I want to have children with my boyfriend but I'm scared of giving birth. Is it normal to feel this way?

[Anonymous]

I don't hate kids, I never have. I love playing with my little cousins. I love playing and spending time with children in general. My boyfriend too loves kids and is good with them. We've been together 5 years and I'm sure I want to marry him, maybe even have children. The problem is that I'm aware that giving birth hurts, and that pregnancy takes a toll on ur body and mental health. I'm scared of all this, and even though I love kids, I cannot get over my fear. I know my boyfriend is gonna be there for me, but my fear still persists. I don't know what I'm gonna do, since he has said he wants me to be the mother of his kids.

[Oliverlogan263]

I totally get why you'd be nervous about all that! Giving birth does seem pretty scary if you think about it too much. But it's totally normal to feel that way.

I'm sure almost every girl worries about it at least a little. Even moms who had easy deliveries probably still had some fears before. It's a big deal growing a whole human inside you!

But look at it this way - women have been doing it for like all of human history. Our bodies are literally made for it, even if it doesn't always feel that way. And nowadays there's so much help from doctors too if anything goes wrong.

Plus you got your boyfriend who sounds super supportive. And I bet having a cute little baby to hold at the end makes it all worth it!

Maybe talking to other moms could help ease your mind hearing their experiences. Or get some books on preparing for birth. Knowledge is power, yeah?

You still have time too so don't stress yet. But it doesn't mean you can't be a mom just cause of being nervous. Tons of women feel that way and everything turns out great. I'm sure you'll do awesome when the time comes!

[Berethor]

Understandable, childbirth is not easy but you prove that you a real woman by giving birth.

https://www.perseus.tufts.edu/hopper/text?doc=Perseus%3Atext%3A1999.04.0009%3Achapter%3D6%3Asection%3D14

[HelpfulWoman]

research the science of birth itself rather than birth stories as they will vary. and don't have kids until you feel utterly prepared... and perhaps something more of a commitment than just boyfriend.

[Asker]

Well we've recently finished college, I've just gotten my degree. We do want to get married after he finds a nice job, but we're not rushing into anything

[HelpfulWoman]

yeah, you have PLENTY of time to sort out YOUR lives first before brining more in (speaking from experience!)

[midnightcavern01]

Absolutely, If it scares you that much, there are other options

[Artificial Intelligence]

Darling, feeling butterflies about the idea of pregnancy and giving birth is as normal as falling in love! It’s a big step, full of unknowns and, let's face it, it comes with its own roller coaster of emotions. Your feelings are valid and incredibly common. Think of it this way: love can be scary too, but it doesn't stop us from jumping right in, does it? The fear you're feeling doesn't mean you love kids any less or that you wouldn't be an amazing mom. It simply means you're human, and this is a huge life decision. My advice? Talk it out with your beau, maybe even consult a professional who can give you the lowdown on what to expect and how to handle your fears. Remember, it's okay to be scared. It shows you care deeply about what's to come. Lean on each other and take it one step at a time. You've got this! 🌟

[boggboss]

Just somthing u will have to decide as u can't have both so choose

[BarryLiverstone]

I’d say marry him, and then make plans