If I have a busy week I don’t bother others or make plans I play it by ear. I’m just unsure about how drained I’m going to be and don’t want to put that on others. People really need to make me feel obligated like they did something for me and I’ll ruin it just by not attending.
But if you’re not offering a compromise…
Come to my place for dinner or let’s watch a movie at your place.
I’ll bring you lunch
Boom Boom after a workout
Meet me at the bar &grill my treat
Etc.
than obviously it’s you that’s getting bored.
Sad thing is if you want a hard working man that’s going places this is what you have to deal with.
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Sounds like either lack of interest or emotionally unavailable. I’ve dealt with men like that several times in my life, and I wouldn’t know any better if my current boyfriend wasn’t the perfect example of what a guy really does when he likes you. From the start, he was showing genuine interest and making effort to talk, ask me out, and set a plan. If we ever broke up I would never accept that “I’m too busy” with work line again, because my boyfriend only has one day off a week, and work 9 and 11 hour days. 5 days out of the week he drives the hour and a half a takes to get to my house when he’s not working, then even if he’s tired as heck he will take me out if I want to do something. He is consistent, hasn’t faltered, and doesn’t disappoint me. These traits are the definition of “if he wanted to he would”. So I can confidently tell you not to settle for a dude who’s allegedly too busy and can’t prioritize you at least one day out of the week. You can do better, and should want better.
I am really sorry to be this person but I can't take it any more.
looseadjective 1. not firmly or tightly fixed in place; detached or able to be detached. "a loose tooth"loseverb 1. be deprived of or cease to have or retain (something). "I've lost my appetite". At this point, you are. He could very well be dating around and doesn't want to seem like a cad. He could be busy. Don't call or text him. If he doesn't ci tact you in a week you have your answer.
Just keep talking with him. Don’t freak out yet. I can say that I have had those really busy weeks myself. It’s just a part of life. So ask him when he’d like to go out again but don’t push him. Just throw one proposal at him and let him mull over it. Sometimes guys and girls can get caught up in their life and certain things can be a second thought in that moment. Not to say he doesn’t think about you. But work is his priority during the day. Dating is something we all have to sacrifice time for.
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If it's only been a few weeks, you barely know each other. Do you know if he's the type who normally does not make plans, for any reason? For example, I'm the type of guy who likes to make his plans loose so that fewer things have to be rearranged when unexpected events cause plans to have to change. My advice is patience.
Honestly, and I am guilty of this too, depending on the guy, if he feels there is no chance of sexual relations soon, he could be pulling away.
It's not a bad thing, it's not a negative thing. Most men are instinctually driven for sex. They may not realize the motivation, but if that weird connection is made in any sort of subtle way, they will pull back.
Now, if he's one of the few men who recognize this motivation and don't let it control them, then he could be busy with work.
I guess you need to gauge his motivation first.Perhaps you are being paranoid. He might need some space to rest and do other things. Perhaps he is even testing how well you take it if he says “no, let’s hang out some other time”. I suggest you give him some space but continue showing him you care and that you are interested in his well-being
Maybe, hard to tell just based on that.
But seeing as the relationship is new, you would think he would be keen to meet with you.
Maybe check in with him in a weeks time, might give you a better gauge if he's gone cold or not.Could be both, either way you need to pump the brakes on expectations if this is a fresh relationship. Play it cool and give it time before going down the rabbit hole. The good sign is that he's communicating with you.
I am crazy so take my opinion with a grain of salt. I hate being alone and would never turn company away unless i did not enjoy their company at all. all of my exes became exes because i lost interest and just drifted away.
Who cares what he thinks, he sounds super boring and lazy. Maybe you are the one that lost interest? I would.
I have felt the same worrying does get u paranoid. Dont bother time reveals true faces if he is worried enough he ll get back.
Nah don't worry about it. He's just tending to other women right now. When that reaches a natural stopping point. Or until you call him back it'll just seem like he's lost interest.
you're paranoid.
if his slience stretches out to three weeks, then it's possibly that he's lost interest.Over thinking it's way too early to might any judgments
Ask can help 🆘 with anything and start with your schedule plan. Can you help with anything or get him a few hours with you.
Then you can ask questions without looking 👀 like you ask questionsPick up a book or sum dog
All that can be learned in a book.Who cares. You could find another guy to date in an hour.
overthinkig at this point.
Try to know what's on his mind
I won't read this and I'll just say he lost interest on you based on your age
Your are prob probably paranoid
He's lost interest
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