Guys how do you feel if you girlfriend has many male friends?

[StormMistress]

Example say she has like 2-4 close male friends. Would this bother you? If so why? What does it matter. They’re just friends that are male nothing to be concerned about.

[Finchie40]

If she was just my girlfriend then I’d be fine with it as long as she was fine with me having girl friends , but the truth of the matter is , if you really valued your partner you wouldn’t really need opposite sex friends out of respect for your relationship those opposite sex friends could cause havoc to your relationship so why it’s best to limit
Your time with them and only hang out with them when your partner is present , when couples start prioritizing friends over their relationship that’s when things start to get bad , your partner will start to feel like you really don’t prioritize them and that’s when fire enters into a relationship, it has nothing to do with trust it comes down to respect for each other , You should always wear your partners shoes like they wear yours , if your partner tells you they don’t like and feel comfortable about one of your friends then you are best to side with your partner over your friendship , yes it sucks and at times it’s a tough cookie to swallow. but you have to remember your partner should be your best friend , if you want love to grow between you both , those friends won’t be around forever but your partner will be if you show them the same respect they show you it won’t always be easy , but it’s easy for all of us to be selfish and to really only think about ourselves , just because we think something is innocent it doesn’t mean your partner will feel the same , that’s why sacrificing for each other is important in a relationship, if you can’t sacrifice for your partner then don’t expect them to sacrifice for you , No one said relationships were easy but for love to grow you have to remove selfishness as much as possible or you will just be continuing with failed relationships and you are probably better off just staying single cuz your selfishness is more important to you. Me personally is t going to commit to a girl that can’t commit to me , Relationships are give and take you can’t expect someone to value you if you can’t value them

[EmbraceThePain]

Sure, “male close friends”


Suspicious as heck.


I’d question her, although I doubt the answer will be reasonable or something that I can come to terms with.


I’m with her, why does she have several male close friends? Red flag


Biologically speaking, this has been a near impossibility and disaster in real life.


Men and women aren’t meant to be strictly friends


They’re meant to be intimate with one another.
To have sex.


Trying to become platonic friends has failed for nearly everyone that has tried it today and yesterday.


Yet, people want to still believe and try out being just friends with the opposite sex.


No intimate emotions
No sexual feelings

[Ronni69]

I think it depends on the individual really. I have both male and female friends, but I tend to have more in common with males. As far as I love watching football, working on cars or small engines. I’d rather either stay at home and play corn hole, have a few drinks and hang out, or shoot some pool or play poker than go to the movies or go get my hair or nails done. I hate shopping. I like to wear what I’m comfortable in. I don’t dress up to go to the store, I can care less what other people think about me. And no I’m not ugly, it’s just the things I like to do or talk about or interested in pertain more to guys than girls. Don’t get me wrong I’ll do the girly stuff but it’s not my preference. So like I said it depends on the individual.

[InYourHead]

Done guys don't like it. I have a lot of guy friends

[Entechad]

It is not about friends, but behavior. I have as many female friends as male friends. When I see them, I will give them a hug. If it's been a while, I will give them a kiss on the cheek. It's not a, "Let me check that ass out" type of exchange. People can tell the difference. When a female has male friends, the exchange should be equally as plutonic. It shouldn't be a long squeeze. The relationship with the friend and the relationship with the significant other should all be taken into consideration. If behaviors are not in line with anyone, whether that's the friend who is a little more than a friend or the lover who is too controlling, than things need to shift to a healthier balance with or without the lover or friend.

[Preston_Tatum]

As long as she isn’t with a guy friend by themselves, in private place. Even if nothing is going on, it looks conspicuous. If she’s with a group of friends and one or two of these guy friends are with her that’s fine. If she tells me or runs it by, or asks if it’s cool, that tells me that she has nothing to hide.

[Oigit]

In a lot of ways it depends more on the male friends then me. If one of her friends can't get over her feelings for her after finding out she is with me that can create some issues. If she goes to a party at her male friends and he is the kind of guy that targets drunk women at a party, him and I are going to have issues. So in a lot of ways it depends on how her male friends act. Because some guys want to cross the friendship line in many ways even if they know she is with someone else.

[Heartache0405]

One of the reasons why I don’t do relationships anymore. If she has majority male friends, they’re all options for her. I wouldn’t feel secure in the relationship at all. I’d prefer to be alone as opposed to constantly worried and angry. Not worth my time.

[loveslongnails]

I'm not intimidated by my SO's relationships with her friends, whoever they are, especially if she had them before she met me. Guys who are bothered by such things tend to be immature, insecure and jealous. They try to control their girlfriends, which is why they will lose them sooner or later. If you're not going to trust your girlfriend or SO, why are you with her?

[Caliguy88]

I’m fine with it. I’ve always dated the girls that are more guy centric as far as friends. And I have a ton of girlfriends, as just friends…. So I can’t judge and I have a lot of trust. I’ve never cheated on anyone and I don’t know that I’ve ever been cheated on…. So I trust girls a lot.

[Waldoe]

It's pretty simple, all male animals view 'other' males as competition... antelopes at the "watering hole" or deer at the "mulberry patch" it's instinctual... Any other Male will take what is mine, if given a chance. My car, my home, my wife, my dog...

[Nigjt]

Yeah wright tell that Bs too someone else who really believe that shit because unless they gay an even if they are gay it's still on my mind.
She Ain't gonna like that fact that I am hanging around another Woman beside's her.
I ain't never meet a Woman where that shit work's for very long unless they eating each other Pussy an having ur Dick at the same time.
God Bless

[LaNc3L0TT]

I don't feel jealous or something like that, she had life before me, just like I had before her. I think neither of us are in position to ask another to not hang around with some old friends when there is no good reason not to.

[AydenHazor]

I think that's a good thing. Several of my closest friends are women as I think both men and women should have close friends that are both men and women.

[nawtee_me]

I actually agree 100%. Letting it bother a guy just means he has trust issues and the same for girls whos boyfriend has female friends too. Relationship are built on trust not on friends or lack of...

[Anonymous]

Yes it bothers me. Not because of her, but because of them. A guy can instantly sniff out a fucking rat in a way that women can’t always do. If your boyfriend is a normal guy but tells you a certain friend of yours is a problem, he probably knows what he’s talking about.

[Anonymous]

If she's never alone with them then it can be nothing. They're just friends until she starts sleeping with them after or even before you break up. They're just backup options in case things go wrong or if you don't want to pay for a divorce and need some right there. Seen this happen too often

[DeepPassionateLover]

Relationships are built on trust, if you can't trust your partner then I honestly couldn't say that we were really going steady at all.

[qwert1234]

I mean if I met her like this it's fine. If not, then depends on how close they are. Boundaries clearly need to be set, or I'll get a set of my own female friends too.

[MrCommodore]

Don't mind if friends only, but if she was friends with benefits or formerly in love with or dating one of them, then No.

[jammcm]

I think it is OK for either sex to have close friends of both sex. My wife and I are very good friends with the first man that proposed to her. I am friends with women I work with. The key is always openness.

[NathanDavis]

that's good... always great to see people who have friends, true friends...

[OmegaSTC]

The number of male friends doesn’t bother me as much as a lack of girlfriends. Girls that can’t hold down female friends tend to have a red flag signaling why

[Mofunfour20]

She belongs to the streets. I know what draws women to a man. It's not really hard to figure out