Why do guys give you nicknames when you're freshly dating?

[Anonymous]

I've got the ick. Why's he calling me nicknames and using other other endearing terms when I met him not even a week ago.

It makes me mad. Do you really think I've caught feelings that quickly FOR YOU TO SAY THAT TO ME?

[TonyV]

Cause he likes you, it's not rocket science. If you don't like it your gonna have to tell him, you know comincate... we aren't fucking mind readers, how's he suppose to know you have some issue with a perfectly normal part of dating and flirting?

Why are you dating if you don't want endearment and affection?

[Asker]

Thank you for confirming that I am the problem

[TonyV]

Hey I was single a long time before I found someone, I struggle with affection too at times cause I'm use to being alone.
What nickname is he calling you?

[Asker]

Omg that's probably what it is lol. I am struggling with affection!! He was dropping words like 'baby' which I found quite odd

[Iron_Man]

We like it I called my past girlfriend the Beaner and It stuck with her the Cuban girl actually that came from my brother

[spartan55]

Did you tell him you didn't like that?

[Asker]

No I don’t know how to say that without starting an argument

[spartan55]

This is the definition of poor communication skills. Why would it start a fight?

[Asker]

Yes I have poor communication skills 😭

So if you were dating a girl and she said “why are you calling me that? What makes you think I want u to call me that?”

What would you do? Would that not lead to an argument?

[spartan55]

Those aren't the best ways to handle it. Are you not good a keeping your emotions under control during arguments?

[Asker]

Yes I’m not good at all and that’s why I need a patient and calm guy to teach me :/

[spartan55]

All you need to say is: "Babe" "Hottie" "(whatever term they use)" then giggle, laugh... it's too early for that type of thing, please don't call me that."
Done

[Asker]

Damn you make it so easy lol. Thank you

[spartan55]

Why are so default angry?

[Asker]

I don't know.. I have a lot of resentment towards men lol.