Is it normal that I’m a little afraid of having a boy in the future?

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If I have a boy In the future I’ll accept it but it kind of scares me because a lot of the crimes that are committed are committed by men and in my family I had a cousin who was only like 10 or 11 that raped my five-year-old cousin who is a boy (they’re both boys) this made me scared even more scared and today I was just hearing about how this girl was sexually assaulted in my college at night. I just feel scared because so many crimes are committed by men and men’s hormones kind of drives them crazy they always want sex (not all men but a lot) and I’m just concerned. I guess I’m scared about my son ending up this way I know females could be a disappointment too but I just feel like hormones truly drive men crazy and that really worries me. It also really worries me that most men would even fuck a mcchicken if they could.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

No one ever does anything that's outside of how they were raised. There are tons of reasons why criminals are mostly men and one of the biggest ones is that women are rarely ever charged with crimes that a man hangs for.

That being said having a boy is WAYY easier on parents than having a girl. Boys don't need much in terms of physical maintenance, no earings, no makeup, no nailpolish, no nothing. You also worry less about them peeing outside since they can do it standing up.
Plus boys do not have periods, so no tampons or monthly issues with bleeding or anything like that.

And above all, boys are told to suck it up and won't blow your ears with whining and complaining about every little thing.

Wiredone · Accepted Answer

You shouldn't be afraid of having a son. Not all boys are criminals. If you raise him right he would be an upstanding citizen.

MrOracle · Answer

Your children are going to learn their morals and values from their mother and father. More importantly, they're going to learn it less by what you say, and more by what they observe you DOING. If you behave responsibly and respectfully, and demand that they do as well, they almost certainly will. If they see you behaving badly, they're going to do the same. If they see you lying, cheating, committing fraud, stealing, talking bad about other people, etc., then they're going to do those things too.

It's your job as a parent to teach your kids to be responsible for themselves and their actions. You need to set boundaries and limits, and you need to let them know what they are, and what the punishment is for breaking the rules, and when they break those rules, you MUST enforce that punishment to the letter EVERY SINGLE TIME. And you and your husband need to be on the same page - your kids need to know that they aren't going to get away with stuff if they go to mom instead of dad or vice versa. Consistency is the only thing that works. They're going to mess up, and they're going to push boundaries, and YOU have to teach them, through consistent actions, that crossing those boundaries results in punishment EVERY TIME.

You also need to give your kids responsibilities. A 2-year-old can pick up toys. A 4 year old can put away clothes. Give them little tasks to do, and over time, those tasks should increase as their abilities increase. As they prove responsible, they should get freedoms, and freedoms and responsibilities should always be tied together - you should never get one without the other.

If you follow these basic guidelines, then your kids will do just fine, boys and girls both. Kids need structure, and they need good examples to follow. And your rules need to make sense, because kids won't respect rules that don't make sense. If they have that, and their parents are consistent, then they're going to grow up and be good people.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I believe that sexually assault/rape is due to something with the mind
and people are not doing any research.. I had a Psychologist when I
was little in grade school tried telling my mom that I had some learning
disability problems but my mom didn't want to accept so she takes me
to the family doctor who said I was okay, I believe Dr. Deems was right
I had a high sex drive as a teen and constantly getting erections as a teen
I don't know what to think but after the years past my sex drive went low
and I know am on male hormone replacement therapy so who knows
also after getting on mental health medications I am doing much better
so I know where you are coming from, when I was a teen I was a firebug and
liked to play with fire yes it was crazy and my parents bought me a bee bee gun
well that was the worst thing they could have given me I do believe in school
I should have been placed in Special Education classes cause I barely graduated
high school class of 86

Makeushiver · Answer

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Tunasub · Answer

Most women are afraid because they don't know what to do after having a baby. Scared of not knowing how to get the baby to stop crying things of that nature, not the things that you are concerned with and having 4 children myself and helped raise my nieces and nephews I've never not even a fleeting thought of what you are worried about and I've had family members that have done the same things your family members have and worse.

Sure you want your children and all children to be safe but I'm thinking that you are so far off from being a mother ( maybe I'm wrong) this is the last thing that you should be having anxiety over. We don't know what the future holds or how things will be for children or adults at that time.

If you have a boy you'll accept him? I would hope you'd do more than accept him..

Be scared of giving birth, be scared to hold the baby, be scared to bathe, and not knowing when the baby is hungry... normal things that new mothers are scared of.. but right of the bat scared that something horrible will happen to him or that he will do something horrible, years away from the baby's first breath of air and not knowing if you'll even have a boy at all... if anything think positive things and happy thoughts instead of things that we all hope never ever happens to children or anyone for that matter.

worldscolide · Answer

If that makes you afraid of having a boy, you should not have children.. Boys like that aren't born that way, they are taught, and raised that way.. Meaning if you have a son that turns out like that, it's on you, it's your fault..

And women can be and often are just as bad as men, they just don't get caught, or if they are caught, it's brushed off as nothing because women are seen as the gender that can do no wrong, yet they neglect, abuse, and murder their children at three times the rate as men...

Being male does not automatically mean he will be bad... That's just as bad as a racist claiming that being born black makes you automatically a criminal.. It's a sexist and bigoted view no more no less.

NathanDavis · Answer

I assure you that I have never ever assaulted a McChicken...

and most men have not done that either, most people are just normal people and not criminal predators

and I am sure you would be a good mother too, in the future, don't worry about these things

Celtero · Answer

Eh, you're just a misandrist then. Girls and women do awful things too, but you only care if it was a man.

If your 10 year old cousin raped someone it's likely because they were raped themselves by an adult, that's just not something that normal and healthy children do.

What you're really admitting to is that you are going to be a bad mother who is going to raise some criminal.

iBeowulf · Answer

Guys, women have a 2.5 times weaker sex drive and unlike men, women have a five times stronger bias towards women, so it's always about her and parceled out sex for ongoing money. She can get child support and alimony or just spend your money in the relationship, but you can't force sex so she always, always has the advantage, especially in a divorce.

loves2learn · Answer

I have 2 boys. I love them more than I can describe and I have always been thrilled to be their mom. I will always be their mom and be a fierce advocate for them. They are good kids.

DaveToo · Answer

Boys grow into men. Sometimes they go off the deep end. However, my daughter has both a son and a daughter, and she's also a Coast Guard veteran, as well as her husband. They take no shit from the kids. Firm but gentle, don't bend to the child's will.

007kingifrit · Answer

listen. we live in a time of information where you can get whatever information you seek instantly. this means its very easy to find super bad news very quickly in large quantities.

that doesn't mean bad things happen often. it just means you CHOOSE to see bad things. the news highlights the worst news and you soak it up instead of turning it off

Starman5 · Answer

Not all men are like this. How you raise your child, they will be. If you raise it as a good person, it will be good, if you raise it as a bad person, it will be bad. so everything is in your hands. By the way, are you going to marry your current boyfriend? And do you think he will be a good father?

YourPsychoBF · Answer

"It also really worries me that most men would even fuck a mcchicken if they could." 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Twalli · Answer

Actually very few people commit crimes. More men than women commit crimes, but most men aren't criminals

Deku2009 · Answer

Those boys were raised wrong , if you raise him right then he won’t go down that path.

Hanmakev · Answer

Hard work and discipline will turn him into a fine man children need to be taught self control when they hit that age regardless of sex

Berethor · Answer

So you trust your boyfriend, but you would not trust your son?

Sweetener_ · Answer

This depends on how you raise your child.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No o guess all parents are afraid for there kids after all looking at the world we live in

IcedLemonade · Answer

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