I've been dating this guy for 4 months now and it’s serious. we are committed and its going to be long term.
he has a lot of friends (including girls ofc) i dont really mind about it. i have friends as well. and i am not the type to be all “insecure” for no reason.
he finds Spanish women quite attractive and have dated one or two through the internet. me however is not Spanish we are from the same country w the same morals and religions.
i recently came to know that he has a european female friend and i may not have taken it the way i should but ofcourse i would have some questions. i saw a picture of her in his gallery while he was trying to show me something and i asked. he said thats his friend and told me her name and i moved on i was like “okay” i did not know then that this girl was Spanish. i went through her instagram and found out i didn't stalk her further. and again a few days ago we were out together and he was replying to this friend of his through a snapchat reply.
i called him out in a sarcastic tone. he knew i was bothered cause i was sarcastic. and he told me it was nothing to worry about and she is just his friend. and if anything were to happen with him and her it already would’ve and they are just friends. and then he reminded me all the reasons why he loves me and is with me which was cute i really appreciate it.
i feel a tad bothered because he had pictures of her in his gallery. i know how stupid this sounds, but i have friends and i dont screenshot pictures of them like the way he did with her. and sure maybe he and i have a difference that he does that w all of his friends and i dont and that could eventually be a me thing.
my pov is that he could be getting entertained from this girl and stuff like that dont sit right with me. i dont mind even if he is friends with all the females in the world.
am i wrong for having this perspective that bothers me? if i should talk to him about it how do i start without sounding insecure toxic?
he has a lot of friends (including girls ofc) i dont really mind about it. i have friends as well. and i am not the type to be all “insecure” for no reason.
he finds Spanish women quite attractive and have dated one or two through the internet. me however is not Spanish we are from the same country w the same morals and religions.
i recently came to know that he has a european female friend and i may not have taken it the way i should but ofcourse i would have some questions. i saw a picture of her in his gallery while he was trying to show me something and i asked. he said thats his friend and told me her name and i moved on i was like “okay” i did not know then that this girl was Spanish. i went through her instagram and found out i didn't stalk her further. and again a few days ago we were out together and he was replying to this friend of his through a snapchat reply.
i called him out in a sarcastic tone. he knew i was bothered cause i was sarcastic. and he told me it was nothing to worry about and she is just his friend. and if anything were to happen with him and her it already would’ve and they are just friends. and then he reminded me all the reasons why he loves me and is with me which was cute i really appreciate it.
i feel a tad bothered because he had pictures of her in his gallery. i know how stupid this sounds, but i have friends and i dont screenshot pictures of them like the way he did with her. and sure maybe he and i have a difference that he does that w all of his friends and i dont and that could eventually be a me thing.
my pov is that he could be getting entertained from this girl and stuff like that dont sit right with me. i dont mind even if he is friends with all the females in the world.
am i wrong for having this perspective that bothers me? if i should talk to him about it how do i start without sounding insecure toxic?
