Why do girls always play mind games?

this is one question I'm sure every freaking guy out there would like to know. the answer to. it would be so much easier if girls jsut came out honestly instead of being tricky and stuff and playing mind games


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  • There are plenty of women out there who are straightforward and honest. I haven't met too many men that can handle that.

    I feel that men have such a warped idea of the type of women they want.

    We have to be innocent, but if we don't put out, we're teases.

    We have to be beautiful, but if we make the effort, we're shallow.

    We have to be happy with the way you are, but if we don't want to change ourselves to suit you, we're difficult.

    We have to be sexy, but other guys notice it, we're sluts.

    And if we tell you the truth and you don't want to hear it, we're ball breaking bitches.

    Most men can't handle a woman that doesn't play games. The ones that are upfront about what they want, the ones who are independent, self sufficient, and don't care what other people think about them. They're the ones who find men because they enjoy the company of the opposite sex, not because they feel incomplete without a man. They are the ones that embrace their sexuality and who would love you for who you are - because they expect exactly the same in return.

    So, some girls play games because they can - you guys keep going for them so why should they stop?

    • SS... I find this brilliant, insightful and interesting. Definitely a foundation for a valuable conversation. Care to communicate seperately about this?

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What Girls Said 10

  • We do not want to put ourselves out there until we know he likes us so we play the gmes to get inside of there heads. To find out what they want, if they like us, and etc. Once we get the information we need then the games stop in some cases.

    However, for me its not that way. I would totally prefer being straight up honest with a guy. If I'm just looking for a booty call I'll him up front. If I am not looking for sex just a friend I tell him. Whatever the situation is I'm honest. I think that's the best way to go.

  • some girls don't play mind games, they are just scared because they have been hurt before, and don't want to let anyone in. If you like a girl, like really like her then tell her. But if you just want to have fun just tell her. Girls just want honesty. So just remember she plays games because she's scared and it's even more sometimes if she really likes u.

  • because, if we're not sure that the guy likes us, we're afraid of rejection just like most guys.

    also many of us realize [hopefully] that if a girl goes after a guy in some way even by just telling him that she likes him then the guy will most likely become passive, which isn't good.

    • Oh nice putting this comment on every answer...it just makes YOU look ever so very stupid. burn!

      plus a guy seems to respect me less and ignore me more whenever I seem to be after him in some way.

  • MOST girls play the mind f*** but the guy cannot give in and keep running back its just like when guys play mind games for example "i think your beautiful" but as soona s another guy looks at you its not okay for you to be pretty. girls will test you and try to find every insecurity you have, if its a long term relationship a girl may get bored and want to leave the reationship but won't want to hurt you so she will push every button you have instead of saying no right of the bat to get YOU to be the one who says I want to leave. she knows you don't like her hanging out with other guys or turning up late or not answering her phone so that's exactly what she is going to do. there are a few handfulls of girls who thinks its fun to mess with a guys head and personally I think its kind of sick! no one should ever have thiere heads f***ed with because itdoesnt just affect them its affects familys too, mothers, brothers, brothers girlfriends, sisters, sisters boyfriends because the siblings are worried about thier brother or sister and that affects thier relatinships

  • For one, not every girl plays mind games. I think it's mostly because they think it will make the guy more interested, whereas actually it defeats the point a bit!

  • im ashamed to say this, but its kind of fun in a way

    it doesn't mean she hates you maybe she's bored

    or she doesn't want to look stupid and fall into a trap

    it can mean anything really depends on the circumstances

    • Is it fun when he contemplates or commits suicide...but you don't think about what goes on in his head.

    • Not fun for me dude, I'm over all that sh*t its stupid.

      i have a friend whos doing it to my other friend and I'm stuck in the middle heaps sh*t.

  • Define mind games.

  • You need to talk to one of your female friends to find out what girls are really like! I think girls also need to talk to guys to get the man's perspective. Remember this:women are about emotions! Men are more pragmatic. I'm generalising but it does hold some weight. Women think about things a lot "oh will he call me?" etc but they worry this comes off as pathetic so they go hot and cold. In truth, they would scare the guy off if they told him every single thing they thought. Its better the way it is I think because men also play mind games. As someone else said on a separate post, its like a game of chess-both men and women play mind games. If a woman seems annoyed and says she's fine, then you can take it that she's not but doesn't want to talk about it/you've just p*ssed her off [which she expects you to understand but you never do!] That's a big one for me. Guys never know when they p*ss me off.

  • Because most male lie to us and hide truth and wanna keep all the things in themself most of the times so we apply tricks or mind games to know when they lie or when they are honest with us.

  • Girls really care about what people think of them. So they are worried about seeming too desperate or stupid.

    And girls also overanalyse EVERYthing.

    It's kind of a bad combination.


What Guys Said 1

  • It's a test. If you can't handle minor frustrations, she's too much woman for you.

    • lol not really, if she's nothing to me, then theys no lose.. I once told a girl if she has nothing to say to me, she should stop talking and wasting my time. because she was annoying and frustrating me, she would start a convo then leave me in the middle for no reason at all