Honestly: what should I do with my ex who I’m still in love with?

[Anonymous]

For context purposes: we dated for about 4 months and things got really rocky and we ended up breaking up but haven’t actually stopped talking. We broke up in February.

PSA: (Yes I did cross out the girls name because I don’t want real life peoples name exploited like that).

Updates

+1 y

I’m sorry, I thought I crossed out the girls name but I guess I didn’t.

[shroomerite]

Girll, let him walk. He’s young, you’re young. His responses seemed practical in the sense that he’s a guy who doesn’t wanna be w/ someone who’s constantly wondering if y’all will become “more” after having had a rocky relationship and he doesn’t want to get shit from you if get mad at him and accuse him of “only wanting sex from you” whilst being broken up. Girly, you still seem to have hope you’ll “be his again” but it doesn’t seem like he’s very focused on having anyone [in committed terms.]
Also: I hate to say this but it doesn’t sound like the two of you are at the same level of emotional maturity.
Continuing to talk to him whilst being broken is probably not the healthiest thing you could be doing for yourself.
Forget him, let him live his life.
In the meantime, you can work on yourself orrr find someone who will happily simp for you.

[Asker]

I wish I could show you a shit ton more messages from him telling he needs to heal and he needs time before he can get back together with me and how he doesn’t want to rush shit with me. He still cares about me and he only wants to love me, etc. God there’s so much shit.

[proNutro]

Literally going through this with someone rn, we were together for about 4 months, things went bad and we split up but still talk.
Nearly two years later with still talking and going in circles, girl I’ll just tell you to save yourself and just leave. If he wanted you or cared remotely similar to you, he’d be with you but he’s not and it shows.
Don’t ever bed for a man to want you because there’s totally going to be a guy out there that will put in effort and who actually wants to be with you. I need to listen to myself too so I can’t really talk🥴

[muncher717]

FUCK YOU TOO

[Asker]

What is going on 😂😂

[muncher717]

you you're a piece of shit fuck off

[Asker]

What? Why? 😂 I don’t even know you lol

[proNutro]

Some troll don’t even acknowledge him

[megabamse]

Sounds like there a for of age gap he don't like. And he's on a different path in life because of that age gap. You can't force some to like you the same way you like them. He wants a relationship, but maybe not now. And when he do he most likely want to date someone on the same path as him, and close to his age.

[blissinanarchy1]

I'm a bit toxic. Im not over my ex. I leave her alone and had to completely remove her from my life because any guy she sleeps with will get beat the fuck up.

[Asker]

Do you think he’d react the same way? Is that you’re implying?

[blissinanarchy1]

I don't know. A lot of guys can be like that, especially inner city guys. I never abuse or hurt my girl, but people she slept with in the past gotta go through it with me too. I got jealoysy issues like that, but at the same time I don't control her texts, friends, etc. He might react like that.

[Asker]

He’s easily jealous of my guy friend because he “talks shit” about him but I think he gets jealous of him personally. He told me he wanted to fuck him up and watch him bleed out. Which is pretty fucked up say but he tried to say it was cause my best friend talks mad shit about him behind his back and acts nice to his face.

My question is, I wanna get his attention without purposely making it obvious. Should I dress slutty? Like clothings he likes, etc?

[blissinanarchy1]

Post on social media about being single. Hop on tinder and let him know it. Take pics with another guy

[Asker]

He told me the other night, “no. I’ll just walk away and never think twice.” so i kinda wanna show him how hot and sexy I am. He told me he does miss me. I got some cute slutty tops coming in the mail soon and super excited to wear it around him and show him how sexy i am lol.

[dysrhythmicheart]

I'm going to be blunt. STOP talking to him. Shot. You are feeding into his ego. And not in a good way. Block him him if you need to. Easier to let go. Just stop. You are devaluing yourself. And he will like you even less.

[Alyssa_11]

You need to make yourself available on as his girlfriend and nothing else. If he reacts to that you got him. If not move on.

[Alyssa_11]

Only as his girlfriend*

[Anonymous]

There's so many guys who would love to have a girlfriend for themselves who are lonely. Why are you going after someone who's with someone else? Give some other guy a chance, and yourself a chance.

[WalterBlack]

Sounds like it is time to go your separate ways. You're tormenting each other by not making a clean break and realizing that it is over.

[luvstoned4him]

Let me guess you are the green and he is the black? Just want to make sure I get this right.

[Asker]

Yes lol

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker let me first say that you are very intelligent young woman. I really enjoyed your last three paragraphs and because of that you have answered your own question. Just by his response I can tell this guy isn't serious about you. It's like he cannot commit or won't commit to you. I know it sucks and you won't feel it now but you are right to move on. Find someone who can appreciate you cause you deserve it

[Anonymous]

you both sound immature. why are you still texting each other?

[Shamalien]

tough to say. It would be nice to get some closure and move on

[noohair]

Find someone that will cherish you.

[Iron_Man]

Follow your heart

[SignedAutographs]

Move on hun

[Pterodon]

Move on