men avoid women they are unsure want them to approach, the more women are only approached by bad men.

Peterdivine · Answer

I'd imagine for the same reason guys think all girls aren't worth the risk. In two words: shit floats.

Look up the video from CGP Grey on Youtube called "This Video Will Make You Angry," and now consider all the stories you've ever read or heard about men being rapists or abusers, and consider how they're statistically tiny against the larger male population- and media doesn't care, because outrage sells itself.

... Sometimes I wonder if we really weren't prepared as a species for the Internet. We actually made communication *too* good.

ZackBan · Answer

I think it's a lame excuse a lot of guys use.

The truth is if you handle yourself well and take care of yourself physically most girls will see you as the exception.

The reality is girls find it easier to say this is a bad guy than to say I don't like him he's not my type and so it becomes a thing that most guys are bad.

There are some girls who are a bit mentally disturbed and truly think that but these girls do guys a favor by staying away because they're generally psychotic

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Ignoring the rape assault stuff.

in the summer, take a walk through pretty much and city wearing a short summer dress (above knee) and heels.

in a 2 mile walk, see how many times you get cat called, someone trying to touch you (accident of course)

take some like a London tube, count how many times you are rubbed against.

have a male friend do the same, see what his results are...

Oh yeah add up skirting as well..

RoxyFoxx · Answer

We don't, but there's no harm in being vigilant. Even though the overwhelming majority of men are perfectly good and decent human beings, the number of men who sexually assault women is far higher than the other way around. This has nothing to do with any particular propensity in men, but is simply the result of the fact that on average, men are physically stronger than women and can overpower them easily. So, we avoid strong, young men if we're alone in a dark and isolated place, for example.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

When walking alone somewhere and it’s getting dark or dark, I don’t know if a dude is a nice normal dude or a creep so it’s best to be cautious because it’s better to be safe than sorry.

Unless I know the dude from school or college or something then I won’t be cautious because I know him and I know he won’t hurt me, and if we walked together I’d probably feel safer because when another dude is around, the creeps don’t try anything with you.

doopayo · Answer

Me statistically rape the most, sexually assault the most, murder the most. What reasons do us women have to not be afraid of men. Of course it’s not all men, but it’s enough men for us to keep our guard up

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Women have biologically developed over generations to be predisposed to groupthink and devalue the opinion of the individual in favor of their social group. This used to be a means of creating a cohesive and effective family and community but over the past few generations has shifted to creating a strong feminist ideology. You’ll find that even women that actively refute feminism still hold the opinions of their female friends over that of their family in importance. This becomes a problem when most women are actively malicious towards other women that are perceived as more successful.

Its a really interesting area of study and if you get deep enough into it you start realizing certain things about the different levels of leadership capabilities and existence in objective reality between the two genders.

BrunetteNYC · Answer

Having been hurt/burnt by guys who lie, lots of women become untrusting. This is a natural response to deception/pain. That said, even at times while hurt, I wasn't suspicious of the guys whom I did not like -- just super careful with the ones I did like.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

To me its people... people are bad until proven they aren't.. im not mean but im not overly nice either.. I dont trust people and I have that right.. I mind my own business my trusting self has gotten me very hurt in the past so I view everyone as a threat but give he benefit of a doubt until its proven one way or another

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A lot of it comes from the constant shitposting other women do online about men, negative stories in the media, and the way girls and boys are treated in the education system. From a very young age, women are taught that men are dangerous and should be treated with extreme caution.

Newhead · Answer

The most trusting girls get used, abused and battered, go on be open and simp for men. You will learn very soon what time it is.

a12xzc · Answer

This is really strange , as a guy when I want to talk to people online I always choose to talk to girls because I thought that guys are bad and girls are good but this is wrong because there are good and bad in both sides and there are different cultures so there are different guys and girls

Anonymous · Answer

just because a person’s chance of being attacked by a shark is 1 in 11.5 million, doesn’t mean they will swim in a sea full of sharks. obviously women will continue to be cautious around men even if only a small minority are actually raping/harassing/assaulting women.
but I would like to say that a lot of men don’t even realise when they are sexually harassing or assaulting a woman.

The_Maphio · Answer

Oh it goes the other way around too.
Honestly, I wouldn't care. If there are enough morons out there who'd rather end up single for the remainder of their lives than keep searching because "oh lawd, failing at love hurts so much!", I'd say that us humans with a backbone should be happy about it. Only decent, stronger people will reproduce and today's sickening society can be fixed in due time.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Common sense🤷.

oldasIfeel22 · Answer

Because male transgressions, misbehavior and crime gets a lot more attention and scrutiny in society.

AdithyaR · Answer

It's simple, cause you never know.
Obviously they know not all men are bad, only a fool would think that.

But when a girl is walking down a street at night alone and there's a dude walking behind her, she doesn't know if he's just some dude trying to get home or a rapist. So the safer option is to assume the latter and take precautions.
If the dude is innocent, he'd just keep going about his life and there's no harm done.

DaisyM23 · Answer

Because it generally is and girls are taught from a young age to be wary of men, they’re more likely to do serious harm and men is general are quite scary especially when you’re alone at night

superrmatt · Answer

As a man, I could seriously hurt just about every woman I have ever been with, in a matter of seconds. Men are built to be dangerous, why wouldn't woman see most men as threats?

TDDMS · Answer

That attitude you described, I can say with reasonable amount of confidence is an American woman attitude. About 20 years ago I made the conscience decision not to involve myself with American women, but instead began dating east Asian women and even a few Quebecois women. They don't have this attitude that men are bad or dangerous. They at least have the wherewithal to look around and realize that if men were bad that there would nonstop violence in the streets or where ever they went.

