It’s a push and pull. Nobody should be pursuing because that implies someone is running away. I get pursued constantly, but it’s because I make it easy for men to feel not threatened.
Most men aren’t aggressively making the first move. Usually he looks, smiles, and then you can encourage him. Then the man will escalate usually or if you are too eager a lot of them pull back. But if you pull back a little while still being friendly, he will be more bold, at least if he decided he was interested after all.
When he escalates to a touch or teasing then you show him how turned on you are by him but you don’t say anything sexual, you just show him, like you can’t help it. If you are feeling sexual your eyes and body language and your voice will show it.
I think women (like some men) do hot and cold but this is not push and pull. Hot and cold is something a crazy person does and it doesn’t feel good. Push and pull keeps it friendly and sexual tension without making the other person feel off balance.
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I think men aren't reqlly chasers as they are made out to be by society. I know cause im kinda go getter person. But do agree they aren't really putting much effort anymore compared to before. I think thats laregly do to the fact that women changed and dont need to nor want to tolerate mens crap. So they dont know anymore how to act. They were raised differently but world is changing.
A lot of it is to do with the shift in the balance between the sexes. It's a case of why should they chase women? Why shouldn't women chase them? Furthermore, men and particularly white men are given such a negative press by so many women that men feel less inclined to go out of their way for women who essentially don't value them anyway. Then there is the whole consent and #metoo thing where men are more fearful of any romantically forward gestures being construed or painted as harassment. It would be easy to say that men should know the difference between a respectful approach and harassment but then this is the era of social media witch hunts and being cancelled regardless of any trial or conviction.
In short, women might have to start making the ground a lot more themselves. For men it's becoming a minefield.
Women have become insanely entitled, narcissistic, and volatile... they are not worth pursuing.
Approaching a female is like drinking poison and hoping you don’t die.
If the girl likes you great, but the odds are she doesn’t and if she is a c word, she will destroy your life simply for showing attention with some false accusation bullshit or she will want you to play her bullshit games or pass her shit tests where at any point if you don’t pass all the check boxes you are done.
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Has nothing to do with interests or options. Men do not chase women because of the risk of being accused of stuff and losing everything they worked hard for. Today, all a woman has to do is point at a man and say he raped her. Can even be a total stranger. Once she makes her accusation, his life is practically over. Even if he is found to be innocent, many people will still shun him, thinking the courts got it wrong. Because if a woman says he did it he must be guilty right? It is simply not a risk worth taking.
No, women have made it clear they don't want to be pursued. Remember? It's 'creepy'.
Unless he's obviously super good looking and has a ton of dough, you just think he's an ass anyway.
You stupid women have made your bed, now lie in it. Good fukkin luck.That’s only men your age. They’re o early pussified. Play video games, jerk off online, very narcissistic, many that follow politics which has turned them into beta males.
Fun fact: For the first time in 150 years, more men and women live at home with mommy and daddy than live with a spouse.
Your next choice? Date a Gen Z or move up to Gen XersIt takes a lot of guts and courage to ask some one out... its a lot of hassle and stress and its always traditionally been down to the men to do... Although we would be really freaked out if a girl pursued us, we would think she was running some sort of scam or con job... always bothers me in films when the guy has some girl well out of his league take an interest in him, every guy knows that just doesn't happen, alarm bells ringing!!
Quite frankly hun what is exactly that you possess that would be worthy of our efforts?
I mean companionship is good but my dog gives me companionship and he doesn't try to sleep with any of my friends. Compare me to other owners. He never tells me I'm not good enough. So please explain to us. Why should we want b to chase you? What's in it for us?"as if they want us to chase them" - Exactly! Why do we have to do it? I believe men are doing it less because we are tired of the CONSTANT rejection! Just as you women would be. I stopped asking women out in high school. Because I've been rejected EVERY single time and I said to myself "Fu^& it, I'll stay single".
Women don't respond well to guys chasing them and it's generally a waste of time. I think dudes collectively are saying fuck this I have more important things to do with my time.
Many men want the women to ask first, also the way men are brought up they are either too lazy or too worried to ask a girl out.
there are only two type of men that exist today , this is also explain why women got cheated all the times
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Because enough women these days also make the first step
I refuse to put energy towards someone who won't put the same energy in for me.
There are many reasons but basically dating and relationships have become too difficult these days. Women putting all the blame on men and not trying to figure out how they're driving men away is not helping the situation.
Because we don't want to be lined up against the wall and shot in the name of MeToo
Well if you like, message me anytime if you are single
There’s really not much left to chase... it’s more like “meh well I guess I’m tired of being alone, may as well settle for what’s available”
Because the risks outweigh the reward.
Women are a minefield more than ever.
Metoo#
That's fucking why.
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