Would you allow your girlfriend to have male friends?

[Anonymous]

[fisher]

Is It Okay To Have Male Friends While In A Relationship?

Yes, having male friends while in a relationship is quite acceptable. In actuality, making friends with people of the other sex can be advantageous for both you and your partner.

Regardless of gender, friendships should be maintained because they are a vital part of our life. Male friends can provide a level of support and a different point of view on things than may be feasible with female pals. Additionally, getting to know men better and communicating with your partner will be made possible by having male friends.

It is imperative to uphold sound limits and show consideration for your partner's feelings. It is imperative that you inform your partner that your male friendships are entirely platonic. Any relationship needs to be honest and transparent. Remembering your partner's emotions and insecurities is also crucial. Some people may naturally feel threatened by their partner's relationships with people of the opposite sex, so it's important to address these worries and reassure your partner of your dedication to the partnership.

In conclusion, having male friends while in a relationship is OK as long as you respect your partner's space and keep open lines of communication. Any successful relationship must be built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication.

Why Can Your Girlfriend Have Guy Friends?

Friendships are not gender-exclusive, thus your girlfriend can have male friends. It's critical to have faith in your spouse and recognize their capacity to sustain platonic relationships with people of both genders. It's important to understand that just because your girlfriend has acquaintances of the opposing sex, that doesn't indicate she isn't invested in your relationship. Friendships offer companionship, emotional support, and the potential to broaden one's worldview. In fact, having friends of different genders might help your romantic relationship by fostering better communication and understanding.

It's important to respect your partner's feelings and uphold healthy limits, though. You should discuss her male friends with her and be willing to address any worries or insecurities that may surface. The foundation of a strong and fulfilling relationship is honesty, trust, and respect for one another.

There is no reason why your girlfriend cannot be friends with men, to sum up. Having friends of the other sex may be beneficial in any relationship as long as trust, communication, and sound boundaries are upheld.

Is It OK To Be Jealous Of Girlfriend's Male Friends?

It's normal to feel envious of your girlfriend's male friends, but it's crucial to acknowledge and deal with these sentiments in a constructive manner. It's important to speak with your partner and discuss any worries or doubts you may have, rather than letting jealousy overtake you. A good and successful relationship depends on trust and open communication. Keep in mind that your girlfriend is dedicated to you and decided to be with you. As long as her friendships are good and platonic, you should respect and trust her.

What To Do If My Girlfriend Has Male Friends?

Just as it's normal for you to have female friends, it's also normal for your girlfriend to have male friends. The most crucial thing is to have faith in your girlfriend's dedication to your relationship.

It's crucial to be open and honest with your girlfriend about how you feel because communication is essential in any relationship. Focus on expressing your worries and emotions in a calm, courteous manner rather than being accusing or envious. It's crucial to let your girlfriend know how you feel because it's conceivable that she may not even be aware that her male acquaintances are upsetting you.

It's also crucial to keep in mind that just because your girlfriend has male friends doesn't mean she is necessarily interested in them romantically. Giving her the benefit of the doubt and believing that she chose to be with you for a purpose is crucial. Having male friends shouldn't be a problem as long as your relationship is characterized by clear boundaries and honest communication.

[Frost_Byt3]

Its her choice wether or not to have guy friends or not. I can't do anything to stop her. But i am the jealous type, so it would bother me, and make me depressed if she spent a lot of time with close guy friends (even though i would probably keep my discomfort to myself). Unless they were my own guy friends, or guy friends of hers that i have met, and trust wholeheartedly, i would have a problem with it and it would make me upset. And if she spent more time with him/them than she did with me, or even just a lot of time in general, it would upset me, no matter how much i trusted the guy in particular.

But of course i would never voice my disconfort because i have yet to meet a girl who actually undestands that almost EVERY "guy friend" of hers is secretly trying to get in her pants eventually. More likely then not, she would end up defending her guy friends, and getting angry with me. That's why its best to just keep it yourself no matter how uncomfortable it makes you.

[fraikrop64]

If it's casual, hanging out with from time to time, hanging out in groups, just talking about a bunch of superficial shit and having fun... Whatever, I don't care. It's good to mix company, healthy even.