Siren777 · Answer

Their bad experiences has tainted their views on men. So when they don't heal their patterns or seek more compatible partners they end up painting all men the same. Which is wrong because not all men are the same.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I don't think all girls/women do..
The ones that do just means they're closeminded, just like the guys that paint all women as bad...
People incapable of thinking for themselves and just think behave like they see others do🤷🏼‍♀️

Jackblue · Answer

Well, in the end better to be unjustly cautious around a hundred people as long as you aren't discriminating against them in employment or anything than to be victimized once (something that I wish people of color would recognize about why whites sometimes give them a wide berth.)

Kas19 · Answer

It's rare that I've met a man that hasn't dissappointed me. I don't think all guys are ebad, but I don't trust them and don't like being around them alone.

MCheetah · Answer

I think only feminists do that. I mean, SOME girls are cowardly. But other than far-left women, I don't think women hate/fear men.

Guanfei · Answer

Because social media amplify what is an extremely limited minority. Truth is, there is way less than 1% of men that did something bad, in most western countries.
But social media, and media in general, keep talking about it as if all men were rapists, murderers, sexist and such.

LinkxPeach · Answer

I don't know. Usually, some guys are sexual criminals, theft criminals, and assault criminals. But, if your sexist and believes that the opposite gender are bad, and think that your gender isn’t bad. That ain’t fair, and seem cowardly to view the opposite gender as bad only.

Anonymous · Answer

All the women who say “from experience” the problem is you man. If you constantly attract the same type of man then you’re the common denominator. Not the men that you attract. If you want a better man then you should exude the fact that you want a good man. Simple really.

Anonymous · Answer

They mistake a “bad” man as a “good” man. He is a perfect gentleman and he seems to be an amazing guy. She feels so grateful to have met him and after he gets what he wants he changes and becomes just like everybody else. She learns that nobody is so good that they seem too good to be true as that is most likely an act. So she discovers the importance of taking ones time and waiting to see if there are any major red flags. And then she just never stops seeing them in every man she meets.

prishaaa · Answer

Haha girls really are complicated... well, some of em' definitely have had some bad experiences in personal life but the ironic thing is that girls would fall over and over for the bad boys until they found the one decent guy!😅i hope I'm making sense!

GirlyGal20 · Answer

In terms of dating I think women feel that way when the only experience they have is with bad guys, usually when you grow up a bit you don't see all men as the same.

Anonymous · Answer

Yesterday i had my mom sell my ps4 for me on fb and she was like "man this guy wants to pay $150 but he's black." And then said "here's a girl who wants it for $125 what about selling it to her". Thought processes like this from women is why i m gradually beginning to hate them

rachel776 · Answer

we have to be careful and assume they are until we know enough about them

Laciandmaci · Answer

Bad past traumatic experiences, like I been through. But I do not believe ALL men are bad but I think A LOT of men are bad, but again NOT ALL.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a woman makes a mistake and dates a creep. If she doesn't learn from it she does it again and again and again. Instead of realizing she's attracted to crafty liars who have selfish motives. She foolishness just decides all men are liars. Then after that she just becomes more resentful. Maybe hateful, until she just hates and distrust everyman.

Alyssa11 · Answer

We have been traumatised. I don’t think all men are bad at all but I’m cautious when I’m around someone I don’t know well.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I’ve experienced several assaults and I had a messed up stalker once. I don’t walk around assuming that everyone is bad because I have many good men in my life, but that doesn’t mean that I won’t be cautious.

deeks1121 · Answer

Unfortunately it's just the reality of society. And it's annoying that it's only a small percentage of males that make the rest of us look bad. If society punished those accordingly then it would diswade people to continue doing it

jimmy2 · Answer

There are false beliefs that anyone can have like for example:
When i took care of my wife i ran into a belief that there not a man alive that can take care of a woman but all women can take care of any man.
Thst belief that there no man who can take care of a woman: then he MUST BE ABUSING HER!

That cost me 4 Adult Protection Services invesgations

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Because either she had her heart broken by one guy when she was a teen or maybe that high school sweet heart cheated on her after high school. Then again, a woman who assumes that has yet to know herself yet. Too young to be feeling that way.

Anonymous · Answer

One bad experience with a guy, let alone a stranger, can lead anyone to assume/generalize that all people of that gender they may pass can do the same thing to them.

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

Because statically men are more dangerous than women are.

REALSTEEL · Answer

Because of there past relationship they think all men are the same and anold school gentleman like myself it makes it impossible to get a woman cause these bad men treated them like crap!!!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

paranoia, granted most people are assholes to some extent, but the stuff some women think most men would do is way off.

EternallyCorrect · Answer

They assume that because dangerous men exist, and it's safer to err on the side of caution rather than give them the benefit of the doubt.

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz feminism says all men are rapists. Haven't you been paying attention? LOL

Rebecka33 · Answer

I don't believe all guys are bad. I do believe a vast majority of them may be.

BeMuse · Answer

Because they are pussies that are scared of their own shadow...

msbrightness · Answer

Good question. Probably the fact I haven't been allowed so far to be the good guy I am (I am male, the profile is female)

_no_one_ · Answer

I mean they do need to stay careful cuz some don't have good intentions, we all know that and its better be careful than sorry.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Because they are girls? Adukt women dont do this shit except you live in a shithole patriarchial country where women get raped often

David_Kek · Answer

Because we live in an imperfect world. Women don't trust men, and after reading the book Sperm Wars, I definitely don't trust women.

Anonymous · Answer

Because feminism works very hard to create the perception that all men are bad. Feminists have been very successful in creating that perception among females, and among young boys, which is pretty sad if you think about it.

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

The girl who say all guys are bad  The girl who sleep with almost all guys.  And callley us bad. Wow?

Feelicks · Answer

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