It's a lot to put on my shoulders alone. ya know I have my whole life I'm dealing with too. Lack of confidence is only one aspect. I've got thousands of things going on in my head and even girls that like me and I don't know it won't even be bothered to make the first move sometimes.
Are you talking about in the real world or are you talking about on here I can't speak for anybody but I like to pursue in the real world and even on here but at the same time there has to be a level of respect and when you are respected that's what happens people kind of just back off a little bit this way that I see it anyway
"A guy who really wants a woman will get told [no?] 9 times to hear the word yes once"
If a guy is approaching me again after I told him "no" multiple times, then he's dense and that's at the line of harassment. I don't know why you're encouraging that.
Social Media has changed everything. Core Values in life have been slowly deteriorating life. Just about everything today you can get “NOW!!!” When men do go after women now, they think they can skip everything and go straight to sex. What is your bra size? Do you want to see my dick? Many won’t even ask and just send it. Do you have a nice ass? How much money do you make? Etc. Their are myriad other factors too, so this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Girls nowadays won’t date their own race anymore. from my 23 years of rejections experiences I was mostly told they won’t date their own race (white) and I had a few black girls they only date latinos, Asians and others but no black or white males. My other problems are that girls loves playing mind games on us.
I’m married. If I were not I wouldn’t pursue anyone. No in the strictest sense of the word anyway. I would ask for numbers. I’d ask girls if the wanted to go out. That’s as far as I will go. I won’t chase anyone. I won’t ask more than once.
To me, the word pursue sounds like some love sick fool coming up with wild schemes to get some girl. I’ll initiate, but that’s it.
I don't need or want to. Women make the first move with *ME*!
All of my girlfriends have asked me out and all the times I asked women out it has ended in miserable failure. Why would I ever play by their rules & get shot down when they come to me?
Men need to boycott asking women out so less women feel like they are God's gift to man. Time to show initiative ladies!
If you want a man, you get him and if you're afraid of being told "no".
1. You are losing nothing you came with 2. It's one dude. 3. Being told no is part of life 4. You won't be beat up or hurt 5. It takes minutes 6. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to flatter a man's ego (and it takes way less than a woman') 7. A girl who really wants a man will only get told 1 time to hear the word yes once.
Depends how much younger? 5 or 10 years not a big deal but yeah I could see a 20 something being odd. My ex married a guy 25 years older than her, I thought that was messed up.
@gag2021 I suspect as much, but I should say... after me she married a guy ten years younger than her, then a guy 20 years older than her, then the final one is 25 years older. I would say sugar daddy is probably sort of right, except they had kids together before I 'cut' contact with her forever.
She just wanted to not have to work and have someone else take care of her, she cheated on me and jumped from guy to guy with no single time in between. Mooch or barnacle on the butt of society, whatever you want to call it.
@gag2021 I really suspect she wanted a slave, husband #4 does whatever she wants. He is extremely passive and basically her slave.
I was not a good slave, nor were the other 3 husbands... I think she finally figured out she just wanted someone to work, hand over the money and do whatever she wants him to do. He didn't have a lot of money either, he was working at a gas station as the night shift manager... seems likely more of a slave or sugar daddy combo.
Well we do pursue women but it needs to be done with care as it shouldn’t make the women uncomfortable. Some women are easy and men can go after them easily while some women are hard to understand
because everyone is offended and insulted by pretty much everything in this time and that's so annoying so I perfectly understand why they stopped... all accused of harassment and such..
I think it is a sign of the times. I don't agree with it but it is to easy these days with social media to conform with "what everyone else is doing." personally I think there should be a time of courting, getting to know someone before you go out with them. Today people are looking for instant gratification. I want what I want right now... That self-centeredness leads to the idea of if it takes to long it is not worth it. I think, if it doesn't take time to develop then it won't last.
Guess how many fucks we gove if you dont buy getting arrested. You have a vagina. It will never happen to you. A man in Australia was even arrested after he fixed the woman's car. That's how the bitch thanked him. She filed a false rape accusation.
Social media has ruined dating and courtship. You have probably been on social media your whole adult life. What has it done for you. You are an open book. You used to have to meet face to face and talk to find out about the people you were interested in. There used to be mystery and now a guy knows everything because women post camel toe pictures and say that they like and hate.
