Guys, I had a man break up with me because he's too "insecure". Was that the truth or was that a subtle way of saying he's just not that into me?

[Chan6395]

I was seeing a guy for about 2 months. He expressed how insecure he was, and showed bad jealousy over my daughter's father. Over that course, he showed all the sign he was falling in love. Kissing and cuddling after sex, buying all kinds of gifts, spending every free moment he had with me. Then out of the blue he asks if what he have is "lust or love"? He then says maybe we should just be friends.. I reply with "if that's what you want" as to which he replies, "no, but I don't know what to do". Then like 20 mins later says we shouldn't be friends and to just forget about each other. Well, then I take some of his things to his car one day while he's at work and I leave him his favorite meal with a note that says, "showing you I still care, and I miss you". we start talking again, and I start being more affectionate, and doing more lovey things. Then he did it again because I brought how stupid my daughter's father is and he ends things again. I try a second time because maybe he's just that insecure, and this time we get some dinner and make plans the next day to see a movie, the next day comes and he completely bails on me. 3 days later he texts me saying his ex got into a bad accident and he's been spending some time with her. He asks to still be friends and he still wants to talk and hangout. Well I tell him no, he just needs to keep tending to her. He replies with "I'm sorry". A month goes by, I decide to text him saying, "I feel kind of stupid, we weren't even together so you didn't owe me any loyalty. I hope we can be friends again one day". He says yes we can still be friends and asks me how I've been. I took a little while to reply (4 hours) to not seem too available, but after I reply he doesn't say anything back. A few days pass and I texted him saying he found something of his at my house and that I'm dropping it off at his house while he's at work. We text about 4 times about an old friend of ours that passed away but then nothing. What gives?

[Mikeysoda]

I think she probably told you the truth especially in the type of situation with necessary forever relationships with your baby's father. That is a tough position to be in, talking about his position. So if he felt like he couldn't handle it. Good for him for being honest, letting you go, and not wasting your time. That life is not for everyone

[0112358]

Any possibility it's the relationship with your daughter's father or perhaps the fact you have a child at all that he really can't handle or isn't ready for?

[Chan6395]

I've cut all ties with her father (that's a different story) so I don't know why that's be an issue. And no way, he once said the fact that his ex had 3 kids was "awesome"

[gyaz2]

probably the truth you dont know how badly insecure dudes can get sometimes its unreal..

[Anonymous]

It could be both, you are better off without him

[ForgottenFuRyan]

It means you have a hoe vibe and he's not stupid.

[Chan6395]

Ouch.

[ForgottenFuRyan]

Notice the men sugar coating everything; I'm surprised that they didn't call you a queen. Men who tell the truth are racist misogynists because the truth can be painful. 🤯🤷‍♂️😎

[Avicenna]

He probably lied about the true reason