If a guy says he has “a lot on his plate “ is that his way of telling me to leave him alone?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been talking for a bit over a month.. he just wants sx.. He’s also been wanting sex and when I finally agree to it he’s been ignoring all my advances..

I don’t want to bother him anymore but I don't know if he’s he’s busy or trying to reject me

[Carolus]

Run, you on the cue, there is someone he has to fuck first or lives with a girlfriend who is still in the house - once the house is available, he will come running, no man says no to a pussy.

[Asker]

yooooo thats what I was thinking!!! he started saying that if he doesn't respond its bc his phone was off while he was at work... he used to text me throughout the day... its not adding up anymore.. I don't know if he really is busy with work... he says he doesn't have time for a relationship.

[LaNc3L0TT]

Did you had sex or you "only" agree for it? And can you tell more about him ignoring you on which topics?

[Asker]

Agree for it, but he wants friends with benefits and I don’t.

I tell him I’m available for sex and he doesn’t respond to it or pretends he didn’t see it.. and explains why he didn’t see it etc

[LaNc3L0TT]

Either he is not interested anymore (which is hard to believe since we are not skipping chance for sex) or just acting like a "playa" and "collecting" chances for sex. I think you should ignore him and not push your self under bus. If you are eager to have sex you can do it with someone else, instead of doing that basically begging him to sleep with you.

[Asker]

I think he’s talking to someone else.. he says he really enjoys talking to me and that I deserve a lot

I don’t understand what’s going on...

[LaNc3L0TT]

Ofc he is talking with someone else... "he says he really enjoys talking to me and that I deserve a lot", by this he wants to keep you not close but "there" and he is slightly pushing you to friendzone or at lest keeping you as reserve. In any case just skip that dude, trust me :D

[Asker]

I totally forgot that he rated me a 7 and he said he saw me as a friend and nothing else

Ofc he says this after he sends a dck pic and bc I don’t want friends with benefits anymore.. but he said it was okay if I didn’t want sx and that he understands

He said we can still talk and that it’s no problem.. he said I help him get through his work days.

[LaNc3L0TT]

Then you have your answer, he wanted something you didn't. Move on, try to don't think about it and week or two you will good to go. Some normal guy will cross paths with you and you will forget about this and laugh to it.

[spartan55]

You don't really want him anyway.

[Asker]

yes I do.. he doesn't want me

[spartan55]

That's not what you said. Stop trying to gaslight me. He doesn't want you because you are a flake and weird.

[Asker]

im not weird...

[spartan55]

You, aren't? You think what you are doing is normal? You are unstable and disturbed too.

[Asker]

never heard that one... gag must pay you.. you have nothing better to do huh?

[spartan55]

This coming from the girl who is so bored and lonely she makes some guy think she is going to be his fuck buddy... but it's ALL FAKE.
Yeah, I have nothing better to do. I'm just calling what I see and you don't like it. Just leave the guy alone

[Asker]

i told him the truth and he still want to be friends... so

[spartan55]

Oh yeah? Funny how you are just mentioning this now... I really doubt he would stick around after you lied to him and used him for attention.

[Asker]

Probably not, but I lied bc I didn’t think I would actually like him.

[spartan55]

So why did you bother on the first place? Oh yeah, you were 'lonely'...🙄 You are seriously unstable... and now you just continue this charade like nothing happened. You didn't tell him everything, or maybe anything.

[Asker]

Not going to lie. Calling me unstable is quite hurtful and I did tell him everything

I really do like him but I don’t think he’s attracted to me and he friend zoned me

[spartan55]

I'm really not saying it to be hurtful. I'm telling you as an outside objective POV.
Do you understand why he likely lost interest?

[Asker]

Yeah , I don’t want sex and he does

[spartan55]

Well duh, that's the original pretense under which you started talking.

[Asker]

So is he just letting me down easy

[spartan55]

Either that, or he is just keeping you around in case you change your mind and want sex.

[Asker]

He likely lost interest because I lied?

[spartan55]

Uh yeah... obviously