I have a boyfriend so why am I feel so sad that my guy friend is leaving?

[Anonymous]

We met each other in office like 4 months ago and we became friends (got in the same friends circle) and he's been attracted to me from the start, it was him who initiated the friendship, he keeps staring at me all the time when I'm not looking quickly looks away when I catch him, sometimes he doesn't care that I'm staring, he has tried to get intimate with me once too, flirts with me a lot and gets jealous of my other guy friends.

Anyways I started ignoring him slowly since last month because he has a girlfriend and I didn't want to get involved in all this. I don't know if it's coincidence or not but shortly after that he's become totally uninterested in work and he was very passionate about it, he doesn't seem like himself anymore, mostly comes late to office and leaves early the reason being he keeps drinking during those hours (sometimes he even comes drunk to office and sits nexts to me).

I found out yesterday that he's planning to leave after this month and since I heard this news I feel very sad. I don't know why. What's going on?

Updates

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He seemed very hurt and upset that I have stopped talking to him. He has even stopped talking to our mutual friend who hangs out with me the most and sits me in the office too. Else they were very good friends before and used to hangout all the time.

[dankstranger]

I think there's a couple reason you feel sad he's leaving.

1- you know your gonna miss out on a source of male attention. It's okay to admit it.

2- he is your friend any of us of any gender would feel that way about any friend leaving.

3- you've noticed his health is starting to tumble and you are worried for his well being like anyone would if they saw a good friend beging to start showing signs of alcoholism.

[Asker]

I get a lot of attention from guys. I do find him attractive though I do admit. We were never that close friends to begin with though. Actually I was planning to ask him about his health the next time I see him should I do it or not? But at the same time do you think I have developed feelings for him?

[Asker]

I do think I'm worried for his health like I said he doesn't seem like himself anymore.

[dankstranger]

I feel like a heart to heart conversation is a decent idea. Tell him your worried. Invite him to some kind of get together. Tell him your worried about his drinking. Not because he shouldn't drink, but because you can see how it's destroying him.

If you saw a child racing for a busy intersection, would you not at least try to stop them. Don't Infantalize him. But reach out. Offer support. You never know, you could be the only lifeline he has left.

[Wise4myage]

I think such feelings are very normal, and it doesn't necessarily mean you have feelings for this friend.

[Yourfriend2021]

It's hard to lose friends because you care about them.

[PeterSmith1983]

Because you like him as well

[Asker]

now what should I do?