Girls, would you allow your boyfriend to have female friends? And boys, would you stay friends with females in a relationship?

[Samathoo]

I know a lot of females out there aren’t okay with their boyfriends having female friends because they are worried they will cheat on them with the female or the female will make or move or whatever. I can understand the worry but personally, I don’t know? I think if I trust my boyfriend, I shouldn’t worry? Because if a female comes onto him, he will reject her. Ya know? And I just don’t feel it’s really right to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend who to be friends with. Kind of controlling, right? My mom was telling me a while ago “if he has female friends, he shouldn’t be hanging with them, he should be hanging with YOU.” But I don’t know it’s just.. eh? Why does it matter? I mean most of them would know he’s in a relationship and I know not all females respect that but like I said, my boyfriend should be able to reject them and if he doesn’t then he clearly doesn’t care about me? I just am curious to see what everyone has to say. If you do feel your boyfriend doesn’t deserve to have female friends, I won’t judge you. Just curious to why? And guys, how do you feel about this? Would you drop your female friends for a girl? Would you stop hanging with them right when you got into a relationship regardless?

[Anonymous]

I don't think I'd enjoy my boyfriend hanging out with girls without me but that's only because it'd be not like him? We are both the type of person who only feel we only need each other. He works and I don't mind him speaking with his female coworkers. I know I have trust issues and insecurities that he's helping me work on due to my past. But we and I mean we both never go out with other sexes. We are gamers too so we rarely go out unless need be. He has female friends he speaks with online though and I don't mind. Plus we are very free with our "privacy" We can both go into each other's phones whenever we want but we don't. Anyways, I think if he were ever to have female friends itd be weird at first, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't allow it. He is teaching me to trust and trusting him is what I would do.

[lostgirl_searching]

I wouldn't care if my boyfriend makes new female friends because I trust him. He actually doesn't make new female friends unless it's gaming and he tells me even though he doesn't have to because I don't mind but I guess maybe he thinks it's disrespectful to make new female friends. Some people believe the " your girlfriend/boyfriend is now your best friend " I also don't want him to stop being friends with his already female friends that he has known more than me.

[Malita55]

Of course I’d allow my boyfriend to have female friends, because I trust him. It would make me uncomfortable if he hung out with them all the time and I probably wouldn’t want them hanging out alone unless I knew her well, but I’d allow it. I can’t just tell him he isn’t allowed to have any other females in his life lol

[rylee_may]

I mean I would my boyfriend can be friends with whoever he wants unless U have proof that there is something more than just friends I would trust him

[alyx92]

As per me i will not allow because i think when they have friend in opposite sex there might b chances when they can come close like if you are friend with some other guy as u are in relation you might like his some habit that your boyfriend lacks and with time there are chances to get attracted towards him as its natural so to make your relationship best you should avoid as i am in relationship n i don't even talk to other girls

[Samathoo]

I understand this

[ravedave]

It's not like I'm some mindless zombie controlled by my dick. I can maintain a platonic relationship with women, and I'm not going to let my partner dictate who I can and can't be friends with, at least not for unreasonable criteria like gender alone, that's controlling and ridiculous.

[Samathoo]

I agree!

[ravedave]

Your post pretty much hit the nail on the head. At the end of the day it comes down to trust. If you truly have a problem with your SO being friends with the opposite gender, then it's either a trust or insecurity problem.

[spartan55]

I think you are on the mature train of thought with this. If I can't trust my girlfriend around her guy friends or whoever guess what? SHE IS NO LONGER MY GIRLFRIEND.
It's never made any sense to me why someone would be in a relationship with someone they cannot trust.

[Zerenei_Kryathos]

My best friend in the world is female, I would hate to have an s/o trying to break that up, that would cause issues. And if your relationship is solid, you have no reason to worry, if anything does happen, it's on him, I don't think being paranoid the last few weeks of your relationship would have prevented it.

[Cammy137]

I wouldn't stay with someone if she banned me from having female friends. I have no desire to feel like im living in North Korea

[My-Shangri-La]

“Girls, would you allow...” ALLOW? No woman is gunna allow me or not allow me to do anything. Are you joking?

[Samathoo]

Wrong term, you’re right.

[NightOwl8801]

As long as we know not to cross the line of friendship and cross into intimacy then I don't see any problems with staying friends

[SlavGuy]

First off, fuck off trying to control who someone is friends with. And yea I will keep my girl friends as close as ever because if it won't work out I dont plan to make new friendships all over.

[ThePundertaker]

I would stay friends with females. They’re just friends dude

[winterfox10]

It isn't about whether or not you trust her, it's about whether or not you trust her male friends to behave themselves. I do not

[tyci16]

I jut cheated on my girlfriend because we were fucked up in a motel and stuff few pictures were taken and so a week after we broke up she goes and tell me that she fucked one my bots in the hood and they we all talking shit about me... wtf

[SilverRain92]

I thing nor guys nor girls should control their partner's life. And yes, I have a very good female friend who has a boyfriend.

[epicb]

I'll still have friends of both sexes, but my girl will always come first!

[Razal]

I would try to avoid.