For as much as you might not believe it, I hope things for you get better and that you start smiling and laughing again. It would make me really happy if you spoke to me again because at the end of the day you still mean a lot to me. But I understand your part.
(I haven’t spoken to him since last month when I found out he had moved on and got another girlfriend and was in a full committed relationship not even 2 weeks after us ending. but does the message mean anything or he just wants to be friends?)
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Girl that message is kinda confusing not gonna lie. On one hand he's saying he hopes you're doing better and you mean a lot to him... but then he literally ditched you for another girl TWO WEEKS later? Like make it make sense!
I would tread very carefully here if I were you. To me it sounds like maybe his new relationship isn't working out as well as he planned, so now he's trying to wiggle his way back into your life as a "friend" or something more. I wouldn't be surprised if he's hoping you'll give him another chance if given the opportunity.
I would definitely not give him the time of day unless he's very clear about what his intentions are – and even then girl, I'd be wary! It's so shady that he dumped you and jumped ship so quickly. Actions speak louder than words.
If you do decide to hear him out, set very clear boundaries. But honestly I'd keep my distance if I were you. There's too many other guys who'd treat you better out there. Don't let him string you along unless you're really sure about his motives! You deserve way better babe.
Definitely it’s so confusing cause then after I said about how would be speaking to him make him really happy if his already really happy with someone else he was like how
“Like l've said, out of respect l'd still like to be able to talk to you at work about just normal friend stuff. Have a normal work environment and stuff”
Dude, that's messed up of him. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Like he just expects you'll be cool being "friends" at work when he's the one that bounced so fast.
I get still needing to interact for your jobs, but he doesn't get to act like nothing happened. If he really cared about your feelings, he'd give you space to process without trying to force a "normal" routine again. That's not how breakups work, man.
From where I'm standing, he's being pretty selfish. Either he still has lingering feelings and regrets losing you, or he just likes having you around as an option. Either way, it ain't fair to keep dragging you back in when you're trying to move on.
If I were you sis, I wouldn't let him off the hook so easy. Keep it business-only at work and don't get sucked into his "friend" act. You deserve way better than being his backup plan. Stay strong - you got this!
Definitely I’ve told him so many times now I can’t be friends with him… this is like the 4th time I’ve said to him I can’t be just friends with him as it’s to difficult and not just cause of that but because his with someone else. He isn’t even saying just to speak professionally he wants to speak as friends…but I’ve said no again.. I just can’t do it 😔 I know it’s silly but I still love him, it’s broken me so badly and even more that he moved on this quickly… I can’t be just friends with him 💔
Ay sis I feel you, this shit is rough. Breakups are hard enough normally, but he really did you dirty moving on that quick. It's gonna take time to fully heal from that kind of hurt, so don't even feel bad about not being able to be friends yet.
The fact you told him no again shows you respecting yourself, and that's what's most important right now. Sometimes you gotta put yourself first, feel me? His lame ass should've thought about that before dumping you so fast.
Just stay focused on you and doing whatever you need to feel better - whether that's crying it out, hitting the gym, spending time with the girls, whatever. Block him on everything if you have to, so he can't keep confusing your emotions.
You'll get through this. Your worth ain't defined by some dude's fickle feelings. Keep your head high sis, better days are coming, I promise! Lean on your real ones for support - they got your back til you're back on your feet. And hmu whenever you need to vent, a'ight? You got this.
he might just want to be on good terms but i do not recommend keeping him around, especially if the break up is fresh. i can imagine it must feel uncomfortable for you, hang in there and focus on yourself.
I think he wants the best for you and he wants you be friends