*long term relationship, 2 kids, a house and up until the non-toxic issues that caused the split, we were best friends as well*
So last night my ex came around to grab a few things from our house and see our daughter.
He made a comment about how he knows I've got a lot on my mind at the moment, but we do need to think about what will happen to our assets now that we have split.
This took me by surprise. I said I haven't really thought about it much tbh, but asked him if he had any suggestions which he didn't. He didn't say we needed to do it now, but maybe 3-4 months down the line as I'm currently expecting.
He noted how my hormones seem to be settling since the last time this was mentioned I broke down and kinda overreacted, which I didn't do this time. I explained that I feel a bit more leveled out, thank God because I really didn't like the person I became when those hormones took control. He also said he doesn't mean to call me so much (every night) but he really enjoys talking to me and has trouble missing a day. I told him I look forward to his calls.
After that, we were joking around with my daughter and he pinched my butt. I scoffed and called him a tease. When he went outside to leave, he went to his car 3 times to go, but kept coming back (I walked him out). Eventually, he helped me up from my seat, and kept holding my hand. He said I wouldn't let go of him, but there was resistance from him too.
Eventually, he gave me a hug and put his head lower until we could kiss. We did this a bit and he kept hugging me. Eventually, he did go to leave but not before kissing my cheek like old times.
Now, I'm super confused. It felt like a stab in the heart to talk about splitting up assets and I thought then and there that there was no coming back for us.
Then he shows that level of affection afterwards and im not sure now. He's not seeing anyone else, haven't changed statuses on social media or anything and we still work together with our joint account and finances.
So last night my ex came around to grab a few things from our house and see our daughter.
He made a comment about how he knows I've got a lot on my mind at the moment, but we do need to think about what will happen to our assets now that we have split.
This took me by surprise. I said I haven't really thought about it much tbh, but asked him if he had any suggestions which he didn't. He didn't say we needed to do it now, but maybe 3-4 months down the line as I'm currently expecting.
He noted how my hormones seem to be settling since the last time this was mentioned I broke down and kinda overreacted, which I didn't do this time. I explained that I feel a bit more leveled out, thank God because I really didn't like the person I became when those hormones took control. He also said he doesn't mean to call me so much (every night) but he really enjoys talking to me and has trouble missing a day. I told him I look forward to his calls.
After that, we were joking around with my daughter and he pinched my butt. I scoffed and called him a tease. When he went outside to leave, he went to his car 3 times to go, but kept coming back (I walked him out). Eventually, he helped me up from my seat, and kept holding my hand. He said I wouldn't let go of him, but there was resistance from him too.
Eventually, he gave me a hug and put his head lower until we could kiss. We did this a bit and he kept hugging me. Eventually, he did go to leave but not before kissing my cheek like old times.
Now, I'm super confused. It felt like a stab in the heart to talk about splitting up assets and I thought then and there that there was no coming back for us.
Then he shows that level of affection afterwards and im not sure now. He's not seeing anyone else, haven't changed statuses on social media or anything and we still work together with our joint account and finances.
