Guys!! What do you think about plastic surgery?

[Anonymous]

Okay, so I have a question. I move to US a year ago, I’m from Colombia, I was used to be around woman that look absolutely stunning with their perfect enhanced bodies, so for me that is “beauty”, myself since I have memory, my body have been the opposite of “beauty” I was skinny, flat and not attractive at all, so my dream was to get as many surgeries and fix myself, then I meet my now husband an American man, really sweet but when I told him my plans of getting all this surgeries he tried to stop me, he thinks that’s “retarded” and he want me to stay the way I am, and I don’t like it. I feel like he is just selfish cause who don’t like beauty? And man usually follow all this IG models and everything, but anyway I want to know what other people think about surgeries? What is beauty in US? What is the “beauty stereotype”?

YES

NO

[MrOracle]

This is going to sound condescending, and I don't really mean it that way, but I have to speak the truth here.

Colombia embraces all of that surgical "perfection" because they aren't very sophisticated as a society - most of its wealthy citizens are "new money", and as it is anywhere, "new money" tends to have no taste. The US went through a phase of that too, in the 90s especially, but we've largely moved past it - though there's still "new money" here that does it, rappers and athletes mostly. But overall, we don't want fake, we want NATURAL, because after experiencing the fake, we realize that it's worse than the "less perfect" natural look. Colombia will almost certainly evolve over time and feel the same way.

You're in the US now, and in the US, fake things are seen as lower value by most. That's just how it is. If you got all these surgeries, you'd be able to attract the men at the top of the lower class, but never the men at the top of the middle class, much less any men in the upper class. Is that really what you want?

[Asker]

Wow, actually it makes sense, you are absolute right about the “new money” issue and everything. I’m in the US now, and I feel like I still have the need of change myself to feel “normal”, “pretty” without the surgeries I feel like I don’t have any value, as a woman, being around all my friends, and me the only one natural, I felt not attractive at all.

[MrOracle]

That's because you grew up idealizing those "new money" values. It's the same reason why, for example, a poor musician with a hit record will order a Ferrari in some custom purple and neon green paint job - a juvenile fantasy car. It's why rappers buy big gold chains and "grillz" and wear $1000 fashion brand jeans. People who are actually wealthy wear Levi's and Wranglers and drive expensive but comfortable cars in inconspicuous colors.

You are still "programmed" to look up to surgically enhanced women as what is attractive - and you'll have to recalibrate your standards and your thinking - which can take some real effort - to maximize your success in the US and/or Europe.

This is really to your advantage, considering you haven't already undergone surgeries. Your natural, un"enhanced" body will be appreciated here.

[Miristheiss]

If you have some birth defect or some disfiguring condition or injury/scar sure... go for it. I support it.

If you just want bigger boobs or you want to inject junk into your lips and into your butt and do "procedures" to prevent aging (you'll just look weird... not young). I am against it and wouldn't be in romantic relationships with those that do this stuff.

[Asker]

Before I meet my husband I used to inject my lips, and I used Botox, I did it one more time and he totally hate it, that’s why I was really curious about, cause back home, man expect woman to have all this procedures cause is a MOST, but here after hearing different opinions plastic surgery is not the “GOAL” , man don’t look for dolls like they do in Colombia, that’s interesting

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't understand. Why would Colombian women want to do that? They're beautiful already!

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs is a cultural issue, I feel like we normalize plastic surgery as our way of fixing ourselves, maybe we are already “beautiful” but the environment that we grew up tell us different, so we try to look perfect and find self acceptance getting surgeries

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow. That's crazy. I'm sorry.

[Sarahr123]

I think on the body it is extremely risky and not worth it. People are just lazy. I don’t get the whole kardashian ass thing because I prefer a VS model figure which I have and I am very happy with that. I do understand that some people’s skeletal structure doesn’t allow that but just work out and stay fit gosh why the laziness?

[Taviasky11]

It’s your choice and he should respect it if you do decide to get work done, but don’t get it done for others if you’re going to do anything make sure your doing it for yourself and not just to fit the beauty standard, it is important to learn your beauty before you do work on yourself

[Pyrofox]

For me I find natural is 9/10 times better. I'm not against plastic surgery so long as its something minimal. Like fixing the bridge of someones nose if they like broke it growing up so they decided to like realign it. Or really felt the need to reduce the number of moles/birthmarks.

I find boob jobs and fat injections to be really just temporary improvements that aren't worth the money or the investment. I'd rather have the girlfriend that her parents made than the girlfriend that wanted to be someone else (cause I believe in the idea one has to be okay with themselves before they can truly love another). If I'm falling hard for you its cause I love you as you are not just cause how you appear. You are already beautiful to me, if I'm falling for an other half.

