I see this a lot on this site. When it comes to race, looks, etc. The dick questions, the boob questions, and yes (Daniela), even the height questions. We're all insecure about at least one thing. I sure as sh*t am.
The one thing I dislike however, is when people try to assert or imply that there is only one "correct" beauty standard. And it usually grinds my gears! And it's usually (but not always) Western white men's standards of beauty. As in, short (5'6" and under), super skinny, flat-chested or small-breasted white women being held as the only "correct" standard of female beauty. It f*cking annoys me!This is what you're told you're "supposed to like" as a man. No exceptions.No, I'm not going to go all #effyourbeautystandards and "body positivity" sh*t on you. I honestly don't care what other people are into, as long as they aren't wrecking homes and stuff (such as liars, cheaters, abusers, pe dos, con-artists, etc). I'm just sick of certain men giving me sh*t about what *I* like in women. I mean, I'm a dude and even I get annoyed by this sh*t!
I've explained this before, but I'll post it again: "Conservative White Western men mainly only like thin women because of socioeconomics. As in, they're considered a sign of health and wealth in the modern day and age, in the Western part of the world. This has only been a thing since like, the 1970s. Go back in history and you'll see liking "chubby girls" is the norm. And still is, outside of right-leaning, white, Western men's preferences." Not every woman over 130 lbs is a "land whale" as some of you dudes like to claim.I like thick women. Curvy women. Even BBW's. I don't give a flying f*ck if that's not what you like! You don't need to like what I like. I was born liking what I like. I like women. I like feminine body parts on women, like big boobs and a fat booty. So, I like more of those body parts on a woman, if she has them. Got it?Does anyone else agree with me here, or am I the crazy one?
Is it acceptable to admit that people can have physical preferences in others that don't fit your own and that that's okay?
Ok I will try to chisel your question with a perfect answer. Words like skinny, fat, short or tall are wrong words to describe a beauty. You have to look at a person as a whole physical package. As it goes for western a so called ""golden standard"" I honestly cannot say that we are wrong about it. Men's and Women's taste for opposite sex, hasn't changed much if at all in 1000's of years. Just look at all the statues from Greece, Rome, Sparta, just to name the few, read a 2000 year old KJV Bible where there is a description of beautiful woman and man, look at Egyptian paintings or paintings from Japan that portray man or woman 100's if not 1000's of years ago. I hate to say this, but there was always a Golden Standard for what is considered to be a beautiful woman or a handsome man. And the best part about my comment is that you don't have to believe me. Just look at a 1000+ year old history, paintings, sculptures and descriptions of both beautiful woman and handsome man in historical books. And as I said in the very beginning, words like skinny, fat, short or tall are wrong words to be used to describe an ugly or a beautiful person. You have to look at his or hers full physic, skeleton structure, curves, having a right amount of fat in right spots etc...
People are entitled to their own preferences. We're attracted to certain physical features and certain body types. No justification is necessary.
Make these girls 5'2" and their bodies exemplify something close to my feminine ideal. Soft and curvy, nice proportions, not skinny or lean but not thicc.
I just found this picture of nice boobs. But this girl looks remarkably like the girlfriend I always talk about, except her hair was more golden.
Everyones got a preference and if someone says they don't then they are a liar. Had a conversation with a guy on here told him I don't like chubby guys. Personally I am skinny so I'd like a skinny guy too. And he called me a piece of shit. I'm like... Why is this guy trying to act like preferences make you into a bad person. He can like chubby or skinny women, I don't give a shit. But me not liking chubby/obese guys makes me a horrible person? Doesn't make sense. Pretty sure that guy was fat and just upset and taking it out on me.
I feel seen… lol I agree with you some people on here are very rude toward anyone who doesn’t fit their idea of beauty as if it’s RIGHT or something. Yeah I’m 5’10, thick, and a POC and I’ve spent a lot of time comparing or feeling inferior to your 5’3, Caucasian, slim, flat chested woman, but it’s all about finding my crowd and placing myself where I’m celebrated, not torn apart. So there’s a lesson in that within itself.
