Well this relationship is clearly burning down and your communication attempts failed. He screaming and you being silent are just the ultimate proof of a horribly failed communication... If you want to fix it you -both- have to work on that.
Going silent during an argument can be excruciating for the other person because is left with 0 tools to understand what is going on or what to do, left overthinking in the darkness for undetermined amount of time. It's very easy to explode in anger as a response, blinded out by adrenaline accumulated. He shows to be anyway extremely insecure as he brings up your ex continuously, so it's quite obvious why he goes psycho in response of that. He badmouths you because he finds himself damaged and needs to find support from his relatives so he makes things worse without telling them the context (really most of people do this when talking about another person they have problems with).
On the other side probably if you're bad at dealing with conflict as well (it looks like so) he should understand that being loud and aggressive won't fix anything but make things worse day by day. He should also get over this thing of your ex, and I think if you want to help him with that you might try to compare him to your ex by saying how much he is so much better than him etc. If it's true, of course...
Either way, my personal opinion is that this relationship is not recoverable, the trust is completely gone both sides and it's not something you fix in like, a year. Scars will stay and will come up over and over occasionally. Even if things settle, you know he could get mad as hell any time, and he knows you could get silent any time. You'll keep knowing this in the back of your head.
But what's more important is that as far as I understood your relationship is not bringing you any joy, relax, care, support, freedom or good laughs, let alone long term perspectives. To both, I guess. So you're probably, both, following the ghost of what it was your initial period of infatuation when the friends with benefits period started, but that never comes back anyway. The relationship is what it is now, and it's objectively going very bad. But afterall, it started bad: he forced you in the relationship and you accepted, and it says it all... I really think this aberration should quit, for the good of both.
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The better question is why are u with someone that forced you to be with them and then wondering why you are not happy
Better run as far away as you can from him. Sounds like a toxic person to me the way you describe it
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It's time for you to end the relationship, and make sure your ex is out of your life before entering into a new relationship
That guy is way to toxic, why are you still with him?
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