If we are done and aren't talking. Then why, does he still have my number in his phone or picks up if I call?

[Anonymous]

So, this guy and I met about 1-2 months ago. And at the beginning, things were fine, between us. But it seemed, like the more we talk, I also started to see another side of him. Who is possessive aggressive, demanding and somewhat comes off controlling. And he comes off being very negative and a******. So, why bother with that jerk lol. But anyways, him and I had a fall out a few weeks ago. And since then, we have not spoken with each other and he has not contacted me, like he usually would. But this past weekend, on a Friday, I believe is was around 6p. m. And I receive, a phone call from him. So, I called him back, and I guess he rejected my call, or maybe my number was blocked. But it went straight to his voicemail. Then, the second time I called, he instantly picks up. So I asked him did he call, did he just call. And he said, accidentally it was a butt call, because he was driving and he had his Bluetooth headphones in and it dial my number instead. So apparently he was trying to call his cousin or brother back. So. But, we did Chit Chat for a bit, and I asked him, how has he been and he said that he's been okay and he asked me the same. Then after that, I said well, okay well you can call your brother whoever that you were trying to get in contact with. And then, he asked me was there anything else and that I needed to know, regarding to his call. And, I told him No. But, my point is why does he still even have my number in his phone, if he's not going to use it. And are we be done, has the situation come to an end?

[leesookna]

You try block or delete his number but he doesn't, why? Because you're the one who feels hurt, not him, he doesn't care at all

[Asker]

His number was never saved in my phone. Because of reasons like this. And your right. He has mentioned something similar like what you said to me before. He's like, if I haven't called a person back because I don't care and my mind is not concerned on who I'm not speaking with or too. But again. He also didn't have to pick up when I called the second time. And apparently my number is still store in his phone. I get that he said it was a butt phone call and he wasn't trying to call me he was trying to get in contact with his brother. But I guess my question is now. Are we done and will he actually call me or should I stop holding my breath, and move on. He usually would wait a week before contacting me if we had some issue going on. So.. 🤷. I don't know.

[leesookna]

It's done and you should move on. I feel like this is one sided love

[Asker]

Yeah. I agree with you... but again if I already asked this question once before. I am truly sorry. But it's like why does he still have my number storage in his phone. Like what most people trash and delete numbers of who they don't speak with. And I guess the thing is with me and why, I'm still on this. Well because the first time we met it went really well no I didn't give him the cookies and we didn't have sex. And usually when I meet people for the very first time I am super nervous and very tensed up. I was like that at the beginning but the longer that I was in his company I started to feel at ease and comfortable. And truth is he's the only guy since last year and that I really allow and let get close to me. And him and I could have explore-the-world together could have been really good friend. Like in person it was nothing but good vibes. But on the phone texting and talking, to many issues Came about. And like I said he comes off being demanding and aggressive. And if I got to argue with a person then it's really do need to be bother. I just don't interact with a lot of men like that to begin with, and I tend to close myself off to people as well. But with him I was more than enough willing to be open. That was my problem: and that created many problems between him and I. We all been hurt and felt betrayed by somebody whom we loved and thought that they loved us, the same. But I was willing to give us a try not to date but for me to actually try to be more open. But he's stubborn so it's for the best. Smh

[leesookna]

I'm sorry, I think you still don't get it with what I meant. He doesn't delete your number because he doesn't give a f, you're the one who keep thinking of him. That's why you checking out your phone, hope he will call you but he doesn't and then you think to delete his number because it's over between you. But he won't do that, he won't checking out his phone and won't delete your number even though he know it's over, because he doesn't care and doesn't have feelings for you or likes you the way you likes him. Okay, I think this is really hard to explain. Do you get it?