I thought you were 5'9"? Anyway, you're almost exactly my type of woman physically, but I remember you implying you only wanted extremely tall, buff men... 😔
I think you're absolutely correct. Particularly in the fact that criticizing other people for the things they find beautiful is absolutely ridiculous. There is a man for every woman and a woman for every man. And it's super healthy that people have different beauty standards. That allows us to be a diverse and interesting population, as opposed to a cookie-cutter standard. So I think it's great that there are different standards and I think it is awesome.
One point is that it's not white conservative men who have chosen the thin short women as the beauty standard. That's technically incorrect. Instead it's actually the fashion industry. They have chosen this because they are the type of girl who can maintain that body type over a long time period and they are also the body type that can show off the widest range of clothing styles. So you will see all of the supermodels having this body type, and that's what a lot of people think most men want. But when you actually poll the men it's much closer to the Marilyn Monroe body type. The wafer-thin look is actually pretty low on the list for a lot of men. And it's men and women of all walks of life who make the choices on who will be a model, and it's usually judging from the more pragmatic perspective I shared above.
I notice that too. I don’t see the need to shame others on what they like, just because that is not your preference. I think some people are just too obsessed over getting validation on what is supposed to be accepted. They feel like you need to agree on their idea of what is attractive, just because they want reassurance.
It's very acceptable and absolutely no one should be made to feel ashamed of it (except for pedos and the like). I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I'm ok with that.
Side note: also not ok to shame someone who doesn't meet those preferences. I see this a lot especially when other women will shit on a man who isn't tall enough or muscular, etc. Embarrasses the hell out of me as a woman
I don't know about the rest of these people in this post, but I focus on inner beauty. So it doesn't matter if she light weight or heavy weight, because I don't got no particular taste in women or particular type in women. A gentleman like me except all women even if she is an alien and in human flesh disguise.
I think I've talked about this before too and it's a massive pet peeve of mine when people act as if one is wrong, inferior or should feel bad about having a preference, although I mostly think of food when it comes to that. 😂
The same definitely applies to body types and attraction too, because it's subjective.
Wasn't Bella Hadid considered to be the most beautiful woman in the world, 'scientifically' ?
Of course its acceptable man. you know that , but i like you calling these morons out. I like all kinds of women maybe cause I ain't really looking at bodies that much. I'm looking at minds. I think anyone can be a beautiful person if they choose too. As far as just whiter women being the beauty standard I think that's just another way the powers that be mess peoples minds up. there's so much unrealistic bullshit that people believe these days.
Yes, it's OK. Your preferences are yours and you shouldn't have to defend them to anyone. No one owes anyone a date or a relationship and, indeed, to try to tell a grown man what he should like or prefer in a woman is intrusive and disrespectful. If I like slim tall girls and you like thick short ones, that doesn't make either of us better or worse than the other. It's just our individual preferences---other people need to butt out, deal with it, and get over themselves.
I meant to add, "in my opinion," and part of that is what I made this post. I never once stated it was any "objective standard," or else I wouldn't have made this question. You can accept that or not. I don't care.
Nowhere I implied that. I only said: "This is what I consider the perfect shape:"
You've read what isn't there because you feel insecure about your own preferences. I wouldn't have commented on your post there, because I don't care what you like. I get a ton of shit for liking "rail thin" chicks too, I don't care.
@Кураж I'm sorry I didn't clarify what I said earlier and it wasn't my intention to bash your preferences. Maybe I was defensive because I'm always getting crap for mine.
It's cool. I was shitposting over on that other thread anyway, because the whole "is this perfect?" topic is dumb anyway. If everyone was to post what they think is "perfect" it would all be different pictures.
I mean that's how it SHOULD be but we all know that it's not. People shouldn't have to feel ashamed for liking what/who they like but there are people that make it their business to do that. It does get super annoying at times.