But if this is some intimate stuff. If these are the kinds of friendships where people are like married. Where they can talk in front of me and I won't understand what's going on. If she utters those stupid fucking words "like a brother to me"... If that motherfucker she calls a friend tries to one-up me in any way and then play dumb about it...

No, I wouldn't ALLOW her. She can forget it.
Either me, or them.

[Asker]

Best comments yet! You win MHO. You actually understand the intention of those guys who are "like a brother" Ugh.

[Anonymous]

One of my girl friend's ex was like that. He was so controlling and insecure he didn't even want her to see her girl friends or have any normal interactions with her male colleagues. Even though she was head over heels for him she eventually broke it off cuz it was too suffocating.

you can't control who she's friends with, you don't have the right, you're not respecting your gf and that kind of relationship won't last. Like others said thats not even a relationship, that's slavery and sadism. If you want control go find a girl who's a masochist or even better go find a dog, you can even lock it up in your house.

[Asker]

A man should not have to disallow her from male friends. If she has any modesty and respect for him she will do that on her own. If there is one of her friends I don't want her to be influenced by, then, I have a good reason for it, and she has to trust me, and respect me by staying away from her. I love her very much and I also know what's for her own good when it often doesn't even occur to her a potentially harmful situation.

[Asker]

I am constantly aware of a guy's intentions who wish to be "friends" with my woman. And more than not, she is absolutely oblivious.

[BumbleDeev]

If you don't trust your partner enough to let them have friends of the opposite gender, then it would be better to find someone else. Because banning them from having friends is kind of ridiculous. Like basically if your girlfriend is bisexual, she wouldn't be allowed to have friends at all

[Asker]

If my girlfriend was bisexual?

[BumbleDeev]

That was just an example. I'm saying that of a guy didn't allow his girlfriend to have male friends because he was afraid that they would flirt or whatever, if the girl turned out to be bisexual them he wouldn't allow her to have friends at all since she's attracted to both girls and guys?

[MargaritaPeach]

Allow? Where do you live, Pakistan? If I wasn't 'allowed' to have guy friends, I would be suddenly single. And my guy friends would be coming over to help cheer me up. Just out of curiosity... do you yourself have any female friends?

[Genie23]

Uhhh, "Allow"? What the hell. You don't own her -.-

[Asker]

No, but it's still a decision every guy must make in a relationship.

[Genie23]

Decide? Relationship is about trust and caring. If you are gonna try to control her like that and tell her who she should be friends with and whom she shouldn't. Then I'd say your gf will fed up eventually. Sorry, but it's the truth. Trust her and I'm damn sure she won't break your trust.
I have more guy friends than girls. Just because I have guy friends doesn't mean I'm interested in them.

[Asker]

The guy is the one that leads the relationship. I trusted my girIfriends with all my heart, and thought everything was perfect. But I know something that most women are either ignorant of, or refuse to accept as truth: That the primary reason that a guy befriends a woman is for the possibility of getting into her pants. And they can be very patient and clever about it, and know that a woman's emotions is her weak spot - and take advantage of that. It is best she is not part of that potential trap only as little as possible - As I have had multiple girls in those great relationships end up one day uttering the words, "Yeahhhh... I don't know (tears... It just happened. . I'm so sorry" It's just what happens.

[Genie23]

Not a guys are like that! My friends never tried to take advantage of the situation where I was alone with him (when I wasn't in relationship).
Even if some guys do have sex on their mind... It doesn't mean girl is also interested in sleeping with her friend. It's upon girls.
I've been lied to and cheated on.. So, should I think that all guys are jerks and would sleep with any girl while in relationship? Nah.

[Genie23]

Well your exes must have been slts then. Cause most girls don't sleep with any guy if she has a bf.

[Genie23]

Just a question... If you try to control her like that, she'll leave you :-/

[The_Eternal_Emperor]

Being in a relationship does not mean the man owns the woman. He has no right to dictate who she spends her time with, who she can talk to, etc, just as she has no right to do the same to him.

I have never done so, and never will, and I stay away from relationships like that. Anyone who is so insecure that they need to "allow" certain relationships to occur are not ready to be in one. The very idea of someone controlling another person's life is disgusting to me. A relationship like that is not a relationship, it is slavery.

