Should I text him? Or should I not?

[blueeyethickthighs]

I met the man of my dreams, but he is playing the hot & cold game. He told me he doesn’t like to text during the day so I usually don’t message him until he messages me. We had an amazing night last night, or I thought we did, he messaged me this morning & we talked for awhile but then as usual, he stopped responding. I haven’t heard from him since. Do I play him at his own game and not message him at all even though it makes me sad? Or do I message him? & if I do message him, should I be upfront & ask him what he thinks of us and of me? Help needed🥺🤍 thank you so much. I hope you are smiling and having a beautiful happy day, everyone.

Message him & be upfront & ask him about what he thinks of me & of us seeing each other

Play his game & just not message him but risking not hearing from him at all again?

[Woke51]

Option A is ask him what he thinks of me because I need validation.
Option B is play games and manipulate because I need validation.

It makes you sad because you place your happiness on the outside source. The queen of self-esteem does not need anything to make her happy. She just minds her business, and people and opportunities are attracted to her.

So what you should do is focus on yourself, get stable, confident and secure within yourself and only then act from a place of abundance however you feel like, not from a place of lack and need.

[Robinsonsst]

For sure message him, but don't blow his phone up. Just one text will do.

[spartan55]

You girls just DON'T GET IT when it comes to fucking texting... he's not playing the 'hot and cold game', he told you how he felt about texting... and apparently it went right out the other ear. Most guys HATE texting (are you listening?)
Yet girls are willing to end relationships over texting behavior without giving a second thought to it... it's just mind boggling.

[blueeyethickthighs]

I did NOT say I was willing to end the relationship so apparantly you aren't listening. This is IMPORTANT to me which is why i fucking asked. He said he didn't like texting during the day at work. He didn't say anything about not talking at all especially after spending the night together so with that being said, YOU GUYS just dont get it how a girl can feel used and feel insecure and yet you can't send one simple fucking reply of, “yeah I really like you, I would love to see you again” or a simple “No, I think we want different things.” That is what i mean by the game playing. I dont fucking like texting either but if i can make the other person feel valid in their feelings I will suck it up and send a text that takes two fucking seconds regardless of the contents of said text! Good lord. 🤦‍♀️ and instead of taking it out on a girl who was asking a legitimate question, fucking learn some manners & be polite instead of trying to make the other person feel like shit when they are simply just trying to understand. 👍👋

[spartan55]

Not trying to make you feel anything, just trying to get you to see it from a side other than your own. Have you talked to him about this? How are you feeling used when you just had a great night together? He has to pump you up by text the next day too? Yeah, good luck finding a guy who will be down for that.

[EssenceOfLight]

Men aren't into this kind of games, it's out of sight out of mind. I would write him a message and if his reaction is not especially enthusiastic, I would leave him alone.

[Joker_]

You should text him

[blueeyethickthighs]

thank you soooo so much.

[Joker_]

You're welcome