Sure it’s acceptable. People are entitled to their preferences. The question is, are these preferences realistic. The person should also way the probability of their selection choosing them in return. A recent example of this is Lizzo choosing Chris Evans. Unfortunately popular culture doesn’t temper possibility with the probability of the desired result occurring.
What I like and you like may not be the same thing, but neither of us are right or wrong - all down to preference and experience.
If someone does not like curvy girls or short guys, then that is all good... be respectful and acknowledge that others may not find your preference to their taste.
Theoretically and historically, yes. However, for all the TALK of "live and let live," virtually no one actually DOES it now. Your opinion has to be the same as mine, and you have to agree with what I believe-or you're stupid and wrong. That's the way of today. Talk the game... but don't actually do it.👌
Your posting seems a bit ambiguos. The question itself implies that you want all to accept every taste the others have as their legitimate taste. But in the end you blame white conservative guys for their preference of slim white women. So they have also the right to have their own taste.
No, that is incorrect. I am not saying anyone needs to "like" other people's preferences in body types. Just that they shouldn't try to shame others for what they like. The people who claim that a woman is "supposed" to be 5'4", 105 lbs, B cup, and fair skinned, happen to mostly be conservative white western males, because that is *their* standard of female beauty. And they are entitled to it. Nothing wrong with that and I am not judging them for what they like. But their standard of beauty is not the "universal standard" all women *should* be. I wish people would stop implying it is and that any deviation outside of this is "wrong," especially when they used pseudo-science excuses like "any woman over x-amount of weight is unhealthy" or some crap like that.
In short, let people like what they like without judging them.
Isn't a large body a sing that she is unhealthy. I mean a large woman is an obese person. Shouldn't we try to discourage that? I will grant that you can have large boobs and an ass and still be petite, but choosing woman that ate clearly overweight isn't good for them. They're not motivated to be as healthy weight if people like you fetishize them. FYI, I prefer smaller women, but I think a lot of that has to do with what I am. At 5'4" and 120 lbs, I am small. I prefer girls around my height and weight.
You're not a medical expert and you can't assess a person's health just by looking at them or else, we wouldn't need doctors. You can make the logical conclusion that someone who weighs 400+ pounds doesn't have the best health they possibly could, and you'd be more likely to be right than not, but it's not a guarantee you are. Being overweight doesn't automatically assume you are unhealthy or out of shape, or else all NFL players would be considered unhealthy because they have high BMI's too. As well as pro wrestlers.
And let's be honest, no one gives a sh*t about their "health" when judging them on beauty standards. It's disingenuous to assume you do. You can promote better health for people, sure. But you can't assume they have bad health just based on how much you think they weigh.
As a former wrestler weight was a major part my life. I got pretty good at judging it by looking at people. I couldn't give you an exact amount, but I can probably be within 20 lbs.
Anyone can guess someone's weight within twenty pounds. It doesn't change the fact that I said you can't tell what someone's cardiovascular health is based solely on how they look. Most people would look at me and assume I'm a lazy piece of sh*t and not someone who rides a bicycle daily; just did a 20 mile one-way ride this weekend (an hour of straight bicycling) and has done martial arts for ten years now. All you'd assume is I'm fat, therefore I must be lazy and sedentary. And you'd be wrong. I might even be more physically active than you, but you'd assume it was impossible.
I don't think fat people are lazy and sedentary. I wrestled, most fat guys were pretty strong, same for football players, they're fat and strong. Sumo wrestlers are at and strong. I know fat and strong can be the same thing, but you can't say it's healthy.
I don’t think you’re crazy curvy women are hot too. I’ve always wanted to be skinny because growing up I used to be told things like that bikinis aren’t for fat girls meanwhile my skinny best friend with a high metabolism was always told that her body was a body sculpted by God I was 8 and I guess that has affected me. I see beauty in a lot of bodies I think both curvy girls and skinny girls are beautiful but for myself I’d personally love to be skinny.
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