[_Atreides]

Allow?
i'm with the girls comments on here as what right do you have to dictate who she can be friends with. With an attitude like that there is a pretty good chance that she will have friends before and after she's known you.

One of my best female who i got to know from work is married and we are quite capable of doing nothing more physical than a hug hello or goodbye.

[Yeppeeee]

Why not? If she's gonna cheat she'd do it anyway, forbidding her to hangout won't change that. Matter of fact if anything let her, it's easier to find out if she is and with who ( the person she hides, or the person that can't keep eye contact or way too much.) and if she is she wasn't worth you anyways.

[musicbrain5]

Allow? ALLOW? I would not allow myself to be with a guy who needs to give his permission for me to do as I wish with my friendships.

[Asker]

Then you don't respect him.

[musicbrain5]

No. He doesn't get to decide who my friends are. That's what's disrespectful here.

[muspelhem_5]

Asker, you're confusing respect and deference.

[Asker]

Deference is the best way for a woman to show respect. And he is doing her and the relationship a great service by preventing a situation in which her "friend" tries his best to seduce her one night when she is feeling emotional and vulnerable - and they end up in bed. It has happened a number of times with me in otherwise wonderful relationships. Better if the temptation is removed.

[musicbrain5]

That's because you were in relationships with cheating whores. I'm betting you're from a country where they think women are just worthless property.

You better not have female friends for the same reason.

[Asker]

This has happened to all my friends, my brothers and ever guy I know. Perhaps all women have the potential to be "cheating whores". You sound like an angry feminist.

[musicbrain5]

I'm not a feminist but whatever. Have a nice life. I hope your girlfriend does not allow you to have female friends either.

[Applefan1]

It is not about allowing her to have male friends she has the right to keep her male friends if she has done nothing wrong like cheated just like a guy has the right to keep his female friends in the same situation. I feel a relationship should be strong enough for men to keep their female friends and women to keep their male friends.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

You don't own your girlfriend, she doesn't need your permission...😠

[Asker]

She doesn't "need" it, but out of respect for him, should get it.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

Ummmm I beg to differ, you need to trust her, or why in bloody hell are you in a relationship with her?😐

[Asker]

Even the best relationships often lead to her cheating with male friends. I have experienced or seen it many times.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

WHY ARE YOU IN A RELATIONSHIP IF THERE IS NO TRUST?😶

[Asker]

I trust my girlfriend. But I know something that most women are either ignorant of, or refuse to accept as truth: That the primary reason that a guy befriends a woman is for the possibility of getting into her pants. And they can be very patient and clever about it, and know that a woman's emotions is her weak spot - and take advantage of that. It is best she is not part of that potential trap only as little as possible.

[zorro8888]

"Allow" is never the right word.

Yes, I'd trust her.

[Anonymous]

Hahaha!! Allow? Excuse me but who the hell thinks they can tell me who i can or can not be friends with? If my SO tried telling me what i am and am not "allowed" to do, well we would definitely have some words!!

[soccerchick4eva]

allow? \
you may be her boyfriend but you can't control who she can be friends with

[MarkyyG123]

I FORBID IT, I tell you, FORBID >:

Any guy hence forth initiate or participate in a conversation with Thee shall have a date with the Fishes... >:|

[Asker]

I can't?

[soccerchick4eva]

mark shut up hahhahaha @MarkyyG123 not helpingggg :P

and well narh you can't, the most you can do is tell her what you feel but other than that you can't like make her or instruct her to not be friends with certain people :)

[MarkyyG123]

Hahahaha <3 <3 :* I always help, Love :D

@ Asker, she's right, mate. You can't do that and you have to trust her enough to know she won't do anything behind you back no matter what.

[Asker]

I trust my girlfriend. But I know something that most women are either ignorant of, or refuse to accept as truth: That the primary reason that a guy befriends a woman is for the possibility of getting into her pants. And they can be very patient and clever about it, and know that a woman's emotions is her weak spot - and take advantage of that. It is best she is not part of that potential trap only as little as possible.

[soccerchick4eva]

i get what you mean, but if you say you trust her, you need to trust her with this also

[Asker]

That's what I used to do. But after multiple times being cheated on in that exact scenario when we were in love and everything was going fantastic between us: "I don't how.. I'm sooo sorry; it just happened".

