How do I show my Ex-Boyfriend that I’ve changed?

[x_vampire_x]

I broke up with my boyfriend awhile ago and I feel so fucking awful because of it, I felt so bad. But he gave me a chance after he calmed down and told me he’d be friends with me for now and this will be my time to show him that I can be better than I was before.

Basically what happened was that I didn’t make little to no effort and I kept getting jealous and that problems kept arising from us, im overreactive and selfish with him. I’m terrible at committing to a relationship and I wanna show him that I can be a good girlfriend and not some hoe who uses him.
Please listen to me and tell me how I can make this up to him! I want him back and I want him badly! He’s better than the rest of my ex’s who didn’t care about me. None of us cheated.
I wanna show him I can change

[noubigdumbdumb]

You're 14, first of all, I'd argue that until 16, relationships are very very difficult to keep stable, due to levels of maturity. However, for your circumstance, it's not about showing him that change. You should be changing for yourself. If you are only changing to get him back, trust me, it's going to fade again sometime in the future. Change for the better of yourself, and he will see that change if it is genuine, I promise.

[x_vampire_x]

Absolutely love the response ❤️❤️

... Except for the first part. I get that a lot

[noubigdumbdumb]

It’s true although obviously not for everybody. There will be people who are very mature by then, but generally speaking i guess

[WildeWolf]

You want him back because you want to show him, that you can be a good girlfriend. You want him back badly. He is better than the rest of your ex's. But have you really changed? Do you want him back for the sake of you two, or is it for yourself.
If you are totally honest with yourself, him taking you back right now. Will things be different, and how and why?

[x_vampire_x]

No person can truly change. Not over night at least. But what I'm working on right now is my jealousy and keeping promises. We had a few plans.. Well something like that, but they made me feel special you know? I want to make him feel special too, so that would make both of us happy and if we get back together then the relationship will improve

[WildeWolf]

Read over your questions, and ask them yourself. Do a role play in your head, that you are both you and a 70 old you. Both of these persons knows everything about you. If you want to, you can write your questions and answers on paper or computer. Your 70 old you don't really know the answer like you, but should question why to all of your answers. You will answer the questions honest, because why would you lie to yourself? Your old you, should question all of your answer. You keep on this questioning, until you are empty of answers. Usually, its then when you get your true answer.
Its quite mature thing to start thinking about change and stuff for relationships in your age. If I were you, I wouldn't think this deep. Just let things flow! He might just be thinking of playing video games, friends, hook up and such. He might as well not see your desire, because he is still a boy.

[x_vampire_x]

Ok, I get what you’re saying

[SouthOBoy]

Hun, you are 14. I'm not saying this to belittle you, but you mentioned "ex's". You are growing up in a time were people need things instantly. Before I give an answer to any of this, I need to ask. How long have y'all been separated?

[x_vampire_x]

A week tomorrow

[SouthOBoy]

Now don't take this in a negative way, but nothing has changed. You miss him and you want him, that's understandable. But you have no change to show him. Nobody changes in a week. It takes some good alone time and experiences to change. If you were to rush back into it to show him you can change, it is most likely not gunna work out. It's hard enough to work on yourself. Trying to work on yourself and a relationship is only gunna damage one or the other or both. Enjoy what you have right now. Enjoy the friendship y'all have and let that flourish. Friendships are much easier to handle and are even beneficial to help you while your working on yourself. Just be patient. Find what you love about yourself. Find what you're really passionate about. Find what makes you tick for yourself and work on all of that. Build on that. Once you know what you want, and I don't mean in a relationship, but in life, that's when a real relationship can really flourish.

[TonyBologna25]

Too much drama for 14 years old. My biggest dilemma at that age was not having chicken nuggets when I got home while I played xbox lmao.

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Spend time with him, like movies, a park, picnic, games etc.
Ignore what other girls may be thinking, he's there with YOU not them for a reason.

[x_vampire_x]

We broke up AND it was a long distance relationship 💔

[TsubasaCorrupted]

Oh... I'm sorry

[x_vampire_x]

Yeah 😐

[rickytim]

Just go and spend time with him and tell him

[FckTheRichAndFamous]

You seem a little young for that

[x_vampire_x]

You’re not that much older than me😂

I’ll be 15 in 2 months