Why am I crying and grieving so hard about my guy friend moving on?

[Anonymous]

I guess everybody tried to warn me about the rotten ex boys friends I’ve had and I was told it’s because I’m avoiding a real, true, loving relationship. My best friend said my guy friend (let’s call him Eddy) as what she’s been told has liked me for a long time and I should just give him a chance.
My older sister really hit me hard with the truth and told me I should open my eyes and see that Eddy has always been the one for me since day one and he’s always loved me so much no matter what size, height or what I looked like. He’s asked me out so many times besides Valentines Day or every school dance he always asks me. I always throw him in the friend sized and when he had a girlfriend, I got jealous and angry.
If I don’t see his worth, he will move on and someone else will. I guess I realized that my heart is after Eddy all these years and he was right, my heart will be after him. He’s been in my mind and every love song that plays, he’s in my mind or I see his face. I try to fight it away but it keeps coming back.
I asked him earlier this morning if he wanted to hang out but not as just friends this time. Eddy said it sounds great and glad I woke up and realized his worth but, he’s moved on and he doesn’t want to be let down again and he met someone else this week.
I was so happy for him, but inside my heart felt like it got stomped and my world shattered.
It was my own fault because I took Eddy for granted for so long and I never fully appreciated him. He said he will always love me and have love for me, but I’ll always be his close friend.
Wow….. but he had every right to move on and find the right person.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t believe a let a great guy like him go. I’m happy for him but why am I so heartbroken, and crushed? I’ve been crying my eyes out so much. I was trying to fight off the feelings and say I’m not in love with him.

[Summeroflove]

Because you came to your senses and you feel bad. That says a lot allow yourself to grieve and eventually you’ll move on too. I hope you take it as a lesson and always see him fondly.

But let’s look at it this way too…. At that point in your life do you think you were meant to be with Eddie? Do you think you could have given him the love and support he needed? I don’t think you were ready at that point. At some point you will be and you’ll find someone whose right for you. I truly believe you have a good heart but it takes time

[Asker]

you know, you make a good point. I don’t even know if I’m meant to be with him. At this rate….. I don’t think so and plus I shouldn’t have to go out with someone just because people think we should go out together.

[Summeroflove]

Everyone has a reason for being in one another’s life. You played a role in his and he played a role in yours. Just pray what’s meant to be is meant to be. But allow yourself to grieve it and learn from it.

You’re also right about that too not only for your sake but theirs as well. Why waste your or someone else’s time you’re not interested in that way? He’s a great guy does he not deserve to go out with someone who is? Doesn’t mean you judge him as a person well as you have the respect for not only yourself but him to not sting him along and not waste his time

[Summeroflove]

Sometimes we may look back at things and wonder what should have, could have, would have. But he’s happy now be happy for him. If someone wasted his time whose not into him like that he may have never found someone who wants him genuinely

[Asker]

I Am Happy for him. Did you not read that part? Anyways yeah he deserves to be with someone that likes him back and returns the feelings. He had the right to reject me.

[Summeroflove]

I did read that that’s why I said that. You’re very mature about this now. There comes a point where people move on which is healthy although you did try when you wanted to give it a chance to see where it goes.

The past is the past but I do think you’ll eventually find someone now that you’re in a place where you’re more ready for that kind of relationship

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Summeroflove]

You’re welcome

[ohsheeT]

Well, the best thing you can do for yourself is what you just did. That is admitted acknowledge ,
And then learn from it

Everything happens for a reason and when There is pain involved You have to want to know why.
And you have to be honest With yourself and that's what I see you being right now

So that was yesterday , today's a new day And we never know what's gonna happen. But if this happens again, you will be prepared for it
because you learn from it and become a better person to yourself. And others

And it's not that you were a bad person. You were just a person that wasn't sure of herself yet and what she truly wanted. And that's OK, because you have to acknowledge that too.
It'll all be okay.

[Shiprex]

Ouch

Friendzone guys will shoot their shot and when it's not returned they are still human beings and want to find a spark with someone. Being around someone you wanted and not getting them is tough af and when a release comes along it's very easy to bail on the heartache and try to fix it somewhere else.

[Zack-Bann]

Crocodile tears
You could have given him a chance at any moment
You KNEW how he felt but chose to friend-zone him over and over


And yes: I am projecting because you reminded me of the time I was friend-zoned myself a long time ago

[Asker]

Well SORRY for having honest feelings. I don’t understand why you men get very upset when a woman rejects you? Would you rather have the woman string you along or move on?

[HighValue]

If he actually did find someone that is compatible with him for a relationship, he needs to stop being friends with you because that is inappropriate and bad for his future relationship and unfair to his girlfriend.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

you have a fear of abandonment

[Anonymous]

Cause you’re a weakling who is reliant on others.

[Asker]

Well EXCUSE ME!

[Anonymous]

You need to move on as well.

[Asker]

I will. I think it’s best that I stay single.

[Anonymous]

😆😆😆

[Asker]

What the hell is so funny?