[Asker]

Yes I do. So he wouldn't feel like it's necessary to do that most people just move on. And I'm not sure how he felt. He said that he found me attractive and was interested in me. But he could have been speaking about sex, and being physically attracted to me. Most men I do run into just want sex anyways. But I DON'T give in. But anyways, your 100%. If it was supposed to be something it would have already been and if he wanted to communicate he would have. As he said before he don't give a s*** about what people do and who's in his life and who's not. He's being honest. Even on his social media page, and his past status she's just a grumpy old bitter hurt person that doesn't have time for people's bullshit. And doesn't want to waste his times others.. after all he is a stranger. So No need to get 2 invested with him with my feelings. It just amazes me how some of you guys can just quickly forget about a female and move on to the next. Shit! I wish I could be such a BITCH TOO. 😏🤷🤔

[leesookna]

You clearly invested too much on him. Your expectations, he is a good guy so he will give you attention and treat you well but in reality when you told him you likes him, he doesn't give you any attention, doesn't care about you. Am I saying these right? And let me guess, you are the one who mostly text him or call him first, mostly you're the first person who ask how his day? How is he doing? Correct me if I'm wrong. And I have one question, is he clearly tell you that he likes you back?

[Asker]

At the beginning when we exchanged phone numbers. He would text me and call. He said, he actually prefers talking on the phone then texting. So he was very consistence with communication, at one point with me. Then we started getting into these stupid small arguments, he always made the smallest stuff into stuff so big. And when it came down to questions: I would ask him. Yes. But in person. I would get a bit quiet verses he would try to keep the conversation going. But when we did text and call each other. I was the one that would ask him how is his day and what was he doing. So yes. But he would be the one to reach out. And OMG! It's best that I just move on.. From here. So I called him from my ma's number, just the other day. And he now responded back today with a who is this and call about 2 hours ago. So yeah your right. If he wanted to call and talk with me.. He would. But he don't care- and probably never did. And he never really came out and said that he liked me. But he did mention and say, how he was interested in me. But also said, how he thought that I was attractive, or why else would he have giving me his number. But in person. He was more of a softy with me. Any time he saw me. He would smile. Then I notice he started to request more of my time to spend with him. Sooo. 🤷. But he never been cleared on his actual feelings. But he definitely couldn't hide his smile. And his voice would change as well when we was face to face in person.

[leesookna]

I think he just feel lonely that's why he talk to you and texting or calling with you. This is my last advice, it's better for you to move on. I think he never gonna like you back, he said that he interested in you just a cover up. If you want to know he likes you or not, you should ask him, just straight ask that, call him. If the answer is no, I'm sure you can move on from him because you know the fact that he doesn't like you. I know that right now you still can't move on and still like him, you keep thinking about him again and again. But if he say yes, I don't think you should date him cuz he's toxic, he have bad personality. Are you sure you gonna date him?

[Asker]

He would ask me at times. If I was attracted to him. Then he would say. No, No. Don't answer that. He said rather if I am or not. It said, it probable wouldn't mean anything. Because you said you don't feel, anything for me. He said the way he looks at it as if we're just having a good conversation and I am being friendly with him.

[Asker]

I think he's still hung up on his ex-girlfriend and bad experience from his past.

[Asker]

And after all he is just a doordasher. So I'm sure he probably tries this with every attractive girl, that he comes across. But my friend, that dose readings aka psychic. She said, I feel as if he will return. And I said why tho. If he can easily just diss me like that- then why return later. And she said. Well because it's not that he finds me just a attractive. All the women that he shoots his shots with, they usually turn him down. And she said, how appreciate that much.. that I did give him a chance. And she said, he is very aware of how he comes off at You. And she said to be real direct with you. She said: in ways he's expecting me to call and reach out. But she said at the same time he's not tripping over it. But she said, you ain't out the game. He's just trying to play safe..

[Hawaiikai]

You guys have history sometimes it’s hard to fully close that chapter.

[JamieLoves]

You’re not over him

[Asker]

Well that too but I'm just confused on where things are going to head. Like, he didn't have to pick up the second time when I called. But she didn't make it clear to me that it was a but call on accidentally. Then towards the ending of that shirt conversation we didn't have. He asked me was there anything else I needed regarding to the call. And I told him No. And my thing is if we're not going to be talking and if this is a done deal between him and I shouldn't he delete my number out of his phone. I never saved his number because you never know how long a person is going to stick around. 🤔🤷

[JamieLoves]

Ok.. you’re not interested in listening

[Asker]

I am. If you have more to say about the situation if not then it is worth it