Many in the new gen have a crazy fear of rejection that aside from propaganda online many feed into the stupidness that asking a girl out could be seen as sexual harrasment whilst others now feel women should also have to ask guys out
Meh at this point its whatever I personally think if u wanna do it then do it nobody should have to just about understanding that if u don't do it you can't really complain
Meh not much u can do about it college culture in the US has kinda fuxked with dated not as a whole but in some areas they was too zealous with many guys that read thing too literal thinking approaching a women can be seen as harrasment
Oh I don't pursue anything, pretty much every relationship I've had has happened by accident, a couple of beers at the end of the night in the local pub has tended to be a cure to my natural shyness lol
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It's a lot to put on my shoulders alone. ya know I have my whole life I'm dealing with too. Lack of confidence is only one aspect. I've got thousands of things going on in my head and even girls that like me and I don't know it won't even be bothered to make the first move sometimes.
Are you talking about in the real world or are you talking about on here I can't speak for anybody but I like to pursue in the real world and even on here but at the same time there has to be a level of respect and when you are respected that's what happens people kind of just back off a little bit this way that I see it anyway
"A guy who really wants a woman will get told [no?] 9 times to hear the word yes once"
If a guy is approaching me again after I told him "no" multiple times, then he's dense and that's at the line of harassment. I don't know why you're encouraging that.
@petite_princess DIFFERENT girls, you approach different girls each time.
@ChrisMaster69 🙏
Social Media has changed everything. Core Values in life have been slowly deteriorating life. Just about everything today you can get “NOW!!!” When men do go after women now, they think they can skip everything and go straight to sex. What is your bra size? Do you want to see my dick? Many won’t even ask and just send it. Do you have a nice ass? How much money do you make? Etc.
Their are myriad other factors too, so this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Girls nowadays won’t date their own race anymore. from my 23 years of rejections experiences I was mostly told they won’t date their own race (white) and I had a few black girls they only date latinos, Asians and others but no black or white males. My other problems are that girls loves playing mind games on us.
Gotta love modern day racism
The modern bad apples also wants bigger packages nowadays too. The good apples don’t care what they want as long as they get treated right.
Yeah I need a big package
K…. It’s called experiences from rejections but k…
The bigger you go the more health problems that guy will have.
I’m married. If I were not I wouldn’t pursue anyone. No in the strictest sense of the word anyway. I would ask for numbers. I’d ask girls if the wanted to go out. That’s as far as I will go. I won’t chase anyone. I won’t ask more than once.
To me, the word pursue sounds like some love sick fool coming up with wild schemes to get some girl. I’ll initiate, but that’s it.
I don't need or want to. Women make the first move with *ME*!
All of my girlfriends have asked me out and all the times I asked women out it has ended in miserable failure. Why would I ever play by their rules & get shot down when they come to me?
Men need to boycott asking women out so less women feel like they are God's gift to man. Time to show initiative ladies!
My current girlfriend is a hot 19 year old. She hit on me first :)
If you want a man, you get him and if you're afraid of being told "no".
1. You are losing nothing you came with
2. It's one dude.
3. Being told no is part of life
4. You won't be beat up or hurt
5. It takes minutes
6. It doesn't take a rocket scientist to flatter a man's ego (and it takes way less than a woman')
7. A girl who really wants a man will only get told 1 time to hear the word yes once.
Men are not the providers anymore they struggle at too many levels in their lives and women are really their equals ( in western countries)
I dont simply because there are no women around here my age. And its real awkward pursuing younger girls.
Depends how much younger? 5 or 10 years not a big deal but yeah I could see a 20 something being odd. My ex married a guy 25 years older than her, I thought that was messed up.
@Dragonpurple Sugar daddy?
@gag2021 I suspect as much, but I should say... after me she married a guy ten years younger than her, then a guy 20 years older than her, then the final one is 25 years older. I would say sugar daddy is probably sort of right, except they had kids together before I 'cut' contact with her forever.
She just wanted to not have to work and have someone else take care of her, she cheated on me and jumped from guy to guy with no single time in between. Mooch or barnacle on the butt of society, whatever you want to call it.
