My boyfriend is getting change, what should I do now?

[imanalieen]

When I had problems with him, I chosed to act cold instead of talking and solving problems... I wait for him to understand me by being cold and never texting... But after the last time i did it, he got changed. He looks like he doesn't love me anymore... I feel like i am talking with different person... he is not like my boyfriend...
When I look at his behavior, I turn away from him and feel that I don't love him... But then I realize, that's how I treated him... I treated him the same. I acted like this for days without even telling why... But he never got tired and treated me well and took care of me... He always tried for me... Maybe he felt just like me... Maybe he was depressed and lonely just like i feel now... That's why I want to try without giving up. But I don't see the fruits of my efforts... And everything getting worse day by day... I want to talk openly with him, but every time I try he gets angry and bored. so i don't know what to do...

[ItsMeElliana]

damage is done.
if he was important to you. you should've been appreciative and grateful for what you had, now that its gone, you want it back, almost like you want all his care and attention again since you dont have anyone else giving you any of it.
unfortunately he must've been heartbroken when you kept acting that way to him, and probably has learnt to move on now ig

[SnakeBoop]

you chose to act cold and not talk about the problem and expect what?
you're incredibly toxic. And you obviously don't care that much about having a partner.
Then you try to back peddle at the end of the question and turn the blame onto him? Girrl

[imanalieen]

Can you really understand what you read? I said
"Maybe he was depressed and lonely just like i feel now... That's why I want to try without giving up."
I am trying to understand him and i know what a big mistake i did. I don't blame him, that's why i am trying to fix my mistake.

[boggboss]

Lol so let me get this straight u tried to use manipulation on him and instead of it working it backfired and now he is either doing it to you or u have shifted how he feels about u

[imanalieen]

I didn't try to manipulate him... I'm not that creepy person... I was just too stupid...

[boggboss]

Acting cold and giving the silent treatment is a form of manipulation its essentially treating your partner shittung in a attempt to make them act different its a unhealthy way to deal with issues in a relationship

[imanalieen]

I know... but i learnt it too late... and i don't know what can i do... please tell me what should i do

[boggboss]

I'm my opinion apologies about what u did explain that u know it was wrong but now u feel he is doing the same and u are not able to take it so could we please talk about the issues hopefully that will work but who knows it will need him to step up and want this to work

[imanalieen]

So he wants to see me suffer?

[boggboss]

I'm not him I don't know what his intentions are he could be to see u hurt or he could no longer care or maybe he is just still angry impossible to know

[imanalieen]

Should i keep trying? or give up?

[boggboss]

Try one more time

[imanalieen]

But what if he stop loving me? Cause we dont talk that much like we used to do

[boggboss]

Thats what I said its possible he no longer cares

[imanalieen]

Okey... Thank you so much. You help me a lot!

[boggboss]

Good luck either way use this as a life lesson

[Fuentes]

You did it stop playing games