My boyfriend slapped me during sex?

[Anonymous]

I was on my back, him fingering me then he slapped me in the face a few times and I was really confused but didn't show bc I didn't wanna ruin the moment. Now I'm just thinking wtf was that, I never knew that was a thing people are into, and I don't know if he even likes me now. I mean, why would u slap someone u love? And why didn't he ask beforehand if it was alright. We had an argument the day before, was he just taking anger out on me? I'm so so confused that's never happened before.

[NamerOfStars]

Some people are into playing with the power dynamics of sex, and some are into pain (giving and/or receiving it). And some just watch too much porn. It's entirely reasonable to tell him it bothered you and ask him not to do it again, even well after the fact. If he accepts that and doesn't do it again, you're fine; if he tries to explain it and starts a discussion, that's okay, too (your sex life is between the two of you, and you're really the only people who need to approve of it). If he seems to accept it but does again anyway, that's a problem.

[Gobigorgohome999]

Yeah I knew some girls that were into kinky stuff like that. Honestly coming from a man's perspective, I'd say if you guys had an argument the day before maybe he's trying to turn some of that frustration into sexual emotion. I would be pissed if my partner slapped my face randomly after an argument during sex one night if we've never done it prior to that. I'm 26 and I've never gotten violent in bed, but maybe he was trying to spice things up with you. He might have overstepped his boundaries a little though going straight for your face, talk to him about it if it makes you uncomfortable. Let him know that you would rather not get physical like that, after arguments when you guys didn't do that stuff beforehand.

[whirled_up_girl]

I supposed he slapped you because he thought you like rough sex? He should have asked you beforehand if you like that but you can also tell him what you don't want or like beforehand, during and before the next time. My rule is to tell a new partner what I like in bed, if I want anything rough I try to be specific about what I want and don't want, and I expect him to be specific about what he wants and doesn't want in bed. It's also not a bad idea to have a safe word too.

Some people say that talking beforehand takes the excitement or spontaneity out of sex. I'd rather not have a bad first experience with someone, and I think talking about these things with a new partner can be very hot!

[Browneye57]

How much under 18? Seems you chose a porn addict - he sits there and jerks off to porn and sees all that fake sex depravity and thinks it's real. You kids are barely past childhood.

[whirled_up_girl]

True they are too young be having sex, but she better learn now that she does have a say in what he does to her, and if he does not respect that she should stand up for herself or get out of that relationship.

[Browneye57]

@whirled_up_girl - Corectomundo. :)

[noohair]

He is watching too much porn. Tell him that is not what you want and to never do it again. If he respects you he would apologize.

[Pterodon]

That’s a red flag. If you didn’t like it then tell him but it tells me he’s into dominant rape type sex. It’s also a red flag for other things

[Wise4myage]

Ask him why he did it, make sure he knows you didn't like it, and dump him if he ever does it again.

[Fuentes]

Must be his weird fetish if you dont like it say something

[Ironic_Method]

I do it all the time, but my partners are into it.

[YAhallo]

It's like slapping a hoe

[OddBeMe]

If guys like slapping during sex it’s sadistic