Guys, is it true that we need to teach you how to treat us?

[Anonymous]

[dankstranger]

No, men need to look inward these days and start asking themselves the same questions thay feminists asked years ago.

"What does it mean to be a man?"

"What parts of being a man are positive?"

"What parts of being a man are negative?"

Too much of the discussion on men's role in the larger context of gender has been about how men should treat women or how men should treat trans or non binary or this or that but never is the discussion "how should men treat other men?"

Sure there are still men out there who need to learn more respect for women. But by and large i feel its time to look inward and face their own demons. We're gonna need women to supportive if we wanna do it the right way and achieve positive results.

[Anonymous]

Not need to fully... guys need to understand that on own n learn on own but yes girls support is needed in that at some times to let us know things depending on guy to guy n situation to situation cuz its never one person thing its always two people two genders or team thing. and everything i said above id say is vise versa too... if it happened like both genders start learning on their own completely its not gonn work cuz obv whatyu learning n tryna understand is bout other gender so little support is the need yes for both

[PoopyPoop]

No. We need each other for that. Do you find a gentleman raised under a good father mistreating women more likely than one absent a father and just trying to figure out his own way under his mother and the streets?

[PoopyPoop]

The problem isn't that a woman can't teach a young man to treat women well. The problem is that he won't listen. That's the issue with the young men who turn to gangs on the streets. Their mothers could be angels. But they are looking to leadership under someone whose hands are like theirs, whose bodies are like theirs, whose voices are like theirs. And that's where they learn how to treat women: from men. You look at guys who learn how to treat women from women and they are usually incels because they learn the gentle side but they don't learn the balance.

[PoopyPoop]

So from my perspective, if we want young generations to treat women with dignity, respect, you find a man who is honorable, respectable -- a leader -- who treats women that way. And you get him to teach your boys how to act.

[Asker]

Thank you, that's a very interesting point of view. I just often feel like men DO know how to treat women, but just won't because they hold some grudges and bad experiences with women in general (from their past), so they don't want to feel hurt or do the hurt themselves.

[PoopyPoop]

We're all still very flawed. I like to think I'm one of the better ones but I have hurt some women in the past, especially in my 20s. I was too afraid to tell them my true feelings which is that I didn't really want them. I didn't ghost them. I lingered around and gradually worked my way up to it although I'm not sure if that's any better. The thing is that I had men who at least taught me enough to feel guilty and ashamed about it. It wasn't my father so much. My parents divorced when I was a boy and I was stuck with my mother. I looked to men and books and things like that for advice. Initially, I looked to my mother but I found her advice hyper-romantic, and I could easily imagine myself being like one of these young guys complaining on here about women if she was my only guide.

[Leonharted]

Every successful dating technique I picked up flew in the face of women's advice. Yes, boys need to be taught, but they need to be taught through the example of men that they admire.

[Fireguy17]

it probably wouldn't hurt to tell us.
We are not very good at guessing, which can lead to issues down the line.
Just come out and say what you mean, it would make life so much more simple.

[Jamie05rhs]

YES, it's absolutely true. Because some women like to be pampered, while others like to be abused. Not all women are the same.

(For the record, I'm not into pampering nor abusing. Those are just extreme examples to make the point.)

[Screamsgutter]

Yeah, right after we teach women how men should be treated, because neither is winning any awards.

[SnakeBoop]

not if they are of any quality, save for sex of course since we all like something different

[FilmGuy93]

That's not just true of romantic relationships, it's true of people in general. You decide how other people treat you, ultimately.

[LegendaryIcon]

No, more like, you need to accept how you SHOULD be treated

i see too many girls, staying with assholes, simply because they're afraid of being single

[TsAubreyKate]

In a mother son relationship or aunt and nephew or big sister little brother scenario yes you should (by the way you’d be big sister of the year if you helped your little bro get laid)

[CuriousMufuxka]

It is true that you should not post anon. Be yourself on a platform where technically you don't have to be yourself..

[Anonymous]

No. But your actions will indicate how you expect to be treated.

[Wise4myage]

I'm guessing that's true for some guys, but certainly not all guys.

[Anonymous]

Girls, is it true that we need to teach you how not to be a whore?

[HarryFortis]

No but sometimes your behaviour is hard to predict

[EaterPeter]

Oh come on, there is more to learn

[EaterPeter]

We all can use help. Good behavior should be rewarded. Each woman is different. We are not mind readers. Let us know what you like and we can try to help you feel content.

[EaterPeter]

And yeah we learn wrong stuff taught to us too

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!

[emperor90]

No some guys knoe how to treat while others dont