Guys only come or to you if they are really into to you? Why they do eye contact if theyre not?

[Anonymous]

I mean if I guy doesn't approach to you, or make the first mové its bc he is not attracted to you. Or what's the reason? Why they would do eye contact with you if they're not interest d.

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I'm not saying that guys are not allowed to look or should look other parts, I just asking if guys who make eye contact are attracted and why don't approach. Sorry if some people misunderstood what Im trying to say. Maybe I didn't make myself understood very well...

[MrOracle]

Tons of guys (over time) will be interested in you, but won't approach you - or will take forever before they do. Some are shy, some feel they aren't ready to date (maybe they still live at home, or are living with a roommate, or living at a crappy place because it's all they can afford, etc.), or they just feel that you are out of their league and probably have a boyfriend who is better-looking/wealthier/more confident than they are. Add in the #MeToo thing and many guys are afraid to approach women - but to some extent that's always been true.

A guy who approaches you is risking rejection, and that's worse in public and even worse in the era of TikTok when some girls will brutally reject a guy and then go online and complain about such a man approaching her in the first place. Most of the time, the only guys who will approach you are the very confident guys - but many of them are just looking for casual sex. Many of the shy guys would really want a relationship, but can't seem to find the guts to approach you knowing that they're likely to be rejected.

I try to help guys explain that a rejection - while horrible - won't kill you, and that being rejected in a normal and expected part of the game, and that even the most successful players get rejected OFTEN - but many guys still get so nervous that they just can't do it, or want to wait until the "right time" which may never come.

As a girl, YOU can help by giving the guy signs of your interest (assuming you ARE interested - obviously if you aren't, don't do these things). Pay attention to him, say "hello" and "goodbye" to him, cross the room to talk to him, invite/include him in your conversations, break the touch barrier (touch his hand or arm when you talk to him), etc. Guys aren't terribly good at picking up these signs, but if you give him enough of them, then eventually even the thickest skull will not be able to deny that they are signs of interest, and he'll likely take the risk to approach.

[Asker]

Wow! Thaank youuu soo much for this!!

[MrOracle]

Glad to help! Best of luck to you!

[Cozzy81]

I had a mini stroke trying to read this sorry. So, from what I could understand of this. Just because I'm looking at a woman doesn't mean I want or have any interest. I was raised proper so when you look at someone you look them in the eyes. Would you prefer them gawking at other parts?

[Asker]

I just heard that some guys make eye contact bc theyre interested or attracted and my question was about if they made eye contact why they don't approach.. or it's just bc theyre not actually interested.. that's all. I think some people are just missunderstanding what I said... But I get it

[Cozzy81]

Men can be intimidated or shy as well that's not just a girl feeling and most times they may even think or feel you're out of their league and don't bother.

[Asker]

Ohh okey! Thanks by the way

[Cozzy81]

Of course. Sorry if I may have come off rude.

[spartan55]

Huh? So we aren't allowed to look, at anyone unless we approach them? Is that your logic here?

[Asker]

Its different when you look someone than when you try to make eye contact, and thats what im asking actually, why guys do eye contact? Just bc you're... 'looking'?

[Zolly99999]

A lot of men are shy or dont want to get rejected.. women these days are very picky and superficial so it scares them off.