[MarkyyG123]

Mate, I absolutely agree with you and like you I understand that as well -.- Its a sad truth. And as much as I would like to control that I know I cannot and I trust her unconditionally. Trust her and know that despite guys may try, her love, what you two have is unbreakable and live knowing that

[Asker]

I thought the love I had with those women was unbreakable. But it was not, thanks to those guys. And our relationship, though I tried, was never the same. I just don't see how I could trust unconditionally again. But, I really do appreciate you understanding. And for your comments.

[soccerchick4eva]

all you can do is keep thinking that not all girls are the same, cause literally not all are like the cheating type. In saying that there is literally no harm in letting her know also and just telling her how you feel towards these guys but dont mention anything about you not allowing her near them :) Goodluck man! :)

[Asker]

I never tell her that directly. I just try to gently manipulate the situation so she sees less of them. But, do you really believe there are woman who cheat and don't cheat. Or, do they all have that strong potential in certain situations? It seems I used to believe the former, but now fear the latter.

[soccerchick4eva]

alrighty thats good :)
well i for one dont cheat and i know plenty of girls who are the exact same, not every girl is the same, so if something happens in your past, you can't expect all girls to be like that :)

[Asker]

Yes, you are probably right. I think, for some reason, I must be initially attracted to those types of women! It is a very hard think to know up front.

[Asker]

Or even once you know the person well.

[soccerchick4eva]

yeah i gotta admit its hard to tell, it does sometimes just happens out of the blue, but all you can do is just trust your girl and always think positive :)

[Ihav2fart]

'allow' ?

We don't own them...
If she's my girlfriend I'd trust her enough to befriend whoever, otherwise we wouldn't be together.

[Asker]

You know as well as I, that the #1 goal of every guy who befriends a woman is for the intent of getting her in bed. The least she is around that situation the better.

[Ihav2fart]

Well I do indeed now know that's YOUR #1 goal.

[Asker]

Excuse me? That is hardly my goal at all. I am interested in courting a woman (who is available) for marriage. Perhaps I should not have said "every guy". My mistake. However, I would say "most guys". And even if they are not looking for it, they will certainly take advantage of a situation with a girl if they see one. And they will use her emotional state to accomplish that. It has happened to me multiple times.

[Asker]

"not" have said..

[snuggle_bunny88]

My SO doesn't like any of my guy friends (he doesn't want me to have them either). But there isn't really anything he can do about it.

[Asker]

Do you not respect his wishes?

[snuggle_bunny88]

Yes, I do. But I have known these guys most of my life. They are more like family than friends. If I turned my back on them, I might as well do the same to my entire family and I will NOT do that.

[Asker]

I see

[snuggle_bunny88]

Do you?

[Asker]

I do.

[MrTexan37]

If you have to ALLOW her then your a control freak and shell cheat on you or lie about everything to your face look not all women with male friends are gonna cheat you gotta have some trust

[Asker]

Most great and loving relationships that I have been in, in which they had male friends, they ended up sleeping with one of them. I trusted them completely. Guys who befriend women have one main objective, and that is not in the interest of her or our relationship. It is much better that she only have female friends.

[MrTexan37]

Look man shit happens not every woman cheats you gotta trust she won't

[Asker]

Do you really believe that there are women who would never cheat under any circumstances? I want to, but I just wonder if I am attracted to, (or attracted by) those type of women. ?

[MrTexan37]

Yeah i do believe there are woman who wouldn't cheat under any circumstances and yeah you might wanna change up the type of women you date if you do what youve always done you'll get what youve always got

[Asker]

Well, it's easier said than done, as one never knows which kind she is at the time. I was 100% convinced that my girlfriends would, could NEVER cheat on me. Until I found out I was wrong. Even a good Christian girlfriend.

[princessmethteeth]

She's going to do what she wants. I'm not a slave master. If I don't like what she does, I'll just be out...

[Orion1084]

"Allow"?

Umm... she's free to make her own decisions about her friends. I can't exactly forbid her from having male friends, nor would I even try.

[thewanderingme]

allow?

she's not your child.

