There is this guy in my college class. I caught him many times looking at me and checking me out. I always thought he is very handsome and I tried greeting him and approaching him casually. But then every time he notices me looking at him or coming near him, or entering class, he turns away. He starts talking to his friend and it confuses me a lot. My friend thinks that perhaps he assumes my brother is my boyfriend given that he always see me with my brother and we actually get along like best friends. But I cannot be certain that is enough reason for him to turn away every time he see me come near him. So why guys, why would a guy turn away whenever I’m look in his direction? Why would he appear interested and then act this way?
Guys: why would a guy turn away when I try approaching him?
He obviously finds you attractive or he wouldn't be glancing your way. I'm sure he would love the chance to have a conversation with you.
My own first assumption would also be that the guy you are with is your boyfriend, and if he is shy then yes he would feel intimidated. Take that as a compliment, by the way. He may be scared of *him*, not you.
I have two suggestions. If you want to be direct, just walk up to him sometime -- if he's in your class, then you likely know his name -- maybe before class, when you have a few minutes, and a limit at the same time (in case he is shy), and just say "Hi, [name], I'd like to make your acquaintance. How's your day going?"
Since he is in your class, then there's an opportunity to be indirect, as well. Ask him if he can explain something that you don't understand (whether you understand it or not, it's not about getting help, it's about breaking the ice).
Either way, once you talk, ask him if he wants to meet for lunch on campus if you have a mutual break between classes. Then, go from there.
Dear Person, To start with, many guys fear rejection (I think it's common among all people). I, for one, also fear rejections. Also, if I'm the guy that is taking peeks at a girl/woman/female. There is no doubts that I'm interested in her. Being shy/nervous/unsecure is the reason for avoiding eye contact.
The best thing to do was to start with small things if you really like him. A note sticker (written & folded), a casual mention every now & then, and be honest with him about your feelings.
He is overwhelmed. He does not know what to do. We see this all the time in movies the girl is approaching and the guy panics and scrambles with his friends "what do I do, what do I do?"
3 suggestions off the cuff. -Walk up to him with a check yes or no note and give it to him. See if later he passes it back. -Or if you are really bold ask for his phone and dial your number. Then hand him the live connection to his ear and start talking to him in whispers. -Practically you could ask your brother to go talk to him. "Are you staring at my sister? Either do something more or stop. She's expecting a date but you never ask. And by the way she likes to go to the..." LOL
I think that if he turns away then you tried and got rejected. But there is also a chance he says yes. You never know unless you try and you're going to talk yourself out of it and loose your chance.
What if he starts talking to another woman? What if another woman starts talking to him? Yea... exactly you don't wanna see him with another woman and find out you had a chance.
Yes, it could be because he mistakes your brother as a guy you're involved with. He's probably just socially awkward and doesn't know how to handle your attention so he turns away to avoid the tension. Or maybe he's playing hard to get to see if you're really interested in him. To be fair, it doesn't sound like you've tried to approach him much and have given up when he turned away. Maybe you should be more assertive and approach him regardless. See what happens.
I had a girl approach me once. We went out. Turns out she was just after one thing. I turned her down for it
Girls, please, if you're going to ask us out, please know what you want, before asking us out. If I don't want sex, I'm allowed to say no
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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Because you're not the only women who's checking him out. Women love to be hit on, but they only want certain men to do it. As a man who's endured excuses, swearing, obscene gestures and even racist remarks whenever I tried talking to women, that's my case.
Come-on now little children…Guy with such little gonads is probably not suited to anyone well?
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Anonymous
(45 Plus)
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He's making you make an effort. It's no different than what you women do. Making guys do a little dance for you so-to-speak to meet your approval or not. You're going to have to put forth some effort.
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