Hey guys, So I've liked this guy for a while now, and want to start a relationship with him. We are friends and talk almost every day, however it's always me that starts the conversations. We have the same interests and he is always happy to talk and seems interested in the conversation, but he is also a very polite man and I can't tell weather or not he actually wants to talk to me. He could just be shy, but in that case am I being to pushy or forward? I am also a little taller than him which I personally don't mind at all, but maybe it's intimidating for him? I know his ex and she looks a bit like me but a lot shorter. Is there a way to get him to start the conversation instead? Side note: yesterday I overheard him and his buddy talking about future tech and space travel and stuff- all things I'm really interested in, but I didn't want to seem like I was butting into their conversation or eavesdropping so I just walked away.He's not that short we are almost the same height but I thought this was a cute photo.
well i don't think height matters that much in a relationship as i am in a relationship with a taller girl im about 5ft7 and she's 5ft8 , we both are pretty introvert and shy but with matching interests and aspirations, i am currently in med school and she will join this year, we have pretty similar interests in sports and music too, i remember our first date was going on a hiking trip where we both actually confessed our mutual feelings for each other, i suggest you go for a fun outing wherever you like where you could probably talk about you feelings a bit more openly, there is nothing pushy about having a candid conversation, and you'll feel a heavy burden being lifted off your back because if you really are into someone and cannot express it, it weights you down greatly so communicate... all the best
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Yes great idea, I guess if confess and I get rejected at least I'll know, plus he's the kinda person I would still wanna be friends with and go on friend outings :)
Ahahaha... The drawing is like me with my girlfriend, except swapped, and she's even a little shorter... Hehehehe...
*ahem*
But anyway, I digress. So, addressing your issue. I would say it's alright to start the conversation, as it shows him you're interested in him. It's not that pushy, but try not to get to the point where it is. Also the height thing I don't think it's a problem, or at least it isn't by my book, but I'm not sure about him. Usually, when a girl is even only slightly taller than a guy, it looks like she's much taller. Tall girls look even taller than they really are.
Why don't you just ask him and let him answer your question? It's nothing wrong with telling someone that you like them and how they're feeling about it.
Depends Get a Coffee every day with him and see if he asks you out as well sec maybe going to a park and watching the sun rise. Donāt flirt too much but flirt some.
I know I am 13 but I hate when girls at class always flirt with me over the top. Iām fine with some flouring at school but not over the top when Iām working a 8 hour shift of middle school endlessly learning.
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Ok those date ideas are really nice. When u say u hate when girls flirt over the top do u mean when they laugh at everything and are kinda fake etc. Or do u just mean when they try to talk to u all the time
My guess would be that he's just shy. Maybe you could try asking if he'd like to get together for coffee or go to the museum or something along those lines. If he's really not interested oh, I think he would probably find some way out of that. But go for it.
If he is shy just be direct and give him time. You can't be pushy unless you don't give him time to refect. You just tell or show what you want. That something everyone should do. Take small steps until he resist and communicate.
See he can't be shy from you coz you both are friends and you talk. But like never you gave any signs of liking him like staring , Eye to eye contact etc that we do when we like someone.
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Oh ok good point, we have made strong eye contact a couple times but not very often. I don't want to creep him out or anything tho
have you given any sort of direct clues that you like him in that way? i doubt your asking him out would push him away (hint hint) .
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Thanks, I will certainly do so if the opportunity arises naturaly, like if a movie came out in cinemas and we both wanted to see it or something like that
I believe he likes you. I have been in that situation of liking a girl who i know likes me but i was afraid of screwing everything up and missed out. Give him assurance and tell him how you feel
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