Should I go for it?

Question

So I am talking to this guy I reconnected with at a wedding (ex crush of both of our ironically. Me crush groom and he crushed on the bride). We had so much flirting and crap and we did the deed and such. So recently he admitted that I was his type and I hadn't told him that he was the closest to my type. So recently types were brought up again and he had sent me another one saying the girl he got married so he was getting over her but he recently showed me a screenshot of ours and used my words to "describe her" (me) and I'll admit I was thrown for a loop when he dropped the topic immediately but we still flirt. Some friends are telling me to take a chance and tell him how I feel yet both he and I don't want a relationship mainly because we had some negative experiences regarding our last ones. I don't know what to do but he's headed to another city this weekend and next weekend but he's gonna be staying with a girl he's slept with before so I'm kinda off put by it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Personally I would steer clear of that. If you feel like you’d have issues building a relationship with someone based off past trauma, then you should be single and focus on healing, rather than risk adding another negative situation to your list of bad experiences. I also wouldn’t continue hooking up with him. It’s just that sex complicates things, and I personally don’t know anyone that could be in a friends with benefits scenario that has any real longevity, without someone catching feelings and it’s usually the girl. This only complicates what’s supposed to be an uncomplicated, no strings attached situation and you’ll end up feeling hurt and used.

itz_me · Accepted Answer

That's your chance bro, even tho you don't have a serious relationship for now you should officially confess before he goes cause then he can't flirt with the girl (if he's a nice dude)
GO FOR ITTT!!!
I HOPE YOU ALL THE BEST

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The man seems like he's got options. He doesn't have to settle with you because he has his own pick of the litter. Are you okay with him going away (and possibly never seeing him ever again)? Wait, is he moving away? If you're okay with him being gone, then there's no need to waste energy pursuing something "serious."

Now if he comes around and professes to you, then the ball is in your court.