Why did he break up with me out the blue?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me out of nowhere saying the arguing was bad when honestly in reality it wasn’t. So he left one day later I see him friend requesting females on fb messaging them and telling them about our problems making me look like the bad one. I’m not going to lie I begged him for almost 2 weeks to please just drop it and come home bc I know he loves me well at least he showed it everyday even the night before he left the next morning. Anyways 3 weeks down the line I’ve cut the contact short now (but we did go to dinner and a hotel room last Friday and he asked if we could be friends I said no) but now when he drinks he talks to his friends saying f*** that b**** I loved her but I don't know (friends tell me this) that he wasn’t happy anymore etc when he was so lovey dovey never suspected a thing but also yesterday was his birthday and some girl on his fb said happy birthday handsome yes that made me mad why I don't know maybe bc yes we’re broken up but I still love him and don’t understand what’s going on. Can anyone clarify what kind of behavior this is. Will I get him back? 😔 he’s 44 I’m 37.

[noohair]

The first experience any male has with a female is with his mother. A guy will act like a child when he does not get his way. The male ego is as fragile as an egg and does not fix well when broken.

I think fb is abnormal. Social media is fake advertising and voyeurism. Voyeurism was never considered healthy or normal but it has been normalized by abnormally normal "social media". Social media is an abnormal dream world. Live in the real world. It has screwed up dating and courtship too.

No matter how much time you invested, it is not like having money in the bank. The question is do you really want this for the rest of your life?

[In_Trance]

You just weren't paying attention. Things like this never happen out of the blue

[kyleelyn199723]

Just sounds like an overall toxic relationship to me. Not sure if it’s worth saving. He’s at an age where he should be telling other people yet posting about his relationship problems. I see way too much immaturity in this scenario for this to ever work out. I think you just need to leave him behind. He seems way too immature. Cut contact with him, stop giving him chance after chance to treat you like trash

[kyleelyn199723]

He shouldn't*

[Pterodon]

It’s over. What’s bad to one may not be to another