Is it wrong to wanna get with your guy friends best friend?

[Anonymous]

Is it wrong to wann fuck/date your guy friends best friend? (Context: you’ve never dated your guy friend. Just really a question.

[MrOracle]

I wouldn't say it was wrong, but there's a good chance that your "guy friend" is going to be jealous, because he's almost certainly not really your "guy friend", but rather is hanging around you hoping for an opportunity to date you or at least have sex with you. Still, you have made no commitment to him (presumably), so you're free to do as you wish.

[Asker]

No. No. His best friend has a girlfriend right now so obviously I’d never try anything with him but I can’t stop thinking about him. Is that wrong? Me and MY guy friend never dated is that wrong to think of his buddy that way? Like I feel like I’m wrong for it but MY guy friend said that I’m not his buddy’s type, that if MY guy friend finds out i tried to ruin his buddy’s relationship me and MY guy friend will have problems. I would NEVER try and flirt with a man who has a girlfriend and I even told my guy friend but he kept on repeating the same thing about me being a homewrecker.

“If I find out that you’re the reason they break up me and you will have a problem” His exact words.

Also, MY guy friend says he doesn’t want me to date me, it’ll never happen, (he actually has a girlfriend now and has said this while he has been with her for about a month).

[MrOracle]

Ok. Well, I mean, it's okay to WANT your friend's friend, but given that he has a girlfriend, it's not okay to actually DO anything about it unless he becomes single again at some point. I mean, I might WANT to bang Scarlett Johansson, but I'm not doing anything to try to make that happen (she's married and has a kid, and even if that wasn't the case, there's little chance I'd have a shot anyway).

But if you're thinking about him while you finger yourself in the shower or whatever, I promise not to tell anyone, and no harm done.

[Asker]

He definitely gets some type of way whenever I mention his friend. (MY guy friend)

[MrOracle]

Well, if he's in a relationship, I can see him not wanting you to blow that up. So, yeah, you probably shouldn't bring that up with him again as long as he's in that relationship.

[Asker]

I’ve never talked to his guy friend. I’m talking about MY guy friend lol

[MrOracle]

No, I get it. I'm saying YOUR friend does want to see HIS friend's relationship messed up just because you want to jump his friend's bones. He's looking out for his buddy.

[Asker]

Yea I get that. Of course I’d never do anything without him being single. But, do you really think it would hurt my guy best friend? of course that’s not what I’m trying to do, I just think his buddy is extremely attractive.

[MrOracle]

If he's in a relationship, then you are fine.

[spartan55]

Oh yeah, I'm sure that will go over well with your 'guy friend'... 😂 😂 😂

[Asker]

What? What do you mean?

[spartan55]

Not sure why this is even being discussed since that guy has a girlfriend.

[Asker]

So I can’t find a guy attractive even if he has a girlfriend? I never said I would pursue him

[spartan55]

Of course you can, but the fact that you are bringing it to this forum means it's more than just a passing thought. Don't sit there and say it isn't. It seems girls get a pass for this shit and it's ridiculous.

[spartan55]

And YOU are married too?

[bigpauly]

No. It might make the guy friend feel a certain way if he is into you. More so if you guys are flirty or anything like that

[Asker]

What do you mean if?

[bigpauly]

Like if you and the guy friend have flirted before, not his friend

[Asker]

Read replies to my other comment. It’ll make more sense :)

[bigpauly]

Oh got ya. I think having a crush is fine

[Asker]

I’m not sure what to do.

[bigpauly]

If he has a girlfriend I'd probably not pursue the crush. It may hurt your friendship

[exitseven]

Why not? Unless your guy friend objects for some reason.

[Anonymous]

No I don't think there's anything wrong with you doing that

[Asker]

Okay that’s what I was thinking too haha. It’s not wrong or dirty right? Cause I like his guy friend but me and MY guy friend never dated, so it’s not wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

No I don't think so do you think your friend would be upset if you did

[Asker]

Yes I would. His best friend had a girlfriend but I can’t stop thinking about him. Putting fake scenarios in my head.

I WOULD NEVER talk to his guy friend UNLESS he’s single I promise. MY best friend kept on saying “you’re not his type anyways”

[Opinion Owner]

Do you think you're retarded friend has feelings for you

[Asker]

He kept on saying things like “oh you’re not his type” “you’re not gonna be a homewrecker” “If I find out you are flirting with him and ruin his relationship” I told him multiple times I would never talk to him LIKE THAT (his best friend) unless he’s single.

Also, he says no but MY guy best friend has a girlfriend and now he won’t even talk to me so I don’t care about him right now.

[Asker]

My guy friend got mad at me because I requested to follow him (his best friend) on Instagram. I told him “maybe I just wanna be his friend” OF COURSE I’d never flirt with him if he has a girlfriend.

My guy friend said he doesn’t wanna a relationship with me so I don’t see the problem.

[Opinion Owner]

My best female friend had sex with one of my guy friends I was a little jealous

[Asker]

But why?

[Opinion Owner]

Because I really liked her

[Asker]

He tells me he doesn’t like me like that, that he doesn’t want a relationship with me. Doesn’t see me like a type of girl in a relationship, etc. So I don’t get it. Like he has a girlfriend now (he never told me that were dating, I found out from his girlfriend who had told me and that same night because for whatever reason they were fighting over me and he ended up blocking my number.

PSA: I have YET to be unblocked.

[Opinion Owner]

Then I wouldn't even worry about what he thinks. But my friend at least she did ask me before she did it

[Asker]

I’m assuming you lied to her about it. You told her it was okay when it really wasn’t?

[Opinion Owner]

I did admit to her that I was a little bit jealous but that it was okay and that she wanted to do it she should I even helped make it happen

[Asker]

IF anything ever happened between me and one of his friends, I don’t think his friends would tell him anything or let me tell him. He has a very close friendship with all his homies. I do think he’d feel betrayed and hurt. Especially if he seen me and one of his friends in front of him, but he did tell his girlfriend he doesn’t care about me and after they got together he wanted nothing to do with me so like I said, fuck him. He’ll come around again.

[Waldoe]

Nothing wrong with that, ask you "guy Friend" if his buddy is interested in you

[Tstrbrainer]

Just go ahead, your friend should not control your life. Just fuck the guy you like. Good luck

[he-takes-a-part]

Wait you mean being someones girlfriend and then fucking his friend?

[Asker]

No. No. His best friend has a girlfriend right now so obviously I’d never try anything with him but i can’t stop thinking about him. Is that wrong? Me and MY guy friend never dated is that wrong to think of his buddy that way?

[he-takes-a-part]

Wrong/Right you decide but would there be any stop then? That i guess is more important to think? And dw if there’s no stop thats really cool coz i myself am in the queues (last one)

[888theGreat]

Not when you are married

[Asker]

(Asking for a friend haha)

[888theGreat]

right and I am Mr Rogers meow meow

[msc545]

Seems ok

[Anonymous]

way to ruin a friendship you tramp

[Sampan2017]

Yes in my opinion

[Asker]

How so?

[ICanHazHelp]

So the how so is most likely a bro code sort of thing but if I was the friend and this has happened with me I wouldn't care I'd even help you get together but that's me you do you unless they're super against it after all they probably know thier friend better so there might be a reason like they seem nice but in a relationship they're a douchebag sort of thing.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Not at all

[Asker]

Read my replies. It’ll make more sense :)

[lycanthrope3]

not at all