@Dragonpurple Yes, maybe there's enough guys with money willing to throw it around.
@gag2021 I really suspect she wanted a slave, husband #4 does whatever she wants. He is extremely passive and basically her slave.
I was not a good slave, nor were the other 3 husbands... I think she finally figured out she just wanted someone to work, hand over the money and do whatever she wants him to do. He didn't have a lot of money either, he was working at a gas station as the night shift manager... seems likely more of a slave or sugar daddy combo.
Well we do pursue women but it needs to be done with care as it shouldn’t make the women uncomfortable. Some women are easy and men can go after them easily while some women are hard to understand
Fair enough
because everyone is offended and insulted by pretty much everything in this time and that's so annoying so I perfectly understand why they stopped... all accused of harassment and such..
Why? Because they are a bunch of cowards. I always had to be the one to initiate things in my past relationships
Me too
You have no idea what it is like being a man & it shows.
Juxtapose no I don’t. Why? What is it like? Tell me.
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How can I sum up 32 years of being my sex? We have different hormones & experiences. You'd need to walk in my shoes (and vice versa).
Show initiative & stop acting so entitled. Calling men who don't ask you out cowards when you won't either is *hypocritical*.
Well more, when you don't *want* to ask them out either.
And the passive aggressive emojis are noted.
I think you’ve misunderstood me. In fact, I’m the one who has always had to ask men out.
Don’t be so negative man.
So what do you want out of men? For them to ask as much as you?
It would be nice. I don’t know. I just figure life is too short to wait around for things to happen. And if it doesn’t work out, I move on. It’s life.
Oh ok. I agree with you, being the only one to persue is bs.
Yes it is
As a man ages and gains knowledge, he pursues a more specific type of woman…
I’d pursue you. You seem both intelligent, and interesting.
And you are definitely hot.
Well thank you. These younger guys need help understanding it seems
It’s a confidence issue. Many younger guys rely on some form of request for pity, something that never attracts a decent, high quality woman.
And you are of course welcome. 😊
I think it is a sign of the times. I don't agree with it but it is to easy these days with social media to conform with "what everyone else is doing." personally I think there should be a time of courting, getting to know someone before you go out with them. Today people are looking for instant gratification. I want what I want right now... That self-centeredness leads to the idea of if it takes to long it is not worth it. I think, if it doesn't take time to develop then it won't last.
Guess how many fucks we gove if you dont buy getting arrested. You have a vagina. It will never happen to you. A man in Australia was even arrested after he fixed the woman's car. That's how the bitch thanked him. She filed a false rape accusation.
Wonder why you seem so charming
Social media has ruined dating and courtship. You have probably been on social media your whole adult life. What has it done for you. You are an open book. You used to have to meet face to face and talk to find out about the people you were interested in. There used to be mystery and now a guy knows everything because women post camel toe pictures and say that they like and hate.
I haven't this is my only account
Ok, it is not you but the culture is on social media. And that sucks if you are looking for a relationship. Good luck.
I have one but wish you luck I'm sure it complicates things
Dating has always been complicated but at least we don't do forced marriage anymore.
Many in the new gen have a crazy fear of rejection that aside from propaganda online many feed into the stupidness that asking a girl out could be seen as sexual harrasment whilst others now feel women should also have to ask guys out
I've noticed dude those guys are ridiculous
Meh at this point its whatever I personally think if u wanna do it then do it nobody should have to just about understanding that if u don't do it you can't really complain
I understand that but that don't just complain they cry and get angry about it.
Because many people these days are emotinaly kids
We agree
ugh, i am annoyed with the dumb feminists who said asking a woman out is harassment. i don't want to die alone.
@DianaWest 💛
Meh not much u can do about it college culture in the US has kinda fuxked with dated not as a whole but in some areas they was too zealous with many guys that read thing too literal thinking approaching a women can be seen as harrasment
Oh I don't pursue anything, pretty much every relationship I've had has happened by accident, a couple of beers at the end of the night in the local pub has tended to be a cure to my natural shyness lol
Afraid of the stupid #meto bullshit.
In my day, you talk to girls face to face