A guy ‘showing’ he’s enjoying a make out session, does it mean he’s attracted to you?

[Anonymous]

No, it’s a kiss and it’s normal

Yeah

Other - please leave an opinion

[PenkWing]

I mean, if you’re making out there’s a good chance that you already are attracted to each other, no?

But please don’t take an erection as a totally reliable indicator of wanting to have sex. Receiving sexual attention can give me a hard on even if I don’t want to have sex with someone. I had the most awkward time when a girl said me goodbye with a warm and lascivious hug at the train station. Not only I got a huge hard on, not only everyone could see it and it was quite challenging to hide, but I didn’t want her to see it or feel it because (for reasons) I didn’t want to show sexual attention to her.

Some other time I was the big spoon with someone I had sex with in the past, but we decided that we didn’t want it anymore. Still, she found my hard on pushing against her butt (well, I have fond memories of that butt). We weren’t embarrassed or anything but it was clear that we didn’t want to be sexual at that time.

[Asker]

I believe so, I am attracted to them but unsure their feelings - they have told me previously I’m attractive but still unsure of how they feel.

Thanks for you reply, I get it can happen at any point. I suppose I posted it because I wanted to know if I was being naive as it’s just kissing or is it something more 🤷🏽‍♀️. I do believe that this is sexual, however, I’m not sure if it’s just that.

[PenkWing]

Hey, maybe clarify with yourself what you want to learn. Is it whether they want to have sex with you? Maybe you want to get some validation that you are attractive but you don’t care about this specific person? Or the opposite, maybe you are wishing romantic involvement with them? This is not something that you will learn from an erection. But if you know what you are looking for, maybe you can find your answer more clearly. I don’t think you are naive to interpret that sign as sexual interest for you—it’s very likely and it’s realistic. I just wanted to have a clear disclaimer not to read to much into things. I hope you both find a way to communicate your intentions and your feelings!

[Asker]

I think what I want to know is why, I know that they want to have sex with me-we’ve spoke about it. I don’t want validation about wether or not I’m attractive- I want to know why they kissed me, is it attraction only, a bit of fun or do they like me? I think he may have a girlfriend - if it is his partner then why is he bothering woth me? Especially when she’s 10/10 and I’m just average. I’ve tried to ask but I don’t get answers that mean anything just things like ‘well I liked it’ etc but he made the first move and keeps trying to make the first move when I see him but it takes me by surprise

[boggboss]

It will happen if he is making out with a girl that he is making out with her tends to indercate he is attracted

[Asker]

What if they weren’t attracted to them and they just wanted ‘some’

[boggboss]

There is always a line as if he didn't find a girl attractive to some degree making out with her wouldn't feel good

[Wise4myage]

Well, if he had a stiffy, then yes, he is attracted to you, lol.

[Asker]

So that doesn’t just like happen all the time with guys when they’re making out with someone?

[Wise4myage]

Thats true.

[Asker]

Ah fair enough