[Lliam]

The women in those photos look grotesque.

The female form is naturally beautiful. I love the true female form, not cartoonish caricatures. That kind of surgery looks and feels fake. It turns women into a consumer products. Plus, such surgery is a sign of shallowness, insecurity and self loathing. And there is nothing attractive about that.

Reconstructive surgery is one thing, but I would reject any woman who enhanced her body with plastic surgery. I even hate lip injections and too much makeup. I would search for an authentic woman.

If your husband loves you, he loves you for who you are. Why jeopardize that? You need to learn to love YOURSELF for who you are.

[Anonymous]

See this is a prime example of why I wish plastic surgery just never existed. "skinny and flat chested" Cool... ummm why do you think so many Western Men are chasing Asians these days? EXACTLY! most men want SMALL not big. I for one dont like big breasts at all. And God... this is going to sound so bad I almost dont want to say it but... I mean those ass implants make you look like your have a turkey back there sticking out. It's so unnatural and weird tbh. STOP GETTING PLASTIC! I left a girl like this who started getting tattoos. I told her to stop and she just wouldn't so I said bye. I want a natural body and beauty. I just like a girl bathed daily, shaved, and she can wear her make up and contour if she wants but anything more than that is a no-go for me. And I won't lie... I'm always envious of dudes who have an unaltered girl. That's what I desire, natural. Seek therapy, not a surgeon.

[Asker]

The amount of man commenting about not liking plastic surgery is kinda weird, I wasn’t expecting this, and I’m not saying it in a bad negative way, I’m just surprised.
All my life I just meet this kind of man that idolize plastic surgery, and every woman that didn’t have it, was less woman than the ones that had big butts and gigantic fake boobs, I think I was living with the wrong mindset.
You are right I need therapy not a surgeon. Thank you for sharing your opinion

[Opinion Owner]

You were always beautiful. Surgeons prey on people for $. But they dont care about you at all. Yes please get help hun. You were born beautiful. Like your natural self? I would have scored you an 8/10, very highly. Dont let the profiteers ruin your life and prey upon your insecurities. Please believe me when I say that you have always been beautiful.

[Asker]

Thank you so much, that is really sweet.
I’m not used to anyone telling me that I’m beautiful

[Opinion Owner]

That's a crying shame. I love all your natural features. Your eyes, your hair, your gorgeous and I'm so angry that those doctors couldn't be honest and tell you it was never needed. I'm sure you're a wonderful girl to be around. Any guy would be lucky to have you. Just know that sometimes the reason things don't go the way you want is because the world has changed, guys are sleeping around with no incentive to commit. It's not your looks hun. It never has been. If I'd seen you in person my heart would be speeding like a race horse. If I was single I'd scoop you up in a heartbeat and show you what real admiration and respect was all about.

[WindAtMyBack]

I agree with your husband. Getting surgeries is retarded. Plus it usually makes the person look worse, not better. For example those women in the pictures with the big fake asses look like shit. It's like hanging a sign on them saying "I'm a retard".

It's also a sign of insecurity which is a huge negative.

Keep it real and forget all that fake crap.

[Anonymous]

Soy odontólogo de Inglaterra, hablo castellano también. Te quiero decir que tengo todo en la vida, muy alto, súper rico, vivimos en mansiones. Soy guapísimo, gran polla jajaja y mis padres tienen tantas clínicas. Tia, nunca me hizo ni un tipo de cirugía, mi suerte se ha escrito en mi genético. Me considero un chico natural 🌱 no queremos que las chicas les haga cirugía, inyecciones de los labios porque NO es real. Te ves okay, ya. Si eres fea no hay mucho que hacer. Si te has hecho tratamiento cirugía eres FAKE y SE NOTA muchísimo. Hay que aprovechar lo que se tiene. Lo que dios me dio me parece increíble, necesito una chica perfecta y natural. No eres tú. Estás llena de inseguridad y mierda de nuestros tiempos

[Asker]

Primero, el querer hablar sobre tus posesiones materiales y tú estatus económico me parece fuera de lugar, nunca pregunté sobre eso, la pregunta era totalmente ajena.
Segundo, quién te dijo qué yo ando buscando hombre? Y sí anduviera buscando ni por todo el dinero, mansiones y demás volvería a ver a una persona tan superficial, y si claramente tengo inseguridades qué dichosamente con el tiempo, y un par de terapia puedo solucionar.

