Guys how do you feel if you girlfriend has many male friends?

Question

Example say she has like 2-4 close male friends. Would this bother you? If so why? What does it matter. They’re just friends that are male nothing to be concerned about.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If she was just my girlfriend then I’d be fine with it as long as she was fine with me having girl friends , but the truth of the matter is , if you really valued your partner you wouldn’t really need opposite sex friends out of respect for your relationship those opposite sex friends could cause havoc to your relationship so why it’s best to limit
Your time with them and only hang out with them when your partner is present , when couples start prioritizing friends over their relationship that’s when things start to get bad , your partner will start to feel like you really don’t prioritize them and that’s when fire enters into a relationship, it has nothing to do with trust it comes down to respect for each other , You should always wear your partners shoes like they wear yours , if your partner tells you they don’t like and feel comfortable about one of your friends then you are best to side with your partner over your friendship , yes it sucks and at times it’s a tough cookie to swallow. but you have to remember your partner should be your best friend , if you want love to grow between you both , those friends won’t be around forever but your partner will be if you show them the same respect they show you it won’t always be easy , but it’s easy for all of us to be selfish and to really only think about ourselves , just because we think something is innocent it doesn’t mean your partner will feel the same , that’s why sacrificing for each other is important in a relationship, if you can’t sacrifice for your partner then don’t expect them to sacrifice for you , No one said relationships were easy but for love to grow you have to remove selfishness as much as possible or you will just be continuing with failed relationships and you are probably better off just staying single cuz your selfishness is more important to you. Me personally is t going to commit to a girl that can’t commit to me , Relationships are give and take you can’t expect someone to value you if you can’t value them

EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

Sure, “male close friends”

Suspicious as heck.

I’d question her, although I doubt the answer will be reasonable or something that I can come to terms with.

I’m with her, why does she have several male close friends? Red flag

Biologically speaking, this has been a near impossibility and disaster in real life.

Men and women aren’t meant to be strictly friends

They’re meant to be intimate with one another.
To have sex.

Trying to become platonic friends has failed for nearly everyone that has tried it today and yesterday.

Yet, people want to still believe and try out being just friends with the opposite sex.

No intimate emotions
No sexual feelings

Ronni69 · Accepted Answer

I think it depends on the individual really. I have both male and female friends, but I tend to have more in common with males. As far as I love watching football, working on cars or small engines. I’d rather either stay at home and play corn hole, have a few drinks and hang out, or shoot some pool or play poker than go to the movies or go get my hair or nails done. I hate shopping. I like to wear what I’m comfortable in. I don’t dress up to go to the store, I can care less what other people think about me. And no I’m not ugly, it’s just the things I like to do or talk about or interested in pertain more to guys than girls. Don’t get me wrong I’ll do the girly stuff but it’s not my preference. So like I said it depends on the individual.

InYourHead · Accepted Answer

Done guys don't like it. I have a lot of guy friends

Entechad · Answer

It is not about friends, but behavior. I have as many female friends as male friends. When I see them, I will give them a hug. If it's been a while, I will give them a kiss on the cheek. It's not a, "Let me check that ass out" type of exchange. People can tell the difference. When a female has male friends, the exchange should be equally as plutonic. It shouldn't be a long squeeze. The relationship with the friend and the relationship with the significant other should all be taken into consideration. If behaviors are not in line with anyone, whether that's the friend who is a little more than a friend or the lover who is too controlling, than things need to shift to a healthier balance with or without the lover or friend.

Preston_Tatum · Answer

As long as she isn’t with a guy friend by themselves, in private place. Even if nothing is going on, it looks conspicuous. If she’s with a group of friends and one or two of these guy friends are with her that’s fine. If she tells me or runs it by, or asks if it’s cool, that tells me that she has nothing to hide.

Oigit · Answer

In a lot of ways it depends more on the male friends then me. If one of her friends can't get over her feelings for her after finding out she is with me that can create some issues. If she goes to a party at her male friends and he is the kind of guy that targets drunk women at a party, him and I are going to have issues. So in a lot of ways it depends on how her male friends act. Because some guys want to cross the friendship line in many ways even if they know she is with someone else.

Heartache0405 · Answer

One of the reasons why I don’t do relationships anymore. If she has majority male friends, they’re all options for her. I wouldn’t feel secure in the relationship at all. I’d prefer to be alone as opposed to constantly worried and angry. Not worth my time.

loveslongnails · Answer

I'm not intimidated by my SO's relationships with her friends, whoever they are, especially if she had them before she met me. Guys who are bothered by such things tend to be immature, insecure and jealous. They try to control their girlfriends, which is why they will lose them sooner or later. If you're not going to trust your girlfriend or SO, why are you with her?

Caliguy88 · Answer

I’m fine with it. I’ve always dated the girls that are more guy centric as far as friends. And I have a ton of girlfriends, as just friends…. So I can’t judge and I have a lot of trust. I’ve never cheated on anyone and I don’t know that I’ve ever been cheated on…. So I trust girls a lot.

Waldoe · Answer

It's pretty simple, all male animals view 'other' males as competition... antelopes at the "watering hole" or deer at the "mulberry patch" it's instinctual... Any other Male will take what is mine, if given a chance. My car, my home, my wife, my dog...

