Is this type of guy crazy or dangerous?

[Bysin21]

I was in a prior relationship with a guy for about 3 years. I ended things because well it wasn't much of a relationship after awhile. I found that he came on strong in the beginning. Eventually, we dwindled down to fuck buddies. Along the way he got another woman pregnant, moved in with her, and they are still happily engaged to this day. At least from what I last saw on her social media. Yes, I looked being nosey.

In any case since I broke up with him he keeps calling me. He literally won't go away it seems. I can block my number etc. He's told me in the past I belonged to him and that he wasn't joking. I don't know why because as I mentioned our relationship fizzled out not to mention he has a fiance whom seems to be his trophy girl based on her social media... he buys her expensive gifts and they take trips together.

I know he just wants sex with me and to be controlling. But, what I struggle with is why. I know for a fact he can get other women and does as I am sure both I and his fiance are one of many. Correction I was one until I dumped him.

But why is he being so persistent in his efforts to keep me around and control me just for sex. Is it a kink? Is this guy just a nut case? He has done things like show up uninvited. Should I be worried? Sometimes I do get concerned. No matter how long I avoid him, he persists in contacting me. Not because he cares or values me. Hell, I don't even think he truly even finds me attractive. Are some me so sex craved?

What are your thoughts in general and about my questions? Thanks in advance.

[Anonymous]

First let’s just acknowledge that no, they’re not happilt engaged. He’s cheating on her. That’s very far from being happily engaged.

Now, with that out of the way. The reason he’s chasing after you like that is because by dumping him you hurt his male ego and he’s desperately just trying to prove to himself that he could still have you if he wanted to. He can not stand the thought of being rejected and that someone doesn’t want him. That’s all.

[Bysin21]

I agree. He has said stupid stuff like it won't be over until he says so. Well, it is over because I say so. I plan to continue ignoring him. Eventually, he should get tired and move on. Thanks for your feedback.

[kyleelyn199723]

Because the bottom line is: you are allowing him to do so. You have a life outside your phone and social media pages. You have the option to change your number, Lay off on social media and let things die down and you are choosing not to. Regardless if he is dangerous or crazy, you have the option to shun him out of your life but for whatever reason (maybe because you like the attention) you aren’t.

[Bysin21]

I have shun him from my life. I don't regularly check either of their social media either. I actually haven't looked in months. Usually, then it's triggered by his contacting me.

No, I don't change my number because I don't want to. I have a lot of important contacts who have my number. Besides when he can't reach me via phone as I noted he has just popped up at my house uninvited. Or, will email or just call from different numbers.

It's definitely not attention seeking on my end. But thanks for your feedback.

[kyleelyn199723]

I had this happen to me and I changed my number without the care of needing to text people that I changed my number. So with that being said: I think you do personally like the attention and that’s why you aren’t changing circumstances to get him to leave you alone

[realshiz]

get a restraining order! and tell his fiancee