A hook up/ friends with benefits is confusing me, he was getting very personal/ cuddly however has not messaged me since we had sex?

[Anonymous]

Met on bumble, then started speaking on sc. I said I was fine with hooking up with him but I wanted to find someone to date so I would still be dating so which he was fine with. He asked to meet up, I told him I had a date which he went weird over, he started saying he wasn’t going to wait around for me and then we got into a disagreement about something small two days later, he bought this guy up despite the fact it was irrelevant. The date didn’t go well and I didn’t plan on seeing him again so I messaged Ollie and asked about seeing him for a hook up, he then said he wanted us to watch movies in bed and relax and enjoy each other’s company as well as the sex. We met up and had a lot of sex however in between it he kept asking me personal questions such as if I wanted kids and asking all about my family, every single detail. I went to initiate sex again but he said he was just enjoying talking to me and spending time with me. We spoke about quite deep stuff as he has recently been through a loss of a family member. The whole time I was there he kept on saying how nice it was to have me there and that I was welcome around any time. He doesn’t live close to me so he said about me in the future coming down for the weekend staying over his and he would take me out to different places. He also kept on saying that he liked being single but he missed being in a relationship. He hinted to ask if I was seeing someone or if I get hit on a lot. I stayed over night and he could not stop cuddling me the whole time. Next day I left, he asked me to text him when I got home and that he would come up to see me next time. He seemed quite insecure. I text him when I got home but I haven’t heard anything from him since, it has been 2 days. He follows a lot of girls on insta, I get the feeling he speaks to a lot of girls however he did leave his phone in the same room with me when he left to go down stairs and let me look through a menu on his phone when he did something else.

[Charolette_chinski]

If he liked you ( meaning in the way of wanting to date you) you’d know it. Trust me. Anytime there is confusion there is something else going on.
Don't get confused by anything he says when you’re in person with him. he's fluffing you up for the next time he wants to hit you up

[Avcfhcic]

I think it's a case of you've been used.
He got what he wanted,, sex and then he's out if he didn't feel the urge to want it again.
It's a situation where it's hard but you need to forget

[Avicenna]

He just doesn't want to share, that's all, while he chases other women

[Anonymous]

I feel terrible telling you this, but if the guy has a clear head on his shoulders, he wouldn't be using dating sites to find a potential partner to share his assets, liabilities, aspirations, and fears.

The partner would have to be someone that he is able to observe closely and make sure they can be a team together. Even with 50% divorce rates at 30. It means people are still choosing carefully because marriage is still a legal contract.

[Iron_Man]

Those things never work out