[Anonymous]

In my opinion people are kinda hypocritical about plastic surgery. They will tell you "Ewww no" if you tell them you are going to get or got work done, but at the same time they idolize and fawn over celebrities that have had plastic surgery. Most Hollywood celebrities and Instagram models have had some type of work done. They're just good at hiding and most of the time it's subtle, because they have access to the best doctors in the world

[Asker]

You are right. Especially man, man idolize porn stars, IG models, and woman that have enhanced their bodies, they do it secretly, but they want to fool everyone saying that they like “natural” that is fake.

[hi_it_is_me123]

I hate it. I thought it is an easy surgery without many consequences which was so naive of me. Many surgeries has so many bad consequences. For example i did not know in the most of the cases that you need another revision nose surgery. I know two girls who need a revision nose surgery. Bbl can be very dangerous aka you can die etc

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I don’t really like plastic surgery and I’ve been with women who had body work done and I can tell the difference between real and augmented. It’s not my cup of tea.

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing your opinion!! 🙌🏻

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

You’re very welcome

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife was a Colombian, she got a tummy tuck and then left me 3 months later. Her sister in Colombia was full of plastic surgeries. Colombian women are very quick to get surgeries. It does make them look better, especially with the big asses and big boobs. Colombian women are to me the sexiest best looking women.

[Asker]

I’m sorry to heard that.
Yes, is really normal, to get surgeries at a really young age in Colombia, that’s like the “beauty stereotype”, without surgeries girls are “flat” or not attractive, that’s how I used to feel.
Thank you for sharing your opinion about it!!

[Anonymous]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your husband thinks you are beautiful the way you are. Personally I would rather date a woman who was a 6/10 without plastic surgery then a woman who was a 10/10 with plastic surgery. If I wanted a plastic girlfriend I would buy a sex doll. You should be happy to have found a guy who likes the way you look. Are you so insecure about yourself that you want to become single again and try to find someone who wants this altered you?

[Asker]

You are absolutely right, but is really difficult for me to believe him, cause back home men are not attractive to “normal” or “natural”, and then I arrived here and I was a little bit confused, I never meet anyone that didn’t like plastic surgeries like him

[Opinion Owner]

There are actually quite a few of us here that don't like women that have plastic surgery.

[Asker]

Honestly I’m surprised

[ShadezMcgee]

We aren't looking for perceived beauty standards that are enforced by plastic surgery or photoshopping to make women look like Barbie.

We like women natural across the board. Personally plastic surgery is okay in my eyes if it was to cover some grotesque injury or deformity to alleviate the stares amd help people blend in better. If it is done as a way to fix a perceived insecurity on a physical level, that is their decision, but not one I condone.

[HighValue]

Men get into a relationship hoping their partner will NOT change. The more you change, the more you are not like the girl he wanted to be with.

[Arias]

We all are our worst critique, and we all run away or cover up from the things we don't want to deal with the most. Some are and can be a little more extreme than others; and we ignore those that might be watching and love us the most. We don't realize as we watch someone in front of us that someone is watching from behind you. The beauty you were born with is perfectly and beautifully flawed, but the products you implant always has default or recall.

[DarkWinterNights]

I have seen so many very attractive and beautiful women ruin their appearance permanently with plastic surgery. If it’s one or two things like your nose, or a hairline or bust, that’s one thing, but many people can’t stop and keep changing things unnecessarily until everyone can tell and it’s not flattering. Your man loves you for you. I wouldn’t risk your looks for the potential to meet a unrealistic standard.

[MelonSoda]

I think plastic surgery is unnecessary and can actually make you look way worse than you originally thought you looked, which more than likely you didn't look terrible in the first place.

[Grubhub]

Some girls can pull it off. I’m starting to think some of the Puerto Rican and columbian girls I’ve dated had fake asses. If the asses look too good to be true it’s fake. I actually never asked. If they’re body is thick and nice looking then it could be real. That’s why I assumed they’re real. Them asses were big like maybe almost of big as Cherokee’s lol

[Taviasky11]

I’m Cherokee and my ass is flat

[Grubhub]

Na there’s a porn star named Cherokee and I think she’s natural. Her ass was huge

[DonkeyDan]

I honestly hate plastic surgery that isn't medically necessary, and its an instant deal breaker for me.

[Dontaaaa]

I don't agree with it in terms of it making people feel insecure and feeling the need to look perfect


Like some people would already look good, buy then fuck it all up by getting surgery anyways.

[Dontaaaa]

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[Luopio27]

If you already have a husband who likes you more the way you are, then you are set for life. I think its unnatural. Your husband chose you, not yoyr friends with fake tits and asses.

[Hangry06]

If you are completely unsatisfied with the way you look, you should get it