[DisastrousQu33n]

Exactly what I was going to say.

[thewanderingme]

@DisastrousQu33n ::HIGH FIVE:: (:

[Asker]

Women are much like children emotionally, and need the guidance and direction of a good man.

[ImSky]

you're the one whose like a 'child emotionaly' since you're still so petty about you're past experiences. You're so insecure my friend, it's actually quite sad.

[Billlewis]

Yes, and I also encourage the woman I'm dating/serving to engage in casual sexual relationships with other men whenever she likes.

[Little-Hippie]

I really can't control that.

But if a girl has ONLY male friends, we wouldn't be dating in the first place.

[PT1911]

Poor choice of words brother, but "yes"

Because I would trust her.

It's her male friends I wouldn't trust.

And I'd break every bone in their body if they tried soemthing stupid

[phanindra554]

No, don't control her if you don't like any guy friend of her then tell her then talk about the issue I think you get a good answer

[muspelhem_5]

It's not for me to allow. I would trust her to be with me because she wants to.

[Anonymous]

Don't allow her. WTF she can't have any male friends because they all want to get in her pants.

If you don't have options then keep kissing her ass.

[muspelhem_5]

If you're saying that not allowing any male friends is kissing her ass, then I disagree. Not allowing male friends is SO beta. It's a sign that you feel threatened by other men. From what I have experienced (being one of those other men), it will only make her more likely to cheat on you.

[Opinion Owner]

In countries where it is considered horrible by society for a woman to have male friends, the women do cheat less. Those women in general are FAR LESS promiscuous and trust worthy.

Western women are just taught to disrespect men. And by the way don't pretend you've never been jealous of any other men.

[Introvert94]

I wouldn't mind much cause most my friends are women. so if she didn't want me to talk to my friends she can't talk to hers.

[Anonymous]

"Allow"? What am I, her father? lol

[Anonymous]

Yeah dude it's called trust lol sure my girl kissed a guy while we where together but hey I fucked someone else lol but we still love each other

[Asker]

Oh, that's really nice to hear. (BARF).

[Opinion Owner]

Well at least I can trust her

[Asker]

Huh? You said you are sure she kissed a guy while you were together. You have no reason to trust her! Nor she you.

[Opinion Owner]

I do lol we're still together so if she doesn't want to be with me then why is she still with me? She's smarter (academic wise) and has a nice paying job. She could leave me anytime. But we're happy

[Cowboy6666]

Yes if she calls all her male friends bro..

Ahahahahaha

[BertMacklinFBI]

yeah d00d, i trust her.

[astatine]

allow? i need permission now?

[_Zara_]

Allow? Sorry but you don't own her

[Asker]

No, but he should still be the one to decide. Male friends often lead to much more than just "friends".

[_Zara_]

If she wanted one of her male friends then she wouldn't be with her boyfriend...

[Asker]

She may believe that to be true. But, then one night, oops, "I'm so sorry, it just happened." I know from many experiences.

[_Zara_]

Start dating boys then

[SolitaireBond]

ALLOW.. JUST WHO THE FUCK ARE YOU?

[Asker]

It is the man's responsibility to keep his girl away from guy's who only have one intention, whether you believe they do or not.

[SolitaireBond]

You talk complete and utter bullshit.. So why don't you FUCK OFF somewhere else and dictate.

Oh, and am more than sure that some of my male friends who just so happen to be in the same rugby team as my husband, would dearly love to have a "quiet" word or two with you.

[Asker]

You are very young and very naive. And I am so sorry for your husband whom you kiss with that filthy mouth of yours. It sounds like you have much growing up to do.

[SolitaireBond]

Thank you so much for your very lovely sweet compliments.. Very much appreciated.

[Anonymous]

only if they were hot

[idkwtftoputhere]

Lmao

[Asker]

You want your girlfriend to have hot male friends?

[_Zara_]

Lol..

[Anonymous]

of course becuse i'm not a tyrrant basically

[douride2]

He would have no say in who my friends are.

[Asker]

Nice attitude.

[douride2]

I'm glad you agree.

[douride2]

Or were you being sarcastic?

[Asker]

The latter.

[douride2]

Thought so after I read your comments.