Would my crush find it creepy if I sent him an anonymous love message?

[Anonymous]

So there's this guy I really like; he's already asked me out a few times, but I'm declining his invitations because I'm still emotionally unstable and working on myself. But I didn't really reject him directly; I just told him that I'm busy with my studies and haven't been vaccinated yet, which is true, but it's more on the grounds that I don't want to ruin the potential between us. I know that if I pursue him, we won't last because I'm still dealing with a lot of issues. I want to pursue him when I'm ready, and by then, I'd be the one to message him and ask him out well if he's still single. I believe I'll be ready for a relationship after finishing my studies next year. So, in any case, I just wanted to send this guy an anonymous love message to compliment him and let him know that someone out there appreciates him as a person because I think guys rarely receive compliments as much as girls do. So I just kinda want to boost his ego; I don't mind if it benefits him more than me because I like him. Should I consider doing it , or should I just wait until I'm ready to date him?

[SeryCoola]

I think he would find it sweet, especially if you are sincere and if not long after that he would find out who sent the message. If it's just anonymous, without any hint that you might be the author, than he will probably think it was either a message for someone else, or just a joke. Also, if you ask him if he is single while he is still pursuing you, he will most likely say that he is not single.

But, as some other people noted, it might be best to talk face to face with him, if you have the courage, because then the message would not be misunderstood. But I understand that that might not be that easy.

On another note, I did that once with a girl. Granted, she explicitly said multiple times that she doesn't like me, but I still wanted to send her an anonymous message telling her that I will forever keep her in my heart, and then, the next day the whole school found out that it was me who sent the message and untill the end of high school I was known as that weirdo who sends anonymous love messages and people always laughed at me and because of that I was unable to get a girlfriend during high school...

But I am sure that boys are different and not that mean about girls, so do what you feel is best. Good luck!

[ohshee]

You know what I think you are so cool for even thinking this and wanting to do it,, I think it is hot I think it was passionate I think it is romantic I think it is beautiful. I mean for me I would absolutely love this. But I think here's the drawback is if you send him something. Will he send you something back. And then how deep will it go. And then will he ever tell you that he has a secret admirer or will he keep it a secret. I don't know but for me I should I love this I absolutely love it I think this is just very hot sensual seduction Sexy just cool

[bowenw]

I think you should be honest with him and tell him you'd like to go out with him but you're not quite ready yet, but want to be friends for now. At least he'll know you are interested in him and he may be willing to wait. You may benefit from discussing your emotional issues with your doctor or a school counsellor.

[Ronald_25]

Wait till you're ready to date him. Your crush sounds like me so far and I often get messages and compliments off dating apps. If it comes through as anonymous, he may think it's someone catfishing him. Wait till you're emotionally stable, walk up to him, strike up a convo then ask him out to something casual/no pressure like to meet up in a park or go for coffee. I've been asked out by girls before, very hot and very nice to see a girl with initiative, big turn on.

[Ronald_25]

I've dated girls when I was stressed and emotionally unstable before, we're not making the right choices and may damage the relationship, it's best to wait and find the path to the stable, adult responsible you 😊

[boggboss]

Anonymous letters are pointless it means nothing as its send by a nobody in his mind it could just be a troll or even a guy sending it

[boggboss]

Plus a year is a long time to gamble on him not only still being attracted to you but not moving on or finding another partner

[Asker]

That's what I'm thinking too because he has a lot of friends, but he's a really handsome man, so maybe he'll kind of consider it isn't a troll I don't know haha but I think I won't do it anymore😂

[boggboss]

But even if not again ots kind off pointless as it means nothing as its sent by nobody being handsome or not lol

[Asker]

You're right, and it might just fuel my feelings because I'm trying to focus on myself right now, so I can't be distracted, and I don't want to get my hopes up. so we'll just see in the future but I won't expect nor obsess over him.

[boggboss]

👍🏽

[JustinTimberlegs]

If it was me I'd appreciate it :) as long as they're not stalking you or anything I think it's flattering that someone thinks so highly of me. Of course it's not the same as an actual confession, but it's still a compliment. I wouldn't find it creepy unless the note was in somewhere weird like my bathroom or wallet or something.

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't do that. I know you think it sounds nice, but, from the perspective of a guy, getting an anonymous love note would just be extremely annoying. It wouldn't cause happiness or boost his ego in any way. He'll just be like, "WTF?"

If someone has feelings for me, I want them to just be honest about it. Don't play games.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Well, anonymous messages aren't always reassuring and welcome...

[spartan55]

Tbh it doesn't really boost your ego if you don't know who is behind it.

[Shy_Steve]

He will appreciate it more if you just tell him how you feel about or just ask him on a proper date, Reading for a lot of Guys especially younger Guys is like work.

[Dvchill]

90% of creepy factor is how much the receiver likes the giver 10% actually saying some off the wall shit

[Feelicks]

You should just date him, there's never a perfect time and it would probably be a regret for you if he finds someone else