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Your boyfriend needs to understand that the medical professionals have seen naked dead bodies, touched them and did what not nasty procedures with it. So they don't care about your breasts, their only focus is your well being.. but mind you there are perverts everywhere.
Your boyfriend was in the wrong 100%. Doctors are professionals and not only that, he was examining you for a potentially very dangerous condition, but your boyfriend was so jealous he made you leave and put you at risk. Personally I would not put up with that behaviour from a partner.
She said it was a nurse, not a Doctor. A nurse shouldn't be trying to diagnose anyone, to be honest. Unless it was a NP, but she didn't say that.
@CrotchRot Okay fine it was a nurse. My point still stands. Trust me, I spend a lot of time in and out of emergency rooms, this is normal. If she had a blood clot, it's important to know that as soon as possible. And nurses are professionals, he wasn't doing it to cop a feel, he was trying to make sure she wasn't going to need immediate, drastic intervention
I don't think he was doing it to cop a feel but that nurse isn't going to be doing any medical things outside of the scope of nursing. In fact, doing that is against the law and they can be fined heavily or have their licenses revoked.
Depending on WHAT he was poking around for, he very well could have been stepping outside of the bounds of what he's allowed to do.
@CrotchRot Why would your first assumption be that he was doing something outside his expertise range? OP didn't seem to be worried or uncomfortable, and what she described sounded very normal as far as an initial exam by an emergency nurse. Nurses are qualified make do an initial assessment of a suspected blood clot
Explain to me the procedure that nurse was doing, please.
My family is filled with nurses and that is not something they do. "Look for clot". That is something doctors do.
@CrotchRot I can't explain the procedure, I'm not a medical professional. Do I know what the nurse was doing? No. Do I assume he was doing something inappropriate? No.
Look, maybe things are different where you live. Where I live, triage nurses absolutely do perform an initial assesment for a blood clot
Girl, he's just protective of you. How would you feel if a female nurse examined him around the crotch area?
I guess you get my point. He didn't overreact, he was just protective of you.
Peace.
I mean as kids guys have had girl doctors so Ik what that’s like
His reaction is only the beginning of a long jealous road. Yes he over reacted. I think you know he did. You wouldn’t have questioned him. The nurse was doing his job. Your boyfriend was in the room. If you were comfortable with the male nurse doing his job your boyfriend needs to respect your choice. Don’t let him rule your world. It only gets worse. Trust me set boundaries now. He’s not protecting you he’s controlling you and showing you he’s boss.
He was a trained medical professional who was literally just doing his job. It’s not like he was trying to feel you up. At the first interruption from my boyfriend I would’ve kicked him out. What the hell.
Usually it's the woman that feels uncomfortable with a man examining her. There are centers for women with only female medical staff. I don't know if there are any near you, but you can find out. You may want to seek one out to keep your boyfriend calm, of course he can't go past the waiting room there. At the end of the day, medical staff have to remain professional while acting in a professional capacity, which that nurse was.
I don't know because I wasn't there but one thing for sure I can tell from the look if he is doing it as medical procedures or as sexual harassment because men understand eachother.
if there is a female nurse then why not? maybe he was wrong but not a huge mistake. he is protective he is a good man
I say B.. he should have thought about it before coming to hospital and request a female nurse for you. If I was in the same situation I'd do that, however it also looked funny how he accused the doctor of being a pervert afterall it's his job anyway.
Would you like him to go touch boobs of a female nurse that same way?
Why do women assume they are ok to get fucked around but men must be loyal and stay exclusively theirs? Where do you get those moronic ideas? Your low IQs or just mommy grown greed and nastiness (narcissism)?
İt could've been a whole different story if he just let it slide the first time so he was wrong here, however in the second time he was absolutely right because there was this female nurse
The two guys who down voted me are clearly single
Dragging you away like that was putting you in danger, should your problem have been serious. I cannot imagine what he would do if you had a gynae procedure done by a male surgeon!
Your boyfriend was waaayyyyy out of order.
About your update. Just get used to having the opposite sex dealing with health matters. Sometimes you have no choice. If you FORCE a choice, it could result in treatment or no treatment.
The nurse is a professional. His job is to examine you.
lol people r overreacting in these comments. C'mon, I wouldn't like a woman touching my man's dick or around that area. He could've politely asked the male nurse to get the female nurse to examine tho
Girl RUN don't walk away from this toxic little boy. His insecurity and anger issues are going to lead straight to abuse if they haven't already. Get out now before it becomes more complicated. Major red flags
This is great advice! You need to lose this guy.
Total over reaction on his part. Looks like insecurity and jealousy.
Which doctors and nurses you see are up to you and what you are comfortable with, not him.
Touching people in places strangers normally wouldn't and/or seeing them naked is a part of medicine. I don't see any indication that what he did wasn't a part of that, so, yeah, your boyfriend overreacted.
Your boyfriend is just a silly man. You're the one who went to the hospital because of pain in your chest and a male medical professional was doing his job and your boyfriend complains about it? Ridiculous.
This is insane beyond belief. They even bought in a female nurse to watch and make sure the male nurse wasn’t doing anything inappropriate.
im sure your boyfriend would have no issue with a female nurse touching his chest and doing an exam.
You had chest pain, I don’t know what he was expecting to happen… If you go in with chest pain, they’re going to do a physical exam of the chest before any tests get ordered.
If you present with chest pain they would hook you up for a 12 lead EKG, take vitals, & start an IV. Was she complaining of chest pain or breast pain? Unless it was for breast pain the a breast exam is not the first step.
@Stephen54 She didn’t say he did a breast exam. She specifically stated he touched the area “around” her boob. My guess is that he was doing a cardiovascular examination and got to the point of checking palpate apex beat and then the boyfriend flipped out.
Just imagine once you're pregnant and about to deliver your baby. But your usual lady gynecologist is unavailable and then the male gynecologist has to look at yku. Your boyfriend be like,"Bitch no. My girlfriend won't give birth today "
I will have you know that GaG didn't react how they usually would to your question. I don't know why all of them are calling him insecure and control freak.
Usually GaG users would have called you a cheater for not pushing the male nurse away