What does it mean when a guy gives a goodnight kiss and hug but then never messages after that?

[stonehaze]

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I'm so confused on this, because they made plans to do so much other shit together but then just ghost after saying they wouldn't.

[ohshee]

This totally sucks I wish girls would learn how to read guys better to pay attention to everything he says look deep into his eyes because in the same breath that he's lying to you he's also telling you the truth I feel bad for you for going to this totally sucks and I would say you're not the first girl he's done this to you have to look at it as it's his loss learn from it because in one way or the other we've all gone through this same thing we've all been you in life I always say you have to experience something to understand it this is one of those moments you don't want to ever have to go through again and I really hope you don't like I said it's his loss it's your g a i n because you will learn from it

[Guy13]

That’s usually not a good sign🤷🏻‍♂️. I would have asked you out again immediately if I was interested.

[stonehaze]

Yeah

[PrettyPriya]

I think there needs to be more context. Was this a date? Are you dating him? Was it the first, second, third or whatever date? Can you give some details into the situation?

It doesn't seem normal that someone would show such affection and then completely ignore someone. There has to be something that happened.

[stonehaze]

It was the first date, and we were at his apartment the whole time, cuddling and kissing and shit, and then he's being that way still as he's taking me home and drops me off, opens my door for me, and then gives me three kisses and 30 second hug and then leaves but texts me when he gets home then nothing 😑

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze Okay, so a couple of things to point out. Guys are usually not big into texting in my experience. Even with my fiancé, it is like pulling teeth sometimes. Perhaps this is one that doesn't like to text. That is the simplest (and hopefully) the correct assumption.

Now, more worrying is if he did this just to get past the first date and then ghost you. I hope that isn't what happened but very well may be. He may have just gone along with the mood and to get to the end of the night. I really hope this isn't true since that is a really terrible thing to lead someone on.

Have you sent any texts since? Perhaps, given enough time has passed, send a "thanks for the fun night and I hope to do it again. Do you have any plans this weekend?" type text will be enough to tell you what his intentions are.

If he doesn't have the courtesy to respond to that, move on from him. He clearly doesn't know what he wants and isn't going to treat you the way you deserve.

[stonehaze]

I think he ghosted me, because he said he had a good time and wanna to go camping next time , and then nothing

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze 😞 sounds like it. Sorry to hear this. Look at it this way... better off and you deserve better than him.

[stonehaze]

Thank you for talking to me, it really helped

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze Most certainly welcome. Still sucks though. No doubt you will find someone much better than that idiot.

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze Thank you for the MHO. How is everything going?

[stonehaze]

Not to bad, I'm just going with the flow of things, enjoying be single for the most part and not having to worry bout drama

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze Wow! That is like the best attitude! Good on you for not rushing it. Ultimately, you'll find a guy that deserves you.

[stonehaze]

@PrettyPriya yeah, it actually makes me feel so much better, because I've been dependent on people for so long but now I can start becoming independent and living for me

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze Good for you. Truly. That is such a positive attitude. Honestly, I don't run into people here that have such a good attitude after things like this happen.

[stonehaze]

@PrettyPriya got use to it. Wasn't the first time it happened before I learn more each time

[PrettyPriya]

@stonehaze absolutely! That is very wise thing to do. Just learn from things and take life lessons as they come. If you take something negative and turn it into a positive learning experience, you are going to do alright. 🙂

[boggboss]

That he was waiting on her sending the message?

[stonehaze]

What if they did but still nothing?

[boggboss]

How long has it been?

[stonehaze]

4 days

[boggboss]

Shit I would say that's a bad sign as even if he was busy that's kinda wild

[stonehaze]

Thats what I was starting to think, thank you

[Iron_Man]

That’s very weird probably a change of heart

[reiina]

sound like horrible things to do

[In_Trance]

Doesn't like you

[stonehaze]

Thanks 🖕

[Anonymous]

He's asleep?