Nigjt · Answer

Yeah wright tell that Bs too someone else who really believe that shit because unless they gay an even if they are gay it's still on my mind.
She Ain't gonna like that fact that I am hanging around another Woman beside's her.
I ain't never meet a Woman where that shit work's for very long unless they eating each other Pussy an having ur Dick at the same time.
God Bless

LaNc3L0TT · Answer

I don't feel jealous or something like that, she had life before me, just like I had before her. I think neither of us are in position to ask another to not hang around with some old friends when there is no good reason not to.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it bothers me. Not because of her, but because of them. A guy can instantly sniff out a fucking rat in a way that women can’t always do. If your boyfriend is a normal guy but tells you a certain friend of yours is a problem, he probably knows what he’s talking about.

AydenHazor · Answer

I think that's a good thing. Several of my closest friends are women as I think both men and women should have close friends that are both men and women.

nawtee_me · Answer

I actually agree 100%. Letting it bother a guy just means he has trust issues and the same for girls whos boyfriend has female friends too. Relationship are built on trust not on friends or lack of...

Anonymous · Answer

If she's never alone with them then it can be nothing. They're just friends until she starts sleeping with them after or even before you break up. They're just backup options in case things go wrong or if you don't want to pay for a divorce and need some right there. Seen this happen too often

DeepPassionateLover · Answer

Relationships are built on trust, if you can't trust your partner then I honestly couldn't say that we were really going steady at all.

qwert1234 · Answer

I mean if I met her like this it's fine. If not, then depends on how close they are. Boundaries clearly need to be set, or I'll get a set of my own female friends too.

MrCommodore · Answer

Don't mind if friends only, but if she was friends with benefits or formerly in love with or dating one of them, then No.

jammcm · Answer

I think it is OK for either sex to have close friends of both sex. My wife and I are very good friends with the first man that proposed to her. I am friends with women I work with. The key is always openness.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's good... always great to see people who have friends, true friends...

OmegaSTC · Answer

The number of male friends doesn’t bother me as much as a lack of girlfriends. Girls that can’t hold down female friends tend to have a red flag signaling why

Mofunfour20 · Answer

She belongs to the streets. I know what draws women to a man. It's not really hard to figure out

JustiReno · Answer

She gotta cut those dudes off unless they really like friends and pursuing other people but that is rare

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think I'd be OK with it. I have more female friends than male friends, so it would be even! LOL...

dudeinohio · Answer

My girlfriend told me from the beginning most of her friends were men. For some reason, I don't feel. the least bit threatened. But shebkinda has a tomboyish way about her.

dolemite89 · Answer

i’d think she’s an attention whore or just very naive to think that guys actually want to be her “friend”

Twalli · Answer

I don't mind. She had these friends before meeting me. They never dated so I am not worried about anything happening. Those guys had plenty of chances if they wanted to.

Guanfei · Answer

Now change sides and see how it feels. Would you be comfortable with your boyfriend being close friend with girls?

Miristheiss · Answer

I never would date such girls so it was never an issue.

AviatorTom · Answer

Good for her. I have female friends so it's perfectly ok for her to have male friends.

007kingifrit · Answer

men and women can't be friends. the men want sex. always. this is a problem for any relationship

Godsvengeance · Answer

I would prefer it because, in general, males are less drama and I wouldn't be with a girl who I didn't trust to be faithful

Andres77 · Answer

Honored... that after so many she picked me. And I get to hear all of her stories. And there's a lot!🤪

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Dosent matter to me, though my OH's male friends are gay or married

exitseven · Answer

If she used to date them and had sex with them I would be concerned.

Henry_-_Blakes · Answer

If she also have that much female friends, that won't bother me. But i would expect to keep some boundaries

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

Its not weird to have male friends but its a red flag when you have no female friends or your male friends happen to be exes.

Anonymous · Answer

Mr "he's just a friend don't worry about him" has fucked more girlfriends than any other guy in history.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

If i have feelings for her and going solo with her, then yes, it would bother me since i can trust her but not the guys... If i don't have any feelings for her, then no

rabbitzzz · Answer

Yes it would bother me. Maybe because I don't have many female friends I hangout with.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men and women can't be friends. So yeah id be concerned. Ask any divorce attorney about this... im sure they would agree.

Pete671 · Answer

As long as they had massive dicks I'd be cool with it,,,

prosmind · Answer

Having a girlfriend does not mean that she should leave all other friends and live with one only.

driven159 · Answer

I don't sweat the small shit jealousy is a human flaw

Anonymous · Answer

It does matter. The mind of the male wants to fuck. I would say thats a High Probability. Its possible to be friends, but most likely not. By the way, you look like Sarah Palin.

Djoo201017 · Answer

it depends on how they talk or how they spend time but many friends =many wasting time = many problems

Hulk30 · Answer

it is what it it im in a relationship and i have many female friends

boredomdude8 · Answer

They better have way bigger dicks than mine and you tell me allll the filthy details.

Blaine999 · Answer

It could make me feel a little insecure, doesn't help that I'm paranoid and aggressive lol

Zlantur2 · Answer

No unless she shows me that there is a reason to worry

yash0990 · Answer

Normal, but only if the male friend is mutual one. Rest can't assure fully

Anonymous · Answer

Not good, not good at all. I'd rather be single than have a girl with "GUY FRIENDS"

In_Trance · Answer

Her: all my friends are guys

spartan55 · Answer

I wouldn't bother with that.

ragooo8 · Answer

It's a redflag. Been there with sn ex.

jasco · Answer

I have many female friends so its ok

Zygum · Answer

She is slut, I don't like relationship with slut,

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

She's most likely a whore. Pump and dump only

jimmy2 · Answer

Like she might be a slut

Jaykrisss · Answer

For men that doesn't seem right. hormones kick in.

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Bonus. More dudes to add to my crew.

Zolly99999 · Answer

Wouldn